The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[Aaronsis]

Good Morning Jo and a big scratch behind the ear to you Little Dog

Happy hump day, we have cake here at work today so that always put a smile on my face. Today it is custard tart with fruit on top. So that is something to devour soon...lol

How is the day fairing for the both of you?

The sun is out here and I have just picked my car up from being repaired and it looks brand new so I am super duper happy today...lol

Chat soon my friends

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

Good afternoon Sarah , we did miss you a little bit ( I realise to of course you have a life and family which is very good ) .

What happened to your car , sounds like panel beating ( oops moment ) . Glad its back and I hope the work was done with detail .

Custard tart , mmmmmmm . I have been good with eating lately , the doctor gave me the thumbs up for everything on Monday ( had bloods done on Friday ) . Sugars were to high ( diabetic , but heading that way ) and I was shocked as I eat whole food and exercise and not overweight . Turns out to many carbs . A little to much bread and spuds and spaghetti . You get that .

Am 450 east of home tonight for a doctors appointment tomorrow . LD is in jail at the vets ( she stays there when I go to Bris to the hospital . Jail she says . She gets spoiled rotten and the girls love her very much ) . Jo the vet and her partner will have her if anything ever happens to me . She would be in very loving good hands . of course we hope that plan is never activated .

Quite nervous a d excited about tomorrow . Keep you posted .

Lol and hugs to you S and yours , XXX. Jo & LD

[Jo8049]

Hi and good morning all . A happy safe and loving day for all .

Lol and hugs for anyone who needs them , Jo & LD

[Aaronsis]

Good morning Jo

What a lovely sentiment that you missed chatting with me, that made me smile!

Ahh the car story...quite embarrassing but anyway..I was reversing out my driveway and it was pouring rain, the sensors were beeping but I was looking at the side and not at the back and cleaned up the back corner panel on the rails of the roller door....sigh..it did some big damage but it is all fixed now and looks beautiful.......note to self: sensors are there for a reason Sarah!!!

The custard fruit flans were delightful, in fact I had two....well they were only little....that is my justification anyway.

Good that you are getting checked regularly with your bloods and your diabetic levels, it is so important to keep across it as you know..things can change quite quickly....ahh yes the old carbs thing...it is so sad that they just turn to sugar as they are soooo delicious and wonderful.....but so naughty.

Hope the doctors appointment goes well today and that is so well planned that you have LD in the luxury suites while you do that. I must share this with you as I feel I can, I was a little sad when you wrote that they will take of LD if anything ever happened to you. I understand how much LD means to you, is your family but just that you have some things in place if anything should happen to you, I just don't want anything to happen to you.

I just want you to know too that if you do want to share things that are bothering you or that you are having a hard time digesting, that I am here, to share the load and to help you, I care so much.

Looking forward to hearing your news.

Hugs and a big cuddle to you too LD

Sarah xxx

[Jo8049]

Hi Sarah . Sensors are there for a reason however annoying it may be . The custard fruit flans sound great . Have a coffee and baklava on me 🙂

Am waiting in big car ( is work car but a motorhome to ) outside the doctors . Have butterflies in me . ( gender clinic ) First visit so am anxious , hopefully no need . I shall know in an hour . Have come 450 km for this . Watching abc news channel .

I put LD's contingency plan in place a couple of years ago when I had a full hip replacement . GA's are a bit rough on me . The vet has to older customers with LD's that her and partner would adopt if that were necessary . ( heaven forbid )

Not planing on departing the planet but with what I do and age it seemed important for small dog as she is so very very special and would need a special human to .And they fill that bill in spades .

I have had two close calls but fate a d a bigger plan than mine intervened . Until New years day 2013 I regarded termination ( self ) as an option . I no longer do because of it's finality . I don't think many people are aware that in desperation people seek a relief from that insidious unrelenting pain . Nothing else matters in the end , its not selfish either . It is so very sad that people find themselves in such a dark bind .

Enough of that . Rain and mist here . Sattelite city of Brisbane . I look forward a lot to our chats , it has given myself and LD smiles and a sense of belonging . The rainbow community seem to be good at this and it is how all people should be . ( should would be incorrect word but I can't think of a better one )

Sarah , take care enjoy and be safe lol as always and hugs XXX Jo&LD

[Aaronsis]

Hey Jo

OH WOW..I am so excited for you and I hope the nerves eased and the appointment was perfect. I am sure that they are well versed with people feeling anxious and nervous pre these meetings so I hope that they made you feel very comfortable. I cannot wait to hear how it went for you, if you want to share that is.

I understand that the plan for LD was put in place out of love and out of you needing to know that if anything happened in your GA that LD would be cared and loved almost like you would. I am so happy to read that fate did have bigger plans for you, and I hope this journey you are on with fulfilling your dreams to be the person who is inside of you reminds you of how awesome and how wonderful you are. Departing is final and everyday I am reminded of that as I think of my brother, and you are right it is the relief of insidious pain that drives these outcomes and not the desire to leave. You are so very right, it is not selfish, actually quite the opposite as the last thing they are thinking of I would assume is themselves, or even others, just the enormity of that pain and the feelings it is creating. It is devastating that people find themselves in that space and that is ultimately why I am here in this community, as if by others reaching out and having conversations we can prevent one person from feeling totally hopeless and it prevents them from taking their life...we are doing something positive.

I am so happy to hear that you look forward to our chats, I am so enjoying chatting to you too and learning about your life and what you are doing each day, I am now looking forward to your gender journey and what that will have instore for you. These forums to give us a sense of belonging and of making friends and meeting people, even if only through a computer screen, the connections are made and can still be meaningful relationships which is wonderful.

I laughed at the "should/would" part..I actually can't stand the word should..it is filled with so many expectations...mostly stuff we don't need to think about anyway....

Huge hugs to you and I am so very excited for you and looking forward to sharing this journey with you.

Hugs

Sarah xxx

[Jo8049]

Thank you Sarah for such a lovely post . I feel very deeply for you to . I don't have words but feel so much pain there .xx

The day was startlingly beautiful . I am now referred to a new gender clinic at the hospital where I was today . As it is new I have an appointment next Thursday pm . Another 900 km round trip . ( a very happy one ) All the other clinics have quite long waiting lists . Emily the doctor I saw today is friends with the guy that runs the new one and she rang him and organized it all . ( what is happening ? Its all just flowing )

Will pull down my eyelids now as am euphorically tired . Talk tomorrow or when you want .

Take care , love and be loved

Hugs and xxxx Jo & LD ( in absentia )

[Aaronsis]

Thank you so much Jo for your beautiful words of support to me, it is very painful but I have also seen some amazing good come out of my brother's passing too, like I would have never been here talking to so many different people and learning so many new things about mental health and about life and just about people really and I take that as a huge blessing, I really do.

That is fantastic news that you feel like this journey is just flowing for you, they say when things are meant to be they do just flow so interesting you chose that word to describe the journey so far. I hope the new clinic will be awesome as I am sure they will be, sure..a long way to travel but you have travelled so far mentally that I am sure a few hundred km's..well OK 900 is a piece of cake! Emily sounds amazing and has really jumped into action for you..this is such wonderful news.

When will you get LD from the spa?...lol..I can now imagine this little dog with a hair wrap on getting his nails done...lol..I am sure that you are missing your little friend dearly.

I saw a post on the Life Line page today and I wanted to share it with you in the event that it may interest you. It is about a person named Jaz and her journey to transitioning to him. He has been on his journey for 3 years now and thought you might like to listen, the link is:

www.lifeline.org.au/podcast

Hope today is proving to be wonderful for you.

Love to you also

Sarah xx

[Jo8049]

Hi Sarah , has been an odd day with shades of rainbow happiness mixed in . Gender Euphoria is wicked !

Firstly , thank you for another kind living and inclusive post . And also for link ( will look at that tomorrow )

Am tired , again as the last 4 nights have been light on for sleep . Lots of stuff somersaulting around in my head . ( its all good , exciting and a little scary ?) . Woke up today and went to start Mr A ( big car , work car ) and no start . 6 hours later one of the auto electricians from the place I use ( had to come 130 km after a morning job ) arrived and we got that puzzle sorted and of to get LD .

She smells when I come into the building . 2 mins is the best undetected so far . Like I whisper to the girls while paying but she starts yelling ( outside voice only . economy model ) she escaped out the back and came sliding sideways through the passage and straight into my arms . Curled up now in one if her beds . Her Royal Smallness .

I may have missed something but am exhausted . Looking forward to next week. ( another 900 k. . Used to it , its what we do . LD has done 14_laps of Aus in since 2013 ).

Hope it is OK to kind of share the journey and it helps others to . I have been thinking there is a huge gap in remote areas for information that is accurate and up to date .

Will write more tomorrow . Please have a very beautiful weekend with you family and friends . Is this the birthday time you've been preparing for ?

Lol and hugs , much love from the never never . Jo&LD ( only 4 kg , she is quite small )

[Jo8049]

Good morning to all , I do hope you are rested and happy . Have a lovely day .

Will write more later , coffee is on ! Love and peace to all and hugs to . Jo&LD

PS : 0340 here and the most beautiful crisp white full moon in the western sky with some high streaky cumulus cloud and a Boieng 747-8F on its way from Singapore to Melbourne . lol Jo