i feel like im missing out on so much

[sadgirlhours]

hey,

i'm a 15 year old girl and i just feel like i've missed out on so much. i know what i'm about to say sounds very dumb and its such a first world problem and i feel bad saying it cuz there are starving children in africa and my problems are so insignificant and petty 😞 but i guess i'll just say it because i want to get it off my chest.

as a kid i didn't grow up watching disney or nickelodeon. i do remember watching barney but that's it. now its nearly the end of the decade and people are all talking about old disney shows and reminiscing in their childhoods. and since i never watched those shows as a kid it just makes me feel like i missed out on a lot. before you say anything, yes, i know i can just watch the shows now. BUT, IT'S DIFFERENT. watching shows as a kid and looking back at it when i grow up feels very very different compared to watching a kids show in my teens just so i can talk to people about it.

i just feel like i missed out on a lot as a kid and now the decade is ending my childhood is also ending and that makes me extremely depressed. we only get one childhood. ONE ONLY, AND I MESSED UP ON MINE. MY CHILDHOOD SUCKED 😞 and that's fine i suppose i can make up for it by having a great teenage life. but no. i only have one friend that i'm comfortable hanging out with and she lives in england while i live in australia. i don't have a group of friends to mess around and have fun with. i just feel like i'm missing out on the "teenage experience". we only get one life and i'm ruining it, messing it up. i want to relive and improve parts of my life, but sadly, i cannot.

missing out just makes me so anxious and depressed and i don't know what to do

please help

[Aaronsis]

Hey sadgirlhours

I am so very sorry you are feeling so very bad about your childhood and that you feel like you have missed out on so much and that you haven't had the childhood that you had hoped for. It is really sad when we look around at other people and feel like our life is not like theirs and not what you had hoped. I too have so much regret about things in my childhood and I am 44 now, the thing is to not let it dictate the future.

You are so brave to reach out here and get some support and some comfort, we are here for you to talk about anything you like and to listen to how you are feeling.

You are right in that you can make up for it but I think if you don't make peace with your childhood it will come back in other ways, like now when you are feeling so bad about it and you feel like you have messed up. I just wanted to acknowledge Disney...anyone at and age can enjoy that, start now, I know this was just an example but make a special night for yourself, grab some popcorn and let yourself enjoy it, watch them all over a few months and enjoy it, embrace it and then know you have had that experience.

Making friends is so very hard, it is really shitty when you don't feel like you have a best person in your life. It will happen though, it does take time and please don't put pressure on yourself to "find" your best friend. Get on with being you and making this life the best you can and your people will be attracted to you and you will find them.

If you feel you need to talk to someone there is the amazing people at Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 who will have some tips for you too and will talk to you about how you are feeling, they are so wonderful.

Also is the school counsellor an option? I know school is almost out this year but perhaps that is something you can think about for next year to get some support.

Hope to chat to you some more.

Huge hugs

AS