Feeling Low

[Lolue]

Hi,

I'm stating to feel really low and negative about myself and my depression is starting to rear its ugly head. I keep questioning why am I here as I feel I don't have a purpose and keep thinking negatively about myself.

I'm 26 currently living with my parents I've been saving for house which I've done really well but the housing market just always seems to hard to get into and I feel like singles and millennials are automatically set up to fail as the market at the moment seems like it's set up to benefit investors. It's always been my dream to own a home and would love to buy a old home and renovate it I love restoration projects. However it's really deflating seeing old properties overpriced online and you know some investor is just going to knock it down and build a new modern town house on top.

My love life is also a bit of a mess I was friends with benefits with a guy for 9 months we recently had the big what are we talk. I wanted a relationship he's young and polyamourous so he didn't want a relationship as I'm not polyamourous and even though I said I would be fine with it he knew deep.down that I wouldn't and he didn't want to hurt me. We want to stay friends but it's very painful for me at the moment and it's hard cause he had become my best friend. It's also hard as I'm in Melbourne in lockdown.

One of the things that sucked was that he said I'm so put together with my career and how I'm a good saver and tried to use the whole I deserve so One better argument. This hurt the most as I don't care about my career I would give it all up for the person I love and I don't feel like I have my life together.

I feel like all I want in life is to be happy with someone I love in a house of my own where I feel safe and create amazing memories.

[Billiee]

Hi Lolue,

Thank you for reaching out, it sounds like your going through a difficult time but you can pull yourself out of this mindset.

Saving for a house is such an exciting time, that is such a great achievement and you should be very proud of yourself. Not everyone has the determination to want to buy on their own. Don't get discouraged about the price of properties, the right one will come along that you will be able to call home.

I imagine it would be hard living with your family but just remember that this is only temporary and is a stepping stone to where you want to be.

Is there a family member or friend you could have a chat to about how your feeling? it is strange times at the moment and it is hard to make genuine connections so try not to put too much pressure on yourself to find the one. Take care and please reach out some more if you feel the need.

Billiee