The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Aaronsis]

Hello my dear friend, welcome home T xx I bet you are so super duper happy to be home!! I am sure that little piglet does not refer to you as the old bat...lol..I love that she is super clingy to you and really does show you how much she loves you and misses you, probably a ploy so she doesn't have to go back to jail..lol

I have made a better wardrobe choice today so yes, much happier here than the other day..lol..there is nothing worse than being cold!

Your dreams sound really intense Jo and I am so sorry you have to go through that. It is like a fear to sleep as you don't know if this one will have a dream or a nitemare, so then you worry and you don't sleep properly and then have a dream, urgghhh it is like a horrible viscous circle. Then there is being left feeling like a wreck, I am just like a toddler when I am sleep deprived and could have a tantrum at any given moment. I love my sleep and need alot of it, it has been a little hard of late to get off to sleep but I get there in the end.

It really is so weird the way our bodies respond to trauma and that they have the ability to "remember" things that our minds perhaps do not, or that we have suppressed. Then it has this weird way of appearing in the form of a sore shoulder or even a nightmare...that is why I live by the term "gut feeling"..if my body is feeling off about something it lets me know and I have learnt to take notice.

Urrgg lockdown, I am hoping the day comes soon when we don't have to do these sorts of things. It is so hard and I have some friends in NSW and family too that are going through it, just so hard to stay positive and to try to maintain a happy day, when you can do nothing. I am so happy to hear that you got some hugs yesterday, the best thing every is hugs and especially when someone hugs you tighter back, my fave!!

Well I am hoping we are off to the movies tonight to see Cruella, we will see when I get home if the girl child is feeling like it or not...maybe I should just go by myself....lol I am really looking forward to it tho as I feel like I haven't been to a cinema in like forever, and apparently this movie is really great!

I love the last line that you posted Jo..it really made me feel good, thank you for sharing that. "Pretty shafts of light prise the fog apart to begin yesterday's tomorrow"

Well maybe I might just have a visit to the roller skating place on the weekend, I think I would really like that.

Muffin day tomorrow..yay!

All my hugs to you Jo xx

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

0445, Misty fog third quarter moon and Venus visible , Calm moist , 8.1° , 59% . WFTNN x .

Good morning everyone as another beautiful day begins , happy safe & warm one for all xxx

Hot drinks as always ( LD will serve ) and porridge for me today . Plenty more so just ask x .

Just had a look at shorts of Cruella . I do hope you went last night as I so much want to hear . It is so long ( talking decade at least ) since I have been to a movie . I now want to see that movie to ! Would love you to visit the space you found with your friend roller skating to .

Being cold is not good if you have to do it all day with no respite . When young I worked as a " porter" receiving parcels at Perth City station . In winter was like an Antarctic wind tunnel . Quickly learned about appropriate colour parker and woolen gloves . Didn't know about thermals then ? Loved the railways . Ended up as acting ticket issuer on suburban railcars and acting conductor on sleeping trains to ( Jo looked awesome in tailored suit with black silk trim ). I loved doing first class on Trans Australian and Indian Pacific . Met some wonderful international travelers in that time ). Most guys hated that , to much work 1st class . We camped in Kalgooli and before train arrived would go for a walk down Hay St where the tin brothels were and chat ( in uniform ( suit )) with the girls . Some stayed a while and got to know them a bit . Diverse group . About the time Sandra was there . Have wondered if I chatted with her ? Wonderful days !

Dreams ? Mm... they can demolish my being and must be avoided at all cost . Whatever that is ! Fatigue ? Have been doing that long enough to know when to stop pushing it . Not shy to ring a help line any more . Managed to not need that for many decades but is always there .

Had a long talk ( therapy for us both I think ) with younger brother last night . Was excellent , not like pulling teeth as usual .

🍩 MUFFIN day !!! Have a lovely day Sarah and stay warm and enjoy everything xxxxx hugs ( many with a tight one snuck in here and there ) xxxxx lol to you all as always , LD&me ❤🐾💃🌈☕🍩🎂

A new day , teaching new things to us on our unique journeys , lol to all from the never never . Jo&HRS/LD xxx ❤🐾💃🌈

[Aaronsis]

Good Morning Jo and to you too T...absolutely porridge for me, I love it with sultanas..is that yuk?...lol

You MUST see Cruella Jo, you must..it is THE BEST..the costumes, the music, oh I loved loved loved it. Emma Stone is so amazing and I just loved Emma Thompson's role too..it has a real Devil Wears Prada feel about it and I love that movie too. You just have to see it.

It was really lovely to hear that you had a great chat with your brother, I wish I had a close relationship with my brother (living one, not passed one). We were never close as kids and I have come to realize that my mum's mental health issues really came between us, in that I never really knew how bad she was and how she was suffering and he was used as the scape goat as he lived with her. Now that she has passed we have learnt so much about each other and what is real and what was most certainly not...but the relationship is weird as we both don't know how to navigate this I think. He is very solitary, but is that my perception or what he wants...hmm a big conversation needs to happen but I will be honest..I am scared.

Well I am going to tackle the assembly of the cake train tonight, the cakes are baked and are in the freezer (icing them frozen will stop the crumbs going into the icing) ...ahh let's see how this goes shall we...lol

Almost Chai time so I am super excited about that as you well know it is cake day too...lol..just what I need. Oh and let's be honest, there will be cake consumed at the icing of the train tonight I am sure...cannot let the scraps go to waste!

How are you feeling after the vaccine? I am trying to get an appointment and have tried three times but have to call back as there is a shortage of Pfizer. I will keep doing that but am at the point where I am considering just doing AZ even though I am 46.

Just made my appointment for my hair to get done next week, I am an ashy blonde so love to get it done regularly to avoid the brassiness of my natural redhead....we never like what we are given really do we..lol. I love the whole salon experience of getting the head massage and the salon has heated massage chairs at the basin so it is a real treat. Then there is the coffee, the chocolate on the side and the chit chat...lol

Well my dear friend, the chai is here and I am going to eat this double choc little muffin...yummmmmm

Have an amazing weekend and hope that you can do something that speaks to your soul and reminds you of how wonderful you are.

Much love

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

0430, Last 1/4 moon clear cold , Calm , 1.7° , 56% . WFTNN x .

Start of a happy weekend for all . Stay warm and safe and happy xxx

First breaky today for me ? Porridge with berries ! Chai for S and anyone else to and kettle is on for coffee and tea . Quiet here so LD and I are laying in warmth of bed today till a bit later .

Train cake ? How has it turned out , stunning I wager ! Very happy memorable weekend for you dear friend xx .

Perhaps now you are connecting with your brother Sarah time will be an ally and the conversation might steer itself . You of all people know how to do this , your kindness and respectfulness will be your guide . Your honesty is inevitable as is your discretion . Ponder the unclear . Will be fine just give it the time it needs , and you will know this time when and where it is needed ❤

Sometimes solitary is not a choice but a product . I am solitary because I never found a place to fit , I did not choose this , I love company ? Also quite useful to I can be totally comfortable alone for very long periods to ?

Cruella , I am going to look up and see if the cinema in big town east of here is still operating ? Maybe coming soon ?

They were only doing Pfiser yesterday while was in big town east . Got appointment for 2nd az on 28th of July though .

Went to R yesterday to see ufologist with no expectations not knowing his view on affirming surgery . Was completely stunned . If he can get it through the hospital board ( will be a first for this hospital ) second half of August . Not just orchidectomy but affirming cosmetic trim . Maybe a little more at a later time . I lost my voice and cried when he was telling me this . Also he is doing medical paper on affirming bottom surgery and wants to talk with my ally and myself for info from our side . Total shock ,totally awesome . Fingers crossed on that ???!!!!!!

Hugest of huge days yesterday I must say ( exhausted ) . Sarah it just flows !

Getting to like my new hair now it is getting nearly workable . Dont mind the steely grey either for the moment . Haven't had the washing bit yet but do look forward now as the girl in R who does it is great .

Loving happy weekend for you and family Sarah , happy birthday for your son and memorable days xxxx lol T&me ❤🐾💃🌈👍🎂🍷🍫🍸🍧🍗🍍🍓

May acceptance peace and love flourish in our world , warmth and happiness to all from the never never , Jo&HRS/LD ❤🐾💃🌈 xxx

[Jo8049]

0315, Clear cold moist desert sky , Very calm quiet , 2° , 51% . WFTNN x .

Safe happy journey through this day everyone xxx

Tea,coffee or Chai , hot milk ? Out of Milo ! Breaky ? See when we get there ! LD is nesting in standby mode xx

Back at stupid"o" clock again . Woke at 2 but its cold so lay in bed , a truck with nice exhaust note raced through town eastbound . It is so still I listened to every gear change to the top of the jumpup about 3 km east of town . Once on top I lose them as they are then behind a ridge . Was thinking of J---o , wonder if it was him ? Adelaide fellow I did a job with years ago and we seem to bump into each other often . He gave me a bourbon and coke at North Bourke one night and got me going on tales from back in the day . Was a good evening under the stars yarning . I do miss those good ones !

Rambling a bit there , hello very dear friend , How was Saturday ? Is that the birthday day or today ? Which one is cake day ? It makes me warm to hear of the closeness of you all , the 3 generations you speak of and later maybe four ( grandkids perhaps ) one day ?

I wonder why the playing field of life is not very level ? Karma ? Maybe not ? Maybe just the way it is for no particular reason . I guess its not that important , just help in some way those we can I guess and value ourselves ? Leave only happiness vibes in our wake ! When I look over my shoulder I see many decisions that in hind sight I may of gone the other way if at all ? Funny though I do not regret the path chosen at all ! A bumpy very painful path at times but so very rewarding . A clairvoyant lady whom I respect very much told me this life was to learn acceptance ? I have had to accept many things but don't know I have finished learning that one yet ? If we have many incarnations this is my first in a male body and honestly have not ever clicked with the male gender , its good to be home again xxx .

Existential rambling ? Sarah dear friend and family , enjoy your Sunday and will see you again before chai tomorrow xxxxx pats for 1,2&3 . eternal hugs , lol T&Jo ❤🐾💃🌈☕🍫🍧

May the soft rays of dawn gently caress the world into a new day , lol from the never never , LD&Jo xxxxx ❤🐾💃🌈

[Jo8049]

0708 oops ! Clear fresh morning , Calm , 0.5° , 51% . WFTNN x .

A good day for everyone that will be spent in a warm where possible environment be satisfying and as happy as possible xxx

Breaky , whatever we have ? Hot drinks as always but Milo tin still mt xxxx

LD and I are still in bed ? Late home last night ! Woke near 2 & lay awake for some time then drifted off as it was a very cold feeling night . Did not have dreams and was 0645 when awake enough to look at clock ! Feels weird , have not done this since 2019 ? Stay in bed to post . Get up later . ( feels lazy & good ❤ )

How was the rest of your weekend my dear friend ? I think with you as mum that your son had a milestone birthday and all of you enjoyed it so much with him xxx . So cold my hand holding phone is stinging ?

Late home last night , nearly midnight to bed . To cold for shower , bathroom is primitive and out in laundry , draughty ! Yesterday mid after noon visit to my allies place 120 east and stayed till quite late . We finally were all together to start to map out our vision of helping to support trans folk ( young to old ) in our backyard . All in agreement of the immense need for peer support ( face to face ) . It is now starting to come into existence . Method not sure but there is a stack of energy between us .

S ( is ally's wife & D is husband ) . S gave me a heap of clothes which are super awesome ( still in Mr A ). They have 4 young kids to . Open plan house and the evening was great trying on some things and sizing others . Everyone giving opinions so I could work out what to keep or not . The kids are so very accepting as are D&S . What an amazingly happy night for all . Jo is accepted loved and so happy . So many new feelings on this journey ❤.

45 east was exiting town and clear , night Venus low in the west . watching an RFDS King Air complete the circuit to land and dipped my lights for it , it passed directly over us 30 to 50 ft on short final . Cream on the cake !!!

Well another day another $ . I rather think another day more love can be shared ? Practical & spiritual I suppose . Balance? I prefer spiritual 🌈❤

Make a good wardrobe choice today dearest friend . Hope weekend just past filled your soul with soulfood to beautiful human xxxx . Stay warm , enjoy chai and much love and many hugs from the never never xxxx ❤🐾💃🌈☕🍫🍩

The curtains drawn the day began without us , cold crisp and inviting , peace and warm love from the never never , lol Jo&HRS/LD ❤🐾💃🌈

[Aaronsis]

Well what an absolutely divine pic of you T..you just melt my heart you are too cute.

Hey Jo, well I am pleased to report that the train cake went really well, while I was somewhat stressed putting it all together, it came out a treat and my son loved it. His friends thought it was pretty cool too...win! He had a really great time with his friends and they were all pretty good so that was good for me..lol...although at 17 I did have to keep my eye on a couple that kept disappearing...hmmmm

Next week it will be the one year anniversary of my mother's passing and my brother and I will take a long drive to lay her ashes in a place that was special to her. We have about a three hour car ride so I am kind of nervous about the conversations and how to fill the time and what to talk about and what to leave alone, I am sure there will be awkward silences too. I guess I just have to roll with it and do the best I can. It may even turn out completely different to how I am overthinking it..I hope so.

I have just made my appointment for my vaccine today, I will have Pfizer on the 11th of August, not sure how I feel about it really, just moving through the process of needing it done, I am sure I will have some thoughts closer to the time.

I think that is really cool when you can look back and reflect on life and the choices we made or the decisions we chose or even the way life played out and see it without regret. Lessons learnt and memories made and sure, if we had a magic wand maybe we may have made slight alterations but we don't, so that is awesome that you can look back without regret. I have a few regrets in my life but I am trying to do what I can to make sure that I change what I can now and accept what I cannot.

I was so pleased to see that you got to have a sleep in today and that you got some well earned rest. I had to have a rest yesterday afternoon, it was just so lovely to be all rugged up and just have no where to be or nothing to do, it was really lovely, and yes, adorned with cats!

That is so cool that you had a mini fashion parade and were able to try on some clothes and have some people share what they liked best on you, that is just wonderful and I am sure you really felt the love and acceptance then, that is just the best!

I think I made a better choice today of what to wear but as the day goes on and the tiredness creeps in I start to feel a little chilly..still probably trying to catch up from the move!

Hugest of hugs to you both.

Sarah xxx

[Jo8049]

0400, light high cloud only a few bright stars , very calm occasional light puff , 5° , 41% . WFTNN x.

Welcome and happy day for all who drop in , say hi xxx

Breaky , coffee or chai or maybe warm milk & honey ? Porridge ( brown sugar and cinnamon or berries ) or egg ? LD is on standby curled up in bedroom waiting for a job .

Sarah , hi xxx. The cake is STUNNING !!! You're so talented and determined I suspect . Have a vision of you delivering the cake on roller skates in a 50's cafe ( US style )( if only could do screen shots of thoughts . Kind good ones of course . ) Just occurred to me that's all I have . I have a built in compassion device . When it detects negativity it converts it to compassion ? Never recognized that before ?

Cake was a true work of art . Pitty to eat it but was yummy I suspect . So glad the weekend went well for all there .

Your trip with your brother Sarah will be what it is of course , you both will be hesitant . Perhaps leave that page blank till that day and relax in each others company as many things will be moving through your minds and hearts . Trust your heart dear friend .

Vaccine will be fine . I was going to wait for Pfizer but just thought would get protection asap . Second az on 28/7 @ 1000 at Hospital in big town 130 east .

I to have some things I could regret ( only a couple really ) but I don't because I learned the hard way in 2012 you can't turn the clock back! Maybe it wouldn't work anyway if you could ? Be a mess I think . I do try to be much much more aware of consequence though before letting anything out in though word or action . ( makes me look a bit slow sometimes but I'm good with that ).

Have had 2 experiences from Friday to Sunday night . Absolute reversal of role ? Usually I am helping in some form or other and I ( unexpectedly ) have been the recipient of kindness acceptance & love ! A window of a place I would love to live in and share with fellow humans . Pretty awesome . Was homecoming experiences for Jo ❤

Tuesday already ! Happy warm day for you all and enjoy the chai as we steadily creep forward to muffin day and a roller derby weekend perhaps . ( ps no cinema's out here . 500km) lol hugs& xxx & lick from T , us ❤🐾💃🌈☕🍫

May the bitter cold stay away and warmer winter cold endure till spring , love and peace from the never never , Jo&LD xxx ❤🐾💃🌈

[Guest9337]

G'day All!

I like your writing style Jo8049.

Coffee and choc cream donuts for lunch after a weepy morning.

Slow pot rogan josh bubbling overnight filling the house with warm spicy scent. At least I can make a decent curry, chop the lot and chuck it in. Press on, wait - the longer the better, three day old curry is the tastiest, tonights will only have cooked for about 28 hours.

Bracingly cold here in southoz, but walking our dogs warmed me up.

[Jo8049]

0400, Cold clear small stars , cold calm , -0.1° , 44% . WFTNN x .

❄ Welcome to everyone , warm safe and happiest day you can have xxx.

Chai , coffee or tea . Toast & honey for a change I think ? Or whatever , is a few hours away yet ? LD did a spiral dive into the sleeping bag this morning . Kind of screwed her way in ? I trimmed it in around her . She will stay there till I stop pedaling .

Welcome David"n"Goliath , thank you for stopping by and do so as often as you like . Aprox what temp when long slow cook ? I have been experimenting with much lower than I would but have been picking "Tom Kerridge's" and Heston's" brains on this matter . It has had mixed success but the good ones are stunningly tasty ! David & Goliath are your dogs ( best friends ) ? I have experienced the very cold at times winter Antarctic winds you can get in SA & the unrelenting heat too . Did a bit of East West trucking across the Nullabor , lived for most of my life in Perth . Late 80's did two up on road trains Coolgardie to Port Augusta , often did the swap over of trailers at Ceduna or Wudinah . Look forward to more chat xxx

Hump day , hi Sarah . How was your yesterday . Two more sleeps till your 🍩 ☕. Don't sweat next week beautiful human xxxx . Are you getting frosty mornings , we are on the edge but no black frosts now for quite a few years . When I first came here you would get 2 or 3 a year ?

Only got to 13 here yesterday , cold wind . Toowoomba weather , grey and cold wind ? We usually dont get the cold winds till late August early September . They are called the Eka winds . The Eka is the royal show in Brisbane and it is nearly always peppered with cold Westerly winds . Hence the name Toowoomba weather as Toowoomba is due west of Bris on top of the Great Divide and has many grey cold days that time of year .

Spent yesterday in the warm room with HRS , reading and writing . Dr M at gender clinic gave me 2 books to read nearly finished 1 + next is voice training . You wont know me then ?

Have a meditative relaxed day dear friend and stay warm all day , pats for cats and hugs ( as many as you like ) for you xxxx . ❤🐾💃🌈🍫☕🍧

A crisp day begins with a touch of ice as the early dawn splits the darkness of the night until it has retreated to the west , lol to all , peace and love from the never never , Jo&LD xxx ❤🐾💃🌈❄