Hi Mag2,
Firstly welcome to the community here, and second, congratulations for having the guts to go out there and be diagnosed. Myself and my family have the belief my husband too is on the spectrum but he reuses to do anything about it.
For me, once I have been diagnosed with something, than I have the knowledge of what is ailing me. I can ask my Dr more questions, Google info ( which I then ask my Dr to confirm or deny as being relevant) borrow books from the library about the condition and find ways to make living with something easier on myself and others.
My mind entertains me with depression, stress, Borderline Personality Disorder, PTSD and what ever else the Drs have diagnosed me with.
The thing is, yes I have the diagnosis, but my illness does not need to define who I am. I have worked on the Borderline Personality Disorder and life is easier to live for me and others.
Being aware is the first step to being able to move on. Acknowledging regret is beneficial in my book too as it means you are aware. My husband just blurts out any old thing and has no idea why I sometimes become upset by his comments.
You have the opportunity to speak with your wife, to say you are sorry, to know you do not do this on purpose! Maybe you and your wife can work out a system. If your words are upsetting her, she may be able to just ask you to please stop, or for her to walk away.
It is not always possible to control what we say or do. We can acknowledge how people react to us. It is not the "US" bit of ourselves that we and others have so much trouble with at times, it is the conditions and illnesses.
As you can see, I don't usually do short responses! Hope some of this helps you.
Cheers for now from Dools
