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[Thelastbullet55]

Hi, my name is Andrian

I recently posted a thread "Stressing over everything and anything" but i've came across another problem

I've moved in with my girlfriend, because we were both kicked out of my own home down in Wollongong. At first I didn't want to move in because I knew that staying here I would have to put up with my girlfriend's mother and sister treating her like shit. But since i've been staying i've been getting bad treatment as well. Especially from her sister. My girlfriend and I are treated horribly and her mother doesn't do nothing. We get called c**t and get told to shut up when we are loud but when she loud its okay. We 'd have an argument, got nothing to do with her and we get told to shut up and get our face slammed by her, slamming the door.  Recently whilst I was cooking dinner for my girlfriend and I, I accidentally left the gas on, i know stupid. Her sister caught me and told me about it. I apologized and laughed it off, but as she storms off to the other room I could hear her say "Your boyfriend is dumb, pathetic and can't do anything. He should f**k off out of our house," Obviously, this hurt my feeling so basically I am kicked out of my girlfriend place and have no where else to go. 

This is not the only thing that happens, my girlfriend get the worse treatment of all. She ask her mother to hang out with her, get a coffee or something but her mother will always say no because she want to hang out with her sister. No matter how many time she ask. Her mother says no, if she ask her to do something for her she wont but she will for her sister.This not only affect my girlfriend but it affect me cause i have to pick up the pieces everyday and dont get any joy all day because my girlfriend is too upset to do anything or go anywhere. My girlfriend will do nothing all day and sleep and i would have to cause im bored. My girlfriend get told she is dumb and stupid too and can't do anything as well and get told she is selfish and never thinks of others but she always helping her mother out with cleaning and paying for the shopping when her mother can't when she could be using that money for her bills. My girlfriend get verbally and occasionally physically abused for something she never did. I try to stand up for her but I am too much of a coward. Basically because I never had to stand up for myself

We are miserable and I am on the verge of suicide (but I won't). We need your help, we are both currently unemployed but looking for a job so we can collect some money to move out. Everything is become too much for us and our relationship is falling apart because of her sister and mother. We have no friends or family to turn to. Our only best option i can think of is take  an offer from a coworker to live with him and move out. But my girlfriend is reluctant to move out. Please help us

[Chris_B]

Hi Thelastbullet55,

I'm really concerned to read you're on the verge of suicide, even though you say you won't do it.  At the very least, it sounds like you're feeling very down, and the place you're living in will not be helping.

I would suggest getting in touch with a doctor to talk over what you've been going through, and perhaps get a referral for some counselling.

If you have a co-worker who is offering you a space to move out, then based on what you have said above, I would say it is worth considering for the sake of your own health.  

Hopefully, your girlfriend will realise that the environment is not a good one and that a move is needed too, but you can't make decisions on her behalf.

Please take care of your own health first, otherwise you won't be in a position to be able to support her.

Remember you can call the beyondblue support line at any time, 24/7, on 1300 22 46 36 to discuss any of these issues.

Take care mate, and let us know how you go.

Does anyone else have advice to share?

best
CB

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