Jealousy over others receivig sympathy/attention

[Lolita]

This is going to sound absolutely horrible. But does anyone else feel even worse when someone else you know is unwell and gets lots of sympathy and attention from others?

Normally this wouldn't bother me but since my depression has started spiralling, seeing others who are unwell getting sympathy and support from other people while i struggle silently is making me feel terrible and even more hopeless!

Am i a horrible person for saying this?? Does anyone else ever feel like this also?

[geoff]

hello Lolita, if other people are getting all the sympathy and attention then people actually know that they are suffering, but perhaps you are hiding your sickness which people do when they get depression first of all, let these people know that you haven't been well for a long time and that you are unable to disclose it in fear that they won't believe you, and the reason why they won't believe you is because on the outside you seem as though there is nothing wrong with you, but deep down you're struggling by yourself.
It's time for you to open up to them as well as going to your doctor so that they can get the ball rolling by suggesting medication and refering you to a psychologist.
Please let us know. Geoff.

[Guest_1055]

Hey Lolita

No I don't think you are a horrible person.... I really admire your honesty. And I am sorry you have been struggling silently, perhaps by doing that you feel even more alone or something.

No I haven't felt jealous when I have seen others suffering, and they are receiving attention etc. But I have felt jealous in other circumstances...... It is like your soul is saying:

"hey what about me, don't I matter to someone, doesn't anyone love me." Or

" aren't I worth enough for you to even notice".

I think when we are in that spiral or very depressed , well that need to feel like we matter and that we are indeed worthwhile is amplified or something. ie depression can cause us to feel like we are not worth anything, or that no body loves us enough.

So sorry Lolita, my thoughts have jumbled all up. So my words may not be clear....

Anyway please don't feel bad because you want to be noticed, loved, looked after, cared about etc. I am pretty sure most of us do in a way.

And yeah..., if others especially loved ones are not aware of your inward struggles, will you could always just be honest and say something like. " I am feeling like no one loves or I am feeling alone at the moment, could you just give me a hug or could we go out somewhere".

Hope you start to feel better soon Lolita.

Take care

Shell xx

[b_rock]

I feel like this when my non mentally challenged friends band around each other ....iv clealy said im not coping Iv broken down in front of them but still there not giving a hoot.... I got a text saying where here but no text asking how I am..ect .. I feel there pretending to care doing the minimum thay can do .... recently I had another brake my partner contacted my friends said shes not doing ok.... my partner is like ... now u watch them band around u .... It been 3 weeks 0 effort... Im over sensitive to it couse I feel alone but I truly think there being shit friends iv had a similar experience with family ....how do I start to feel better about myself when my closes friends and family dont care.....

going back to the question this makes me jealous of everyones relationships

[maxation]

Yes.it bothers me.awhile ago i was in hospital with tubes for breathing.i had a large blood clot in my lung.also pneumonia. It was hard to breath.my mother rang my mobile and wanted me to comfort her cause she had a cold.....yes.a snotty nose. So i dont have any time for other people these days.