Dreams, goals and ambitions

[Griffo2727]

Hey.

So one of the biggest struggles I have is that I can never really remember and still don't have any dreams. My goals are simply to be happy but I don't know what actually makes me happy!

I guess I lack ambition too.

So I guess where have others gone to find goals and dreams?, which hopefully leads to the ambition.

[geoff]

hi Griffo, I'm really sad and deeply upset that you are going through this because each and every one of us wants to find happiness in life but depression will prevent this from happening.

We may not know that this happening because sometimes it happens slowly or it could just happen on the spur of the moment.

Happiness in depression can only happen when we are pretending, and what used to make us happy may not be the case any longer, as it happened to me, but now I have found different choices in life, completely different to what I used to love doing.

Forgive yourself, this isn't your fault, remember ambition comes from desire, experience, and you want to be happy, then that's a dream, but please go and see your doctor, talk with a psychologist to try and open up what you want in life. Geoff.

[Peppermintbach]

Hi Griffo2727,

I would like to give you a caring welcome if that’s alright with you 🙂

I can definitely relate to your post as I feel many others can. You seem perhaps lost, uncertain and down.

I think it’s really painful and frustrating when you just basically want your mood to lift yet don’t know what will make your mood lift either. I have definitely been in a similar emotional state before (I still am, in a way).

My psychologist said something interesting to me this week that I thought that I would share with you. It may not be relevant to you but perhaps it’s at least food for thought?

He said that sometimes we have to change behaviours first before we see a change in our emotional responses or mood because when we change behaviours, it shifts emotional patterns in our brain. As I said, I don’t know if this is relevant to you but I thought that I would share anyway...

I’m thinking of you and understand you’re really struggling at the moment.

I hope you feel comfortable to write as often as you like but there’s no pressure of course 🙂

Caring thoughts,

Pepper

[Elizabeth CP]

Hi, Some time ago I was struggling. Because of my circumstances things I previously enjoyed were no longer suitable or i no longer enjoyed them. I needed to find things I could do which were relaxing or enjoyable or even took my mind off my problems. I did a brainstorming session by myself writing down anything I thought could be OK. I even googled relaxing activities or things to do to make you happy to get ideas. The idea is not to overthink this or worry about getting things you know will work. Once I had my list when I had time I would pick an item off the list to try. If it isn't ideal you have learnt something NOT failed. Sometimes it can take effort to force yourself out of a rut. Last Saturday I felt really down felt like doing nothing but this had been a pattern for days making me steadily worse. I forced myself to go to a nearby lake with my husband & went swimming. I left the lake feeling pleasantly tired from the exercise rather than exhausted like I was before. I felt less stressed & my mood was far better. Obviously it isn't an instant fix. I went back to the lake yesterday as I was slipping into a depressed state again. What will work for you will be different to other people but until you try things you won't know what will help. Hopefully in time you will find what sort of things you really enjoy or what makes you want to keep improving so the dream, goals & ambitions will coms. Good luck