depression: I need some coping skills

[beyond_this]

having had depression for over 15 years or as long as I can remember it is only last year that i got myself some formal help. with a family history on both sides with bipolar,depression and anxiety I feel like I really have no chance. But I dont want to be sad and alone forever.

right now Im beginning to feel depressed again after a relationship break up, I am feeling sad and crying a lot about past events that I feel my mind is obsessing about changing. Its like my brain wants to feel the pain over and over. I cant handle it anymore. my phycologist appointment is not till next tuesday and I dont want to go anywhere else for help e.g. doctor again, another phycologist.. this reaching out, even though just over an online forum is helping me feel a bit better..what can help me through over the next couple of days?

[geoff]

dear Beyond, we can hear you and want to help you as best as we can.

By having family histories on both sides means a great deal for you to contend with, and which is worse bipolar, depression or anxiety, well they all have their downfalls, and if you have either of them then that's the one that is the worst, because it's an illness that restricts you and damages your well being.

I am wondering whether or not you are suffering from OCD which in turn is causing your anxiety, and it in turn 'wants your brain to feel the pain over and over', so maybe it's an obsession.

Having a relationship break up is sole destroying, as it eliminates all the good times that you once had, and now all of those memories are all gone.

There are many things you could do over the next few days, but these maybe hindered by your depression, which could make you feel as though you couldn't give a damn, however are you in a position to be able to communicate with your partner and find a solution to the problems that have occurred.

The general theory is to do some walking or any exercising, but I would try and find a friend who can be with you, because being alone your situation will only become worse, which in turn may make you not go to your appointment.

This friend should stay with you if that's possible.

Please reply back to us as it's going to be a few days of sadness. Geoff.

[Buddy]

I am having an extremely tough time dealing with not being able to socialise with people. It is really doing my head in big time. To the point of wanting to post comments on facebook (attention seeking I guess). This is NOT normally my personality type. But I'm frustrated about not being able to get out.

I would also like to thank Beyond Blue for being so incredibly thoughtful, patient and understanding, I know I have already tested your patience. Thank you again from my heart. 🙂

I want to join a gym but all my searches have proved too expensive whilst on concession and only doing occassional temp work.

Anyone know any gyms in melbourne that offer concession rates for their memberships please?

[beyond_this]

Hi Geoff,

thank you. and interesting about the ocd.. I have never heard that before. I have been able to attend work and tomorrow i will do the same. when I am around people I am much better it is just when alone, even driving home - my thoughts just kick into overdrive with the obsessive memories of pain.

ill check in again before therapy .

[geoff]

dear Beyond, people like myself with OCD which I have had for 54 years, do have obsessive thoughts, so google it and see if you do relate to it. Geoff.

[geoff]

dear Buddy, I have googled for monthly payments for a gym in which there are a few, but under the rules I can't mention their names, however try 'anytime fitness' on the net and see where that takes you.

At any of these gyms you will meet people because you have to be a bit careful with facebook, I know it's handy to talk to people but what about using skype, let us know how you go. Geoff.

[beyond_this]

alot has got better since I have started therapy. I do not OCD my ruminations are linked to my serve depression.  thank you for the guidance when I needed so badly . I am in such a different place now and feeling very supported and helped.