The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Jo8049]

0305, patchy thin high cloud , calm , 6° , 48% . WFTNN x .

Welcome again today and happiest day you can have x . Say hi while here and rest with coffee or chai etc .

Breakfast ? Ask LD what we have . Need to go to town , a bit short . Have eggs , porridge etc ?

Hi Sarah , am a bit worried that you were caught in the devastation in foothills ? Saw for first time on ABC some of the area where I think your old area is . Didn't have much info of specific areas , was shocked and concerned . Am hoping concern is not necessary ? xx hugs .🐾💃

Quiet here yesterday , reading and will do writing today ? Found some wonderful timely stuff on forum . Still amazed how Jo's life is flowing ! "Thanks to therising , Lilylane and Kara " ❤ !!!

Don't have face to face because of distance but am so very lucky to have all the beautiful caring folk here ( hugs xxxx ), and our special friend Sarah !

Like I said , quiet here ( except for mill workers ?). It is sad really , the overuse of the drugs is destroying them and they don't seem to care ? I care but don't see a safe way to help them stop ? Will keep trying to plot a useful safe way if I can ? Work in progress !

Sarah , I so hope this finds you settling in new house and warm . Much love to you all and hugs ( when required xxxx ).❤🐾💃🍷☕🍩

A mist of gentleness and warmth for all from the never never , Jo&HRSLD ❤🐾💃🍫

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

Just a quick note til later as I am still catching up with all the messages.

The move went so very well and I am so in love with my new place.

I am all safe and not too close to the foothills, although there is damage everywhere, but I am good.

Hope you are wonderful too and will message later...am worried about your making peace with (deadname)...but will be back soon to chat.

Hugs

Sarah

[Jo8049]

0400, calm dark & fine stars , Easterly drift , 6°, 34% . WFTNN x .

Hello at a more reasonable time . Happiest warm day you can have everyone . Drop in and chat , coffee , relax . Very welcome ! Warm to !

Chai coffee tea? LD is a bit off colour today , I will work out breaky later , will share what we have . ( shop on Friday )

So full of happiness for you and so relieved your safe and all went well . Don't expect such huge widespread weather events like that series either .As it became clearer ( weather event) my anxiety built for you and everyone else in its path . xxx Look forward to hearing about new home. Am so happy you love it . 👍 Hump day again , are you back working or take a little time off to settle in ?How are 1,2&3 going ? Do the kids like their new digs ?

Don't worry about Jo , she is ok , tough outside but marshmallow inside . Read on main one a thread by IAMTHEONE questioning my sexuality . Last couple of posts on that by " therising " . She talks of the circle . From that I thought maybe Jo should not mess in deadname work circle as that is where we were on that Monday ? Thought had grieved and had closure for ------ ? Probably timely as have been chased to do work as before Jo and thankfully have dodged that as I am not comfortable at all with working with mostly strangers and definitely do not want repartition of July / August 2019 ! Working with my local customer has been ok but that Monday we had owner who I know as we have been moving the D10's for a couple of years .

Got to get Jo in a much more confident position in the world I guess . Physical changes are interesting , if you hadn't seen me for 6 months you probably would not recognise me ! ( awesome )

LD is having haircut next Tuesday ,looks like a slipper with eyes ? I am going to get eyebrows done at same time ( found nice hairdresser locally ) for trip following week to Bris . Will look for some suitable affordable accommodation while there ?

Am relaxed now you and yours are ok ! Lol enjoy and be happy special lady xxx hugs , 👍❤🐾💃🍩☕😉

Solstace next Monday , love peace and kindness to all from the never never , Jo&LD ❤🐾💃xxx

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

I am so glad to hear you are OK, I can only imagine the emotional journey this is and that sometimes it is manageable and you can digest what you feel but sometimes things come out of left field and hit you over the head and when you don't expect it, I am sure that is quite confronting, emotional and maybe even a tad scary. I am so glad to hear you are ok and I have no doubt at all that there is a huge marshmallow centre, infact..I know it!

We are just loving the new house and getting used to the awesomeness of having a dishwasher..lol..something I have not had for ages..so I am so very please to surrender that role. The cats are loving the stairs and bolt up and down them chasing each other, I think they are happy..lol. My son essentially has his own man cave now that I have finally caved in and let him have a TV in his room. While it still sits a bit off with me as I dont want him isolated in his room, I have to accept he wants some privacy and some space to himself too.

Well Melbourne has put a dampener on our girls weekend we had planned for the 7th time over the past 12 months with COVID interfering each time. So we will do brunch instead and have pushed it out to next month with our fingers crossed..just so over it.

The Rising is an amazing part of the forum and the insights that they provide to people are just wonderful. I often read the posts that they contribute and it leaves me with things to think about too. I really love that about the forum is that even reading other people's posts create so much insight into your own life or into your self and make you think about how you feel about that. I am glad that you are relating to what they are sharing here too.

That is so very awesome that your physical changes are that dramatic over a small about of time as 6 months, you must really be thrilled with how your body is responding....like it was always meant to be????? Hmm interesting.

I hope our LD is feeling better this afternoon and that she is ok? Maybe after some food she picked up a little? I hope so my gorgeous little fluffy slipper xxx

I am sorry to have made you feel worried about me, the move was long and I did mean to get on and chat but time just slipped through my fingers. You never have to worry about me though dear friend, I have support..right here with you.

Well off to get this work day over and think about what I am cooking with the lamb for the kids for dinner..lol

Hugs of the hugest type to you both xx

S xxxx

[Jo8049]

0335, Clear moist dark winter sky small stars , Very calm , 5.8° , 52% . WFTNN x .

Welcome and hello everyone , best day you can have and stay warm xx.

Chai coffee or tea , porridge today .LD is nesting on foot of bed on a -12 sleeping bag where she can see me . She will probably get up to welcome and serve . ( the hard life of the little white dog ?!)

Dear friend S , no need to appologise , was very busy time for you and prob still is . When saw that mini doco on storm naturally I had concern . So over the moon that you are all so happy and have a dish robot ! 1,2&3 are happy to .

Timing for girls weekend is a puzzling question . When it is its time I guess .

Sarah your son is old enough to drive now , I bet he appreciates his space and tv . You are such a caring good mum xxx .

Jo surprises me with the physical changes , however I did think that they would appear to be quick . I had used oestrogen in low dose on and off since late 2013 to enhance brain drug ? Would do it till physical change started and stop till that settled down and go again . That as I know now is a big no no to stop and start ( blood clots ). Now is much higher dose and continuous . Still can't believe that we were in the wrong place forever before 9/12/20 ! This drives me to somehow normalise diversity and help ( support ) others in similar situations . There is still resistance to diversity being normalised for many reasons . Reasoning that needs to be challenged in a quiet way ?

Have learned a lot from Monday week ago ! Have made a decision to not take work now in the general area as I don't know who will be with and don't want another 2019 . Will do local stuff as I feel better armed for that now . We shall see !

Solstice Monday , going to put up dece's in the Café . Might have to do a lap of the house at 0300 on Monday dressed appropriately for solstice ? Leave that to imagination , Google Stonehenge , they celebrate there xxx !

Am so very very happy the storm didn't stop your move and that you are there and love your new place . hugs ( as many and as often as you like ) & xxxxx ( on cheek of course ) love and peace to and for you 👍❤🐾💃🍫🍷☕🍩 Muffin tomorrow xx

A misty humid sunrise bringing warmth kindness and peace to all hearts , from well west of the range in the never never xxx ❤🐾💃 Jo&HRS/LD

[Jo8049]

0230, cool clear small stars , SSE drift , 3.1°,41% . WFTNN x .

Good morning everyone who visits today , come in and say hi x . Happiest day for everyone , stay warm !

Hot drinks and eggs and bacon for breakfast . LD is nesting again ?

Muffin 🍩 day for you Sarah . Hope there are plenty to have with your chai . Safe happy warm day dear friend xxx Hug !

Not a lot has happened since last post ? Still tired and mind is stuck in neutral ?

Going to see head space manager next Tuesday and went to town yesterday took thermos with coffee and LD to catch up with my ally and chat . Seems like his wife had a stroke after surgery but no evidence of it can be found ? A mystery . Hope she recovers properly . Kind nice people !

Still dissecting Monday week ago ? Guess its the normal ebb and flow of life ? Feeling a bit matt rather than gloss , looking forward to eggs and bacon , that should fix it ? Ran out of bacon end of week before last and got some yesterday . Perhaps Solstice at play as it approaches .

Stay warm and love to you and family Sarah xxxx hugs as always ❤🐾💃👍☕🍩🍫😉

Compassion empathy and love from the never never , lol Jo&HRS/LD ❤🐾💃

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

Did you want to chat a little more about what happened last Monday? I know you are still disecting it and probably as each thought pops in your feelings are mixed from one emotion to the next. A gentle reminder from me that what you are going through is huge. That you are accepting the wholeness and the core of who you are and letting that flourish, letting Jo be her and letting her see the world as she always has been quietly there waiting. It is only natural though to have times of sadness and of mourning almost of (deadname) as he was your being. While maybe only in body? Can I put that to you? That maybe your true self as always been Jo so what you like and what you do each day, that things that grab your interest or hobbies you choose, the way you love and the way your maintain and create friendships and relationships has always been Jo, as maybe Jo was the core being of your person, that (deadname) may have just been the physical being. I understand how this is pretty confusing and alot to digest, so it is only natural that it comes with a sway of emotions too. Here to chat some more about this if you like xxx

I hope LD has found her way off that snuggly -12 degree sleeping bag and is a little more active today and not so sleepy. I get it though, I would love nothing more some days to be snuggled up and just taking it all in. Big cuddles to you today too gorgeous little fluff xxx

I am looking forward to tomorrow as I will be catching up with my friends for brunch. We were supposed to be away this weekend but COVID took care of that again. This is the 7th time we have rescheduled this...grrr..ahh well at least we can still see each other and have a yummy pig out tomorrow..lol

I am eagerly awaiting the Friday muffin and my delightful Chai....it is not too far away now and I do think of you each time when my chai arrives..lol...

I am really interested to hear what you get up to with Winter Solstice too..I love watching "Outlander" and my friend and I binge watch whole series at a time..we are addicted..so when you mentioned "Stonehenge" I just had images of the witches dancing around the stones in Outlander....I love things Witchcraft, it interests me so much.

Well off to book a courier..lol

Have the most amazing weekend my dear friends and stay warm, hugs to you both and enjoy your catch up today.

Huge hugs

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

Thank you Sarah for sharing your perception with me . Everything has a little component of confusion at present . I like the idea that deadname ( think this is close to what you were getting at ) was sort of a mask ( maybe to protect Jo till she was ready for birth?) . That being said there is little need to grieve , I feel still me ( me being Jo , which would mean I always was Jo from day 1)? . As Jo said in truck , thank you ------ for getting us here and , vale' ------ !

Some writing to do on this .

Happy safe warm weekend and brunch , my dear Sarah . hugs back . ( freezing here , LD and I are under the sleeping bag , rode bike to town and core got a bit cold on way home after unexpected cool change ) lol , 👍😉❤🐾💃xxx

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

Yes that is what I was meaning, that you (Jo) has always been the soul, the feelings, the emotion and that (deadname) was maybe just the vessel, if you like, that Jo was given. Until of course now, when Jo has made her way into the big bright world and has found her place not only inside but on the outside..while some small renovations needed to happen (hope you don't mind this term..), Jo is here in all her beauty.

I am so glad that you are going to do some writing on this one, I really hope one day that you get the opportunity to create some reading for everyone to share in this journey, the up's and the down's, the tears and the laughter and the little wins, like when they thought they had misgendered you....awesome!

It is cold today here too and I am looking forward to a night in, watching the footy and turning the heater up and eating something naughty...lol

S xxx

[Jo8049]

0300 , Clear cold sky , Calm , 1° , 41% . WFTNN x .

Welcome everyone and safe happy weekend for you all xxx .

Tea , coffee or chai ! Same today , porridge or eggs on bacon on soft wholemeal bread with a bit of ghee on it . Seasoned to taste ? Yum !

Am not that good with words sometimes Sarah , thank you is all I can find , however it goes way beyond that . Thank you ( hug & xxx ). This space we have here is so very very kind and helpful to so many I would imagine . Your generosity , kindness , guidance at times has been unbelievably valuable to me . Thank you for coming with me xxx .

Your words have on quite a few occasions cleared a path for my perception to move ( radically at times ) and give me a much more holistic look at things ( which is so helpful ) .

Thank you to all the other beautiful people here at BB to , I have read broadly in LGBTIQ section and got so many applicable pieces to fit my jigsaw . Thanks everyone xxx!!!

Have a pilot friend outside sleeping in his car , will get breaky when he comes in if he wants some . He is older guy ( 74 ) and the man half of the couple who own the caravan park where we lived when working in the central coalfields . He was tired which goes with piloting but had a really nice talkfest last night . Was very happy to tell him of Jo's journey and he was accepting and interested . Talked about other things to of course .

What naughty food did you eat last night ? Can't tell you how happy it makes me that you love new home.

Was just leaving nearest town on Sooz ( motor bike , Suzuki but name and spelling was on the collar of a small white dog that saved my life on new years day 2013 ) when phone rang so I pulled up and it was a lady who was calling the number on my for sale sign . Had a chat and she will contact me when returning to wherever when coming back through here ?

Cant remember whether brunch is today or Sunday ? Have a hoot and stay warm and enjoy catchup as sure you will . Weekend away will come eventually .

Hugs xxxx and thank you so very much Sarah . 👍❤🐾💃🍫🍩☕

May the pale blue winter sky warm your soul , love and peace for everyone in this world from the never never xxxx ❤🐾💃 Jo&HRS/LD (nesting)