The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Jo8049]

Thank you Sarah for the podcast , very very good and well done . I cried a lot on and off all the way through .So many parallels , so glad Jaz made it .( and me to ) lol XXX hugs and thank you .

Hope your weekend is going awesomely well .

Love and peace for you and yours , I am very honoured to be your friend. Again XXX hugs and lol Jo & LD

[Jo8049]

Good morning all . NA32 how is your weekend going ?

Stupido'clock again here ! (0330) . Full moon time ?

A peaceful and loving day to all , and feel free to say hi if you read this .

Hi Sarah , do hope weekend is being kind to you.

Love and hugs , Jo & LD

[Aaronsis]

Good Morning Jo and hello LD, hope you had a great time at your little retreat.

I am so happy to hear you enjoyed the podcast, it is so uplifting and inspiring to hear other’s stories and how they have navigated the path forward, the ups, the downs and the wins. Maybe one day that is something you might consider too, recording and sharing your journey.

The weather here today is simply stunning and a lovely day for a walk which I am going to try to get in too.

I took my son for a driving lesson yesterday... his second time ever. He was nervous but felt proud of himself afterwards which is great... me on the other hand... well ... I was a bit shaky... lol

I love hearing about you early morning adventures... it is such an amazing time of the day... so peaceful.... so quiet...

Hope today is awesome for you and LD is happy too.

Chat very soon my friend and hugs to you both xoxox

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

Hi again Sarah . have been a bit concerned I am posting to often . Please do tell me if you want or need a break .

• To be young enough to be learning to drive , how exciting that is . I'm not sure really how I would handle it in this modern world . Was so much simpler back when I was his age. Had an SUV cross the centre line on the way into town this morning . It was in a spot where there is phone service ? All to common now and on the rise . Was in the little car ( 1990 Suzuki Supercarry , my little mate David ( Suzuki, the environmental scientist )/ We just ducked into water table for a second or two . No harm done but the car didn't stop ? I hoped it would as I had ice cold water with me if the driver was sleepy . Could had a chat and woken them up a bit . Fatigue is a,sneaky enemy on long hour jobs . I have done well over 7 million km over the years . Tallied them up when I hung up the big steering wheel . Tell your young'n stay alert be a bit cautious and relaxed about what your doing is always good . There are some great courses now to, I did advanced driving one for a job in early 2000's . I knew,I didn't know everything but was surprised how much I learnt and I still use much of it today .

Rambling ! Quite warm here today. Hope not to warm for your walk where you are .

The brain is a bit misty today , not getting enough sleep . Full moon and everything else that's happening I think .

Will leave you alone now , enjoy what's left of weekend .1400 now .

See you later , hugs peace and love , Jo & LD ( licks )

[Jo8049]

Good morning Sarah and everyone else who reads this . Happy day filled with peace , and welcome to Awesome Autumn .

Much love and many hugs to all xxxx. Jo&LD

[Aaronsis]

Good Morning Jo and yes you too LD xx

Please post as often as you like and in turn I will answer when I am able to. I tend to be more free every second week when I don't have my kids as I have more availability to post, so it may seem sometimes I am somewhat quiet, it is not to do with you posting too much or wanting to chat too often, just that i am taking some time for me. I really enjoy our chats so please post as much as you like!

Wow that is really scary about the incident the other day with the SUV, you are so very right in that fatigue is such a killer and there is no way to address the issue than take a break and get some sleep, which I get is not appealing if you are managing time and need to be at a destination at a certain time..but at what cost? I am so glad you are safe. I think the idea of doing some professional lessons is a good idea as when your parents tell you something it is less likely to come across as informative and more like an attack...and some things just have to be said and heard!

How stunning was that full moon, I actually sat outside for a little last night and looked at it...just magnificent.

I am tired today and am probably going to take a leaf out of my own book and crawl into bed when I get home from work...lol..why not hey!

Autumn hugs to you too, cannot believe we are in March already...this year is sure motoring along.

Waiting patiently here for my chai latte from the coffee man.....I really need one today.

Hugs to you my awesome friend

Sarah xxxx

[Jo8049]

Hallo Sarah . ( is that the right spelling " hallo " of that greeting . I looked in my old dictionary yesterday and it wasn't in there . To old perhaps . ( the book I mean ))

Am hopeful that you had a good weekend . You are right to about the courses for driving too , it is in most cases I imagine that the young person would feel more comfortable that way . Not saying we are bad parents but they would perhaps think we would have expectations ? Its hard to conceive that the little things we take for granted , do have to be learned .

I was ( chai sounds just gorgeous ) exhausted after last week a d had four nights in a row with very little sleep ( that for me is maybe 2 to 4 hours a night . 4 is OK but less destroys me now days ) and was just about to drop off and there was a large disturbance on the highway in front of my house . It was some locals ( from the mill quarters opposite , ice and alcohol ) . Finishing up with three loud gunshots .( the local policeman put down a dog thank goodness ). At that stage I didn't know if the people had escalated to shooting each other or local policeman was there . With great relief it was the later . I was quite upset at all that happened and couldn't sleep so took a mild relaxant . Slept in till 0445 .

A book arrived in the mail today , The Trauma Cleaner , got the tittle from the forum , may have been you or Mspurple . Tried to find the post but after 30 min I gave up . Will get it out later .

In not sure how to chronicle my journey , will do a brief diary perhaps for later reference ?

I have learned one thing from you and others here , by finding you , you can then begin to love you . For so very long I couldn't love me . Strangely though I have always loved everything around me . Now I get to share that love and it grows bit by bit . For that I thank you especially , you have stuck around and chatted ! You are very special , everyone here is , but to LD and I your a legend xxxx

With that special uberkind human I will sing off for now , lol and many hugs as always , Jo&LD xxxx

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo...I tend to write it hello, but anything goes these days and I totally understand what you are meaning...so hi, hey hallo, hello

I had a great weekend, we celebrated a friends 50th with dinner on Friday. Saturday is back to kids sports and running around, although I should not complain as I am so glad that they are active and interested. My son had his mate over so they spent time slumped infront of Playstations..lol

My Chai was divine, we have a coffee guy that comes here to the office each morning and so that is something so awesome to look forward to.

Lack of sleep is just the worst and while I feel tired today, it is nothing like what only a few hours sleep, four nights in a row would be like. I am pretty much an 8 hours a night kinda girl in that I need that to function otherwise I could just cry in a corner.lol

WOW...those gunshots sounded horrific, thank goodness it was just the police taking care of business and not locals up to no good, but how scary at the time you would not have known what the situation was and a thousand things run through your brain! Glad you are safe tho, and yes, a mild relaxant after that ordeal for sure. Scary!

AHHHH The Trauma Cleaner...oh I hope you love it like I did, it is such a wonderful story but also painful and sad and all sorts of emotions, not just for Sandra but for the people with whom she cleans for and who she meets in her stories. It is just heartbreaking. But she is an absolute miracle and the way she handles things is just outstanding..I cannot wait to hear what you think about the story.

I think a diary is a perfect way to start, then as you start you will remember things earlier in your timeline and fill gaps and blanks as you go..I am so proud of you, so happy for you, but mostly so full of admiration for the strength it takes to do this, let alone drive thousands of Kilometers to see that you get the appointments you need.

I hear you, you are so very right, once you find yourself and what makes your heart sing, what gets you out of bed in the morning and what creates the zest for life you start to see yourself in a whole new way. You see you, and feel pride in you. I am so beyond happy this is starting for you JO.

Thank you for those beautiful words Jo, I think you are pretty awesome too. I have not just "stuck around", I consider you my friend and I enjoy chatting to you very much. Together in this awesome family really beautiful things happen.

Huge hugs and a scratch for you LD xx

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

Thank you so much for all of that post . xx Imagine how difficult life would be after acceptance if you didn't go there at least some of the way . Thank you , I think " you just have to do what you've got to do ".

Lol and more hugs ,xxxx Jo&LD

PS: see you in the morning .

[Jo8049]

Hello all , and hello Sarah . Lateish start again . 0345 waking . I let the body work it out unless early start for work . A little job later today . 0500 now . Just saw a vintage caravan rally on TV . Awesome . We (LD & me) have a 1973 Viscount special build van in good order . Some old things ( other than me ) speak volumes of the past . Good and not so good to .

Beautiful moon in a streaky sky today . Feels like rain but can't smell it yet .

Got some coffee and lightly fried eggs ( in rice bran oil) on soft wholemeal bread) , enough for all .

Sarah , what I said in last post about doing what you have to . I think after Jo arrived ( a bit of fanfare in the heart that day ) it became very quickly clear what had to happen . ( this is my experience , and Emily said to me soothing , encouraging supporting words about the length of time I had survived the dysphoria . ) I am hesitant to take any credit for the decision to accept Jo and go forward . Also ecstatic that I have . Guessing am lucky for the life experience too because the what ifs have been minimal .

Only got to page one ( The Trauma Cleaner) last night. Was on the phone to good friend ( told her of the journey , was so glad I did . )

Bye for now everyone , feel free to join in if you want to chat on any subject at all , Chat later and have a superb day Sarah .

Love and hugs XXX Jo&LD