Dont know what to do ?????

[Jen65]

Hi, Ive decided on joining here for some help, advice as Im at a loss. I cant cope with day to day life I feel like I just exist. I cant handle any sort of pressure nor the question how are you today I just dont want to answer.

Ive been to the doctor which took a lot of courage, after explaining the sleepless nights, the worrying, feeling like a failure, and all I got was a list fo questions to answer, told i have depression and told to take St. John Worts tablets which in turn gave me a reaction whereby my face swelled up and now its taken 5 days to recover from that.

All I want to do is cry I don't know what to do, i don't want to see a therapist but I do want help.

Im so jealous to see people happy I want to be like that and no matter how I try I just cant nothing makes me happy 😞

I want to go and see another doctor but the I dont want to go through those questions they ask again and again it makes me feel worse and stupid.

I cant believe im even here typing this feel stupid doing this too but what do you do.

[JessF]

Hello Jen65, welcome here to the forums, it sounds like everything is on top of you at the moment, and your attempts to get help so far have left you feeling worse. It's horrible when we finally work up the courage to reach out and it doesn't go smoothly. It's good that you are still focused on seeing a different doctor (a very good idea, that first doctor didn't sound like he or she was very switched on at all), but you're exhausted at the moment.

I would say don't feel you have to do anything right at this minute. Give yourself a little bit of time to breathe and recharge and plan your next step.

It sounds like you're looking at others, seeing them happy, and it's where you want to be, but it feel so far away at the moment and that makes you feel worse. That makes sense. Standing at the bottom of a mountain and looking up, it can be impossible to believe that getting to the top would ever be possible, but it is, just one step at a time and, most importantly, when you are ready to take that journey.

When I'm very overwhelmed, I try to narrow my focus right down to what's in front of me that day, that hour, the next ten minutes even. Once you've calmed, things will become clearer. Don't give up just yet.

[Bethie]

Hi Jen

Im no doctor but that sounds so wrong. I don't think you would need to redo the questions. I know bulk bill clinics where I live have like 6 doctors on a time and they can all see patient records. If you can please don't give up. Ask to see a different doctor and explain what happened and how you had a bad reaction. If your comfortable ask to try a prescription.

Please keep posting to let us all know how you are both good or bad.

Your not alone in any of this. Alot of people on here have gone through similar

[Lilybell]

Hi Jen,

How disappointing for you to have plucked up the courage to see a doctor only to have that experience, it sounds like a real let down.

It sounds like you might have filled out a screening tool to diagnose depression, but a good assessment will also include a conversation to get a better picture of your situation.

BB has a list of practitioners including GPs, it would be worth calling and asking for a referral to a doctor who understands mental health. You can then request a double appointment so there is plenty of time.

Counselling can be very helpful so perhaps give it some thought, maybe the folks here can share some experiences of counselling. I personally have found it very helpful to talk to someone who can help me work through and understand the stuff in my head, but I know it can be tough to take the first step.

I hope you’re feeling ok about having posted here now, I’m new too, looking to give and receive support 🙂

[SoupForTheSoul]

Hello Jen65,

I'm pretty new here too, but the community seems very nice and i'm sure that everyone wants to help. I'm not really good at helping with these sorts of things, but a few things that i find help make me happy when i'm feeling like that is being near people who understand that you need their support. Do you have anyone like that that you can lean on? Family or friends can be a great help. Also, and i know this is gonna sound super terrible, but just going out with your friends to the movies or the park or something can help make you feel a bit better. And if you're feeling left out in groups or like the third wheel you can just try one-on-one hangouts. I know that all the advice im giving right now is kinda not great but please don't give up on yourself. And you should definitely try going to a different doctor. And i know that meeting a therapist is a whole ordeal, and that sometimes it just doesn't work out because ive been in that situation. I once had a psych who reminded me so much of my aunt that i couldnt open up at all, and another psych whose tone made me feel like i was a 10 year old who just did something wrong. But a good psych can be super helpful. I feel super at ease with my current psych and we've only had a few sessions together. If you don't feel 100% comfortable with your psych or doctor you can totally ask to see someone else. They'll understand that not everyone can just fit together and that some people just don't match. I hope that if you do go to see someone that they can be a friend when you need them and will give you the support you need.

Please don't give up, everyone is here for you,

Soup ❤️

[Renee2121]

Hi Jen I’m the same way they tell me take this take that but no one is actually hearing me. I feel depressed so bad!! I understand what ur going through it’s so hard!

[geoff]

hi Jen, I'm sorry that you have been given the wrong advice from a doctor, maybe your own, but it's inexcusable, depression can never be treated lightly.
There is no answer when someone asks you how you are if you have depression, nothing that could involve a decent conversation, it's always brushed off and for this present doctor to say take St John Wort is not a proper diagnosis to help you along.
We see people laughing and smiling everyday so we naturally think they are happy, but in depression you can laugh and smile, it's happened to me many times, however when this situation ends, then you can go back into your cave.
You need to find another doctor who is honestly genuine in wanting to help you and before you see them write down everything that comes to mind, but in the list tell them of all of what happened before and how uncomfortable it made you feel, they need to be told, plus can I suggest you do the K-10 test, it's a depression test, but do it several times, but not right after another, then hand this over to the doctor, this will break the ice. Geoff.

[Tasa83]

You are not stupid for asking for help.

I understand doctors can just ask lots of questions that don’t seem to help and then give you a quick diagnosis and some pills.

Medication can help but it can take a while to find the right ones. Same with finding a good doctor. It may feel like a hassle but it is worth trying again. Anything is worth trying to lift you out of the darkness.

I hope you find someone who can help you. I know what it is like to look around and see happy people and be envious. It feels awful.

[Lilybell]

Such a good point about appearing happy and laughing, some people can put on a happy mask and seem totally okay, you’d never know that they might be struggling on the inside.

[EJG]

You are not stupid.

There are excellent doctors out there, I can vouch for that. Coming across the one you saw sounds like a glitch in your journey which you will encounter from time to time yet you will find a good one who will patiently listen and go at your pace and be guided by you.

I tend to believe that a fair few people wear masks and/or have been through their own dark period just like you. As a society we're just not great at being real with each other.

Hang in there x