dear Katatonic, I also loved the warmth from these replies back to you, and it's so reassuring that there love for you here.
Although I loved my Mum and Dad so much I haven't been down to their grave site which is at the Necropolis in Melbourne, personally I wouldn't think that it would make me feel closer to them than how I feel now, whereas others feel differently.
Your idea of planting the rose bushes could be no better, because you will see them everyday, and even when winter comes wouldn't make much difference, because the enjoyment of when they begin to sprout is truth that they are alive in nature.
When you were first married must have been about the same age as I was, but we had so much to learn, but I'm sure that it had put so much strain on you, and could have quite easily been detrimental to your health.
I can understand the decision that you will have to make, seems to you to be a no-win situation either way, but then you have such a large family base who would adore you, just like you adore them, but the effort to cuddle any of them would be impossible because of your damaged sternum, but it must be something that you want for so much, to be able squeeze your grand kids, enjoy their funny little laughs and the jokes that they may have, as well as for yourself to have a decent laugh.
I can't empathise any more than the recovery time maybe lengthy and the pain will be there, there's no mistaking this, however in the long run you will able to run up to your grand kids and give them the squeeze that you long desire for.
Your doctors desperately want you to have the operation, and as much as you don't look forward to it.
I don't want to have another hip operation which is no where as serious as yours, but I know that I would be better off, and this would enable me to have run with my 2 beautiful grand daughters.
I know it's a difficult decision for you, but the long term benefits far outweigh the negatives, but please reply back to us. L Geoff. x
