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A_League_of_One
Community Member
Hi everyone,
I'm a 54 yr old female who suffers from major depression and have really
been struggling lately.
It's nice to chat online but I'd love to find new
friends to chat to and catch up with for walks, coffee
etc.
People who know what it's like to suffer the way
we do. Share our stories and solutions and most of
all laughter!
I live a quite isolated life with my partner and dogs
no children, so I'd love to make some new friends
10 Replies 10

MyLadyGirl
Community Member

Hello A League of One

I know your post is old and I am new. We can talk if you want to.

Holt372
Community Member
Hi.
I feel the same way. I am new. I'm 48 and just want someone to talk to that I don't have to put a brave face on with.

Hi Holt372,

I know exactly how you feel. I am 50 and have been strong for so long (serious medical issue then exacerbated by husband cheating a month after diagnosis) and I feel I have reached a point where I can’t plaster over the cracks any longer. It feels so selfish but I need someone to listen to me for once, I need to not be strong for a bit, and somewhere where I won’t be judged for my weakness. And strangely it helps that I do t feel so alone reading other people’s stories, I see I am not the only person hurting.

i don’t even know if that makes sense. If you need to talk, I can listen!

Hi. I’ve just registered on here today for the first time. I just turned 47 and my last 2 1/2 years have been horrible. I’m always willing to help. I’m a good listener.

___s___
Community Member

Hello. This may sound weird but I’m very young, I’m a female and I’m here because I guess I’ve felt for a while that I have anxiety. Im not clinically proven. I haven’t told anyone. Is that bad? I don’t know if I should even be on here but it feels good to let go a little bit. I cry a lot. Sometimes I want to cry but the tears don’t come out. I feel a lot of the time that I’m a complete failure and disappointment to my friends and family. Then when I hear others issues I feel selfish and dramatic because I know a lot of others are going through really tough times and I’m just going on about how I feel sad and I’m always crying and nervous and nauseous. I don’t know what I’m doing anymore. I feel like I’m always taking and not giving. I feel as though that no one is truely loyal. But that’s just paranoia. You know what nevermind I’m just being complicated and making my life seem so bad when it really isn’t. Does that make sense? I don’t know. I don’t think I’m making any sense. Oh well I’ll just go on and suck it up because I don’t want others around me to suffer with me and carry around my burden. I don’t deserve the people around me they are great, my mind just twists words into thinking completely different things. Anyway I really hope that everyone hear feels better after sharing, that’s brave. Have a great 2020.

BKind
Community Member

Hi ...s...

I think it sounds like you should be on here and I agree, it's really brave to share. And it may not feel like it to you just now, but you are making sense. That feeling of being a disappointment to family and friends can be overwhelming, can't it? But sharing your pain with others doesn't mean they have to suffer and it doesn't mean you're a burden. Reaching out here on the forums is a great step. Reading about the experiences of others and especially the amazing support that other members provide has been a source of great hope for me. I really encourage you to keep reaching out. And please post again so we know how you're going. Take care and be kind to yourself.

Lady_Nova
Community Member

I am 53
I am diagnosed with GAD, MDD and c-PTSD
I also have isolation as an issue. I care for my disabled family, partner and 2 sons

We are all braver than we give ourselves credit for.

All the services I used to access have all disappeared. Mental health mentoring, carer services, community engagement ...

I have two friends, but they have huge personal issues, and I have taken on being their support. There is nothing really to support me.

Thank you for starting this conversation. Together we dont have to be alone

Guest_4643
Community Member

Hi A League of One, I just saw your post now scrolling through the BB Social Zone so my apologies, I hope you don't mind.

I'm sorry to hear of your struggles. I'm 20 and have been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, Social Anxiety, Generalised Anxiety Disorder (or just Anxiety), Avoidant Personality Disorder and PTSD.

I'd love to chat with you and be your friend if you're still on the forums and still around. Take care, I hope things improve for you. Hope to see you around sometime if you're still on BB.

Tayla

Cassidy2
Community Member
Hi, I understand your situation. I am very young, only 15. But a lot of the times I feel lost and sad. My parents are really strict and they have very high expectation of me. I have a brother who i have to look after cause he has autism. At school I don't have friends so I often feel like I don't belong anywhere and that nobody will listen or understand me.