a mattyj update

[guest75]

Well just got back from court

She arrived with a guy this morning, so no idea what that means...but then a girl arrived a little later

We sat around for hours (case was heard at 12:45, we arrived at court at 8:30)

My lawyer got her to agree to a 6 month order with just her listed - NOT the children, so that is a win at least, but i guess i know her feelings towards me, and at least i can feel free to pursue Katy (or someone else) now - without any admission of guilt from me

So i will still have access to the kids, but will only be on weekends...we have to arrange some sort of mediation to get an agreement in place

Now i have to go back to my lawyer to get some of our savings money back so i can set myself up (dont want to continue living with my mum) and to put our house on the market, i am not letting her just keep everything we worked for together - i worked some horrible jobs so we could buy that house....now i have to start all over again

[guest75]

Thanks Jo

The anxiety dropping is just like a huge weight released, i just wish it couldve happened 6 weeks ago, i might have got to the point im at now a lot quicker, but such is life i guess, things happened they way they happened for a reason so they say

I hope things work out with katy too but not pinning too much hope on anything just yet

It will be interesting when she gets the lawyers letter telling her she has to sell the house, i dont think she will be expecting it. And if she hadnt cheated i would probably have just signed my half over to her.

Thank you once again for your support during the whole process you and the others of this forum have been fantasic. I am definitely not leaving though i want to help/support others the way i was in my time of crisis

Matty

[Jo3]

Hey Matty

Just thinking of you and hoping your weekend goes well with Katy.  

When do you get to see the kids now?

Have a nice weekend, chat again soon

Jo

[guest75]

Hi Jo

Fingers crossed it goes well 🙂

Im not sure when I will see them next im pretty sure they are at her mums at the minute, my lawyer was less than impressed when i said i hadnt seen them since new years "thats not good enough" were his exact words

I have to go and see a mediator next week and they will organise something between Tara and myself for access to the kids, im thinking its only going to be every 2nd weekend , but its better than nothing at this stage...

Thanks again

[helpmeplease]

Hi Matty,

Its good to hear you are looking at the future with a positive outlook.

Good luck on the weekend with Katy, just take thing slowly and I am sure things will work out just fine.

Its good to hear that you think at least one of your children might want to live with you.

If you not happy with just every other weekend visits maybe try and see if you can have them for even just a few hours say once a week as well.

keep that chin up Matty you are doing so well we are all proud of how far you have come in the last few weeks.

HMP

[Girl_Anachronism]

Hi Matty,

I know I am a little late to the party but I just wanted to say congratulations on getting yourself through the big court date. You seem to have handled yourself well by all accounts and there is a plan in place for both your future and time with the kids.

It's a a difficult process but you will make it through.

GA