Depressed Mum

[Boch]

My partner walked out in me seven months ago and I feel like I'm not coping. I have 3 children ages 2,7 and 12. My oldest two are from a previous marriage. My ex is living in another town so doesn't see his son much. I feel like everything is too much and I can't sleep at night. I used to love life but now I don't feel happy anymore. I know I should snap out of it and I try to stay strong for the kids but I find each day a struggle. I did go to see a doctor but he wouldn't give me antidepressants as he said it just seemed like it was situational. 

[Indra]

Hi Boch,

Welcometo BB firstly. I have been through similar to you - not once, but twice. 

It is really hard to cope on your own at times - the loneliness I find the hardest part. You do need to stay strong for your kids though, they rely on us.

Sorry to hear that your GP wasn't very supportive - have you considered another GP for a second opinion? Are there are any support groups or parent groups in your area? Definitely worth a look.

Do you have any friends or a family support network? 

I don't sleep very well either - but there are some natural remedies you could try - calm drops or chamomile tea perhaps? Or try reading or even just watching tv to help you wind down.

If anything else, the forums here are full if people that care and will listen.

Try and stay strong Boch and hope that life becomes a bit lighter for you. An ear hear anytime.

Cheers 

Indra 

[Neil_1]

Hi there boch

I too would like to welcome you to Beyond Blue.

It’s great to read that Indra has responded to you and has given you a lovely post and also asked a couple of questions, so hoping you might be able to get back to us on that, cause we as fellow sufferers, if we can find a little bit more about the background, then we might be better placed to provide you with more appropriate advice, if we can.

The other thing I would be trying is to seek out an alternative doctor.  On this site, Beyond Blue have provided a list of gp’s to be searched for;  the thing with these gp’s are that they are all experienced in dealing with mental health issues and so from that, they will be best advised on providing you with their diagnosis of your situation and for possible help through, relevant counselling if needed.  They may prescribe you some medication to assist, if they see fit to also.

Would love to hear back from you.

Neil

[Boch]

Hi Indra thanks for replying to me. I have my parents for support. They are really great. They tell me to snap out of it for my kids sake. It's frustrating for them to  see me like this. I am going to see another doctor today and ask for antidepressants. I didn't sleep at all last night. I don't really have many friends. 

[Boch]

Hi Neil thanks for replying. I'm 35 and I'm divorced. I have two kids to my ex husband and one to my ex partner. We broke up before Christmas last year. Since then I've been feeling very low and just feel like all the joy is gone from my life. I didn't sleep at all last night. I am going to see another doctor today. Thanks for listening.