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SLSTR
Community Member

I need some assistance with something that is bothering me. My dad sits up most nights after dinner and ignores the family and plays a computer gambling casino game for hours. This happens most nights, recently he has been very angry again and I think he is depressed with his life situation he told me today he did not want to see other members of our family because he is "sick of hearing about their holidays and good things they are doing". I feel like he avoiding the family or maybe he is just winding down each night but I feel its not healthy.. what should I do hes 74, it may seem fun and harmless but i feel it could be a behavioral addiction.

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Croix
Community Champion
Community Champion

Dear SLSTR~

Welcome back. I know you have been concerned about your dad for some time now and have said he may be suffering from depression brought on by losing the house and his own dad.

 

It is very sad that he cannot enjoy being with his own family, and finds the fact they have reasonable lives tends to rub it in that his is not what he would have liked.

 

Between loss, disappointment, grief and a heavy work schedule he has a fair amount of pressure on him, and while I'm no doctor I would not be surprised if his gambling of an evening is an effort to distract and occupy himself in a world where he just concentrates on the game to exclude everything else.

 

May I ask if you have discussed this wiht him directly? Also perhaps wiht you mum?

 

There is information about problem gambling here:

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/gambling-addiction

Which has a couple of places to seek advice.

 

You may be right it stems from depression however really speaking the only person that  can assist is realy a medical professional.

 

You did say he'd been prepared to go to church counseling a couple of times - do you think he might be persuaded to see his GP and explain how he feels?

 

Please let me know what you think

 

Croix

 

 

On The Road
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Hi SLSTR,

It's great to see you care about your dad and the relationship with the family, and he's being supported by you; your concern is valid. It is worrying to see someone you love has been suffering from depression and may be drawn into the virtual game world to avoid things they don't wanna deal with. I personally know someone retired who would spend hours and hours on the computer, despite that he already had health issues, it's sad that his kids and families don't care that much. 

As Croix suggested, you may wanna communicate with him since it might be addictive. In my personal opinion, it is acceptable to have some fun times after meals to make the night more relaxed, as he's supported and concerned by his family members. He won't be lost. 

But if things are getting worse, that gaming actually has made him more irritable, caused depressive symptoms, then you need serious talks with him and try to encourage him to see professionals.