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Alone with worry

Alonewiththoughts
Community Member

I feel so sad and lonely with no one to talk to. I am struggling at work now and decisions are so hard I feel useless. I dont have anyone that understands

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi, welcome

Many of us here get the same feelings. It could be one of many things.

Please give us more information like are you male or female, do you have personal reasons for sadness, any other info that can help us understand your situation

Tony WK

Peppermintbach
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

Hi Alonewiththoughts,

I think your username ("alone with thoughts") and post says it all. The loneliness and melancholy really comes across loud and clear. I hear the pain and hurt. It must be hard...

As Tony WK touched on, we would like to learn more about you. So if you feel comfortable, would you like to tell us more about yourself so we can hopefully understand you a bit better? In saying that, there's no pressure- only share what you feel comfortable sharing.

kind thoughts,

Pepper

Alonewiththoughts
Community Member

I am a female and I have battled this all my life I guess. I have been able to manage it mostly. But I lost my younger brother in September 2 2016 then my grandpa March 2017 . Two day after my grandpa's funeral my partner of 5 years ended our relationship. So now I feel so alone and work it hard so often. My weekends are spent alone most times driving alone to hid my pain. I dont know what to do

Hi alone

Thanks for that information, its crutial really and Im sad for your losses, 3, in such a short time.

Its very important we give ourselves time to grieve and that time frame depends solely in the individual. Dont listen to anyone that tells you to "get over it".

It does appear however, due to how lonely you feel now, that you are ready to find good company. Finding new friends wont be easy but the process, if looked upon like a new adventure will produce results.

Your local community should have soft sports like badminton table tennis volleyball etc theatre actinng art etc. Scary at first but it works. If you havent got a pet consider a dog of a certain suitable breed and join a club. Our mini foxy is great company.

Finally, online dating. It is much improved now. Onviously be safe about it and you can use skype and ohone to scan their personalities first. It can work. My daughter married her on line date this year. It works because you can scan their interests and profession etc before contact.

I wish you well

Tony WK