I’m not sure what I have

[SomeWeirdBoi]

I have some symptoms of depression and add/adhd

i always have the symptoms of ADD such as forgetfulness and lack of concentration, and I’m usually fidgety and uncomfortable in one spot.

1-2 weeks ago I had my worst episode of depression like stuff. I didn’t feel positivity once for about 2 weeks. I felt useless, and down more than usual, and family got angry because I couldn’t do basic tasks.

I always move very slowly and I never have motivation for anything, even the few things I enjoy. I’ve also lost interest and pleasure in most things the past 1-2 Year’s and now the only things I can enjoy regularly are video games and music.

These things cause me huge problems at home and school. At school I leave big assessments for home and do none at school, but then wait until their almost due and take way longer than I should and almost fall asleep doing it. At home I can’t even remember and follow basic instructions and I always make ridiculous mistakes.

I’m only 15 and the only stress I have is at home when family get annoyed because of my uselessness.

i need to know what I could be diagnosed with, because I want to be sure before I get help or my parents get help for me.

[blondguy]

Hello SomeWeirdBoi

Good on you for looking after your health and posting

Can I ask if you have thought about seeing your school counselor? They are a huge help and will help you understand what is happening. Keep in mind 15 is a tough age as there are high expectations at school and the home life can be topsy turvy too as many parents find these years difficult too

I would avoid Dr Google as there is too much conflicting (and incorrect) information which can sometimes make us feel even more bewildered or scared.

Either a double appointment with your GP or have a chat to your school counselor. Your counselor visit is private and confidential too.

You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by having a talk 🙂

What do you think?

my kind thoughts

Paul

[Peppermintbach]

Hi SomeWeirdBoi,

What a self aware post. I feel you have a lot of insight into your own feelings and struggles. Your recent lack of motivation, lost of interest in things you usually like and general low mood would be horrible to go through. I feel for you...it must all be so exhausting and I see that you’re looking for “answers.”

I certainly don’t think you’re “useless.” It’s clear that you’re very bright and as I said before, self aware, which are both wonderful qualities.

I get why you’re looking for a diagnosis. What you’re saying makes a lot of sense. But I’m sorry, I’m afraid that none of us here can really be suggesting possible diagnoses...

It’s just that we’re basically your everyday people who also struggle with our own mental health issues. Only a visit to your doctor or a psychiatrist can mean a diagnosis. So I’m personally hesitant to start speculating as to what you have/don’t have as I’m neither a doctor or psychiatrist...

On that note, depending on the state that you’re in, the age for confidentiality when seeing a doctor would vary so maybe double check this if you’re worried. Otherwise, I would suggest looking up Headspace online as they work specifically with young people. They have a wealth of free services and info resources so maybe look them up.

Sorry, I’m not sure if I’ve been particularly helpful. But hopefully I’ve helped to make you feel a little heard if nothing else...

You’re most welcome to write again to let us know how things go as we would like to continue supporting you.

Kind and warm thoughts,

Pepper

[therising]

Hi SomeWeirdBoi

I hear your frustration. The ideal scenario would involve you choosing the parent (to talk to) who'd be most sympathetic to your situation. If you explain how you feel and mention looking at GP (aka doctor) support, they will hopefully encourage this proactive approach to changing things for the better. If by some chance your parent of choice won't support the GP idea, just tell them that you want to pursue this angle so as to improve your school performance and your mental well being. This should sway them.

Definitely see a GP, to rule out any underlying issues. Just for example, B12 deficiency can have some debilitating side-effects (poor concentration, forgetfulness, extreme lethargy, signs of depression and so on). If there is a history of B12 deficiency in your family, definitely worth checking out (can be hereditary in some cases). Seeing a GP also presents an opportunity to talk about your mental health and receive a bit of guidance and direction.

Gravitating towards video games and music is understandable, as we tend to invest ourselves in the things that give us joy. It can be hard to find the perfect balance of alone time and social interaction or getting outside (especially if you're down) but it is important to seek some natural highs that provide multifaceted payoffs, such as physical activity (feeding body, mind and spirit).

By the way, don't let anyone tell you you're useless or lazy. That's the sort of talk that can lead us into some pretty dark territory, especially when we start to believe it. Trust your instincts and the fact they are telling you that you need help and guidance. Remember, we aren't born into this world with an instruction manual; understanding ourselves isn't always straight forward. Again, push the issue with your parents that you need help.

My #1 piece of advice would be to seek guidance and support from a responsible adult in your life who is sympathetic to mental health issues. It makes all the difference. Having dealt with depression in the past (and having overcome it), I speak with my 13 and 16 year old kids about the importance of keeping good mental health. I have always reassured them I will be there for them in support of whatever guidance they wish to take, if need be, whether it be personal or professional counseling. Getting the best support is key no matter a person's age or situation.

Take care and be proud of yourself for reaching out - a true sign of maturity and self-responsibility.