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Hi everyone,
I’ve just joined and hoping someone has some insights. I’ve got chronic depression (not sure if anything else), diagnosed about 15 yrs ago but I reckon I’ve probably had for much longer.
I saw psychiatrist/s and psychologist/s for a long time but not really at the moment and I don’t share a lot of my thoughts and feelings with my partner, family or friends.
I sort of feel like because I more or less cycle in and out of varying levels of sadness, that I don’t want people to know about it and worry or know that they can’t do anything.
The trouble is I end up bottling things up I suppose.
Does anyone else feel like this? How do you balance sharing information with people and being authentic, with the other side?
Do you think I just need to always have a counsellor, etc., a third party who isn’t personally invested?
Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
S.
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No worries at all, thanks for sharing your thoughts. Yeah I get what you mean on the endless cycle of thoughts, sometimes I feel like I'm back to square one where it's always the same problem I have to deal with.
That's interesting - reading aloud what I journal to someone who isn't personally invested. Never tried that before. Maybe I will.
I relate to not knowing how much to share with those who are close to me too. I know in theory that our loved ones are there not just to share in our joys but in our burdens as well, but I find it hard to share when I know they will feel hurt too. When it gets too much to think about - content and delivery, sometimes I give up altogether and not share at all. That said, I am still for the idea of sharing whatever you're thinking about with your loved ones. I realise it helps them become more understanding of your behaviours and it's a comfort to know they care even if they feel they are unable to help a great deal. Also, I think sharing your problems with your loved ones doesn't equate to placing higher importance on your problems than theirs. It is possible for that to happen, but I doubt you would let that happen, seeing how you are aware of the possibility. If anything, I think opening up to your loved ones will only deepen your relationship with them. You'll see how much they actually care for you (partner/parents), and they'll see how much you care for them too. The stuff I tell you is what I tell myself too. I still struggle with adopting a right mindset. But yeah, one day at a time.
Anyway, besides journaling, I find humour really helpful too. I used to watch comedies to make myself feel better growing up, or just to get a break from ruminating. And sleep - lots of it. Getting out of the house and into natural surroundings, especially places where I can just stare out into the sea is really calming/comforting sometimes too. Staring at rivers/lakes/water bodies in general makes me feel more at peace.
Thanks for being a sounding board haha.
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Hello SYork
Good on you for having the courage to write such an excellent thread topic!
You are not alone here at all. My depression developed after I didnt treat my anxiety attacks properly. I thought that natural remedies would help....for me they didnt. After 10-15 years my depression/anxiety became worse as a result of not seeing a counselor frequently enough (I used to think every 10 months was okay...whoops)
I also used to think that 'bottling' it up was 'comfortable'. Having frequent counseling is a great method to find some peace in our lives. Even having double appointments with our GP can being great relief from our suffering too
To answer your thread topic question....I have even told my postie that I have depression as an illness and he knew people that had the same health problem too
I really hope you can stick around the forums SYork . You are really proactive with your health by being a part of the forums.
You mentioned "'Ive recently started telling people, at work, some friends, about depression and having to switch medications, etc. I know it's hard, but people really do surprise you sometimes with how supportive they are"
You are amazing SYork and great to have you here as part of the forum family!
If you have any questions/queries please ask what you wish. The forums are a safe and non judgemental place for you to post on
my kind thoughts
Paul
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Hi SYork, being 2 hours away does make a big difference and I'm sorry about this, I just wonder whether there is a counsellor who comes to your town every week or comes to
The other option is to go and see a counsellor 2 hours away, ( and I'm sorry for saying this ) and ask them if they can counsel you over the phone or by
The one thing we never think of when we move 2 hours away is the possibility we might need counselling.
Please let me know.
Geoff.
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Thanks Geoff, yeah Skype is good, I speak with a psychiatrist over VC, I will prioritise finding a counsellor.
I really appreciate your kind words. i hope you are going well, I would love to return the favour if needed.
S
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Hello SYork, thanks and I'm sure you will one day.
All the best and please get in contact.
Geoff.
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