In hospital geoff

[geoff]

Geoff in hospital trying to use my iPhone and login if and getting to BB is atrocious for me and even whatI type isn't correct so I am going to this phone away when I get out and CHirstopher hope I spelt it correct I a. Going to.be disappointed if I miss the bus in my area as I'm not even sure I will be of here. I. have tried the enlarger the screen but that's useless to me so all up I'm sore and frustrated and missing the site bugger it Geoff

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff.  I see Amy today actually.  She's between 20 and 30, so she's not young as such, but she's not that experienced with life, either.  She is not married and I don't think she is in a relationship either.  She has never had to deal with awkward parents or in-laws, I know (I asked her).  We do get on, but a lot of that, unfortunately, is because I don't contradict her.  If that sounds as though I'm 'blowing my own trumpet' I'm not.  She has all the uni qualifications, but as she gets older, hopefully, she'll get 'life's' experiences which will give her different qualifications that she won't get out of a book.  I do like her, but she does have a lot to learn about people.  A couple of times I've disagreed with her and I've told her why.  I admit, she does listen and then realize she's wrong, so that's a plus for both of us.  I see my Dr Thursday about my face, it's itchy and quite red where I've been applying the cream.  I'm getting heartily sick of applying the cream.  L keeps telling me to rub it in, he doesn't watch, so he doesn't know what he's talking about.  I ignore that, now.  Most of the councilors with Amy are about her age, the older ones get fed up with todays nonsensical youth's ideas I think.  Even our church's youth councilor's get fed-up with the loutish behavior way's of todays youths.  Gee, that makes me sound old, but I was brought up to respect my elders, todays kids don't because they're not taught.  I'll let you know how today goes with Amy.  Much love P. xxx       

[geoff]

dear Pipsy, only young compared to the both of us, but both my sons say things to me which is how the younger generation think, I suppose we were no different to our parents, well years ago, boy, my grandma used to say how time goes quicker as you get older, but my sons say the same.

Let us know how you go with Amy, and there's nothing wrong with disagreeing with she says. I do the same with my psych.

I bet you could tell her a few stories that would interest her, but it's part of learning for her.

Can you tell your doctor what you think about the cream, and if it's actually working because your been on it for a couple of months.

Take care. L Geoff. xx

[pipsy]

Geoff, you're right about Amy being young compared with us.  I hadn't thought about it from that point of view.  It's good to get another point of view.  When I was young I did enjoy hearing about how my mother and father were raised.  My father's father was an absolute tyrant.  He did not believe in men showing their feelings, that was considered 'sissy'.  He would sail into my dad over just about anything.  The problem was, my dad tried to treat my brother and I the same and because we were a different generation, we rebelled.  Dad didn't know how to deal with this and the arguments were horrendous.  Mum's family were softer, but she was hard.  Mum's sisters were lovely and I miss them terribly.  Yes I intend discussing the cream with my Dr, it's only been about a month, but that's all I was told to use it for, anyway.  It seems longer.  All the best. L. Pip. xxx 

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff.  Had an interesting time with Amy.  Trying to learn how to communicate with L from what Amy is teaching.  Unfortunately, because of L's chauvinistic father's ideas it's an uphill battle.  L is one of these men who WON'T be told by a 'mere' woman how to act.  I have tried to explain to him about how angry and hurt he makes me feel when he talks 'down' to me.  He has told me, that's my problem.  Amy gave me some ideas on how to talk to him, but he won't allow me a chance to explain how I feel.  I told Amy this and she's suggested he come with me so she can talk to both of us and maybe she can get him to realize it's not okay to keep 'brushing' me off.  I didn't say to him I felt he was 'brushing' me off, I just said maybe he could come and talk about his feelings.  However, when I mentioned it to him, no way.  As far as he's concerned, he has the last say.  Are all men like this, I know you're not, but men in general.  I can't believe they are, I'm out of my depth on this.  Oh, dear, I was doing so well, now I have to just shut up and let L have the final word.  I do admit to screaming in frustration - counterproductive, but why won't he at least listen when I try and tell him how hurt I feel when he 'brushes' me off?  I honestly don't know how much longer I can put up with it.  I don't trust him and that's bad and sad.  I think the best thing I can do is just get on with my life.  Thanks for listening.  Much love P.  xxx 

[geoff]

dear Pipsy, isn't it interesting because Mum and Dad hardly spoke about their parents, and as Dad was a doctor his father couldn't pay for his training because he was bankrupt, so Dad's grand father supported him financially throughhis whole course.

Dad's dad did recover and imported those little squigly games that came in cereal boxes, plus many other funny little toys.

How did you go with Amy, and doctor tomorrow.

All the best. L Geoff. x

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff, you're last letter was interesting, but obviously you wrote just before my last letter appeared.  My last letter is just above your last one.  I see the Dr tomorrow, hopefully tomorrow is also the last time I use the cream, as well.  How did you get on with maternal grandparents and paternal grandparents?  I got on fabulously with dad's mum, but mum's dad, I couldn't stand.  He was a heavy whisky drinker who lived with mum's youngest sister after their mother died.  He led my poor aunt a hard life.  She was married to a farmer and had 4 kids, so that, plus him, it's a wonder she's still alive today.  She's 85, a widow, after 64 happy married years, that was sad for her.  But life is wonderful, now.  Mum was no help, she was too selfish, the other sister was a cripple, so couldn't do much.  We had no contact with dad's side, at all.  Mum didn't get along with them, so dad chose her, how's that for unconditional love.  Wish L could do the same.  Never mind, won't dwell, just enjoy my life.  Let you know about the Dr after tomorrow.  Much love, Pip. xxx 

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff.  Saw the Dr today, all the tests came back 'clear'.  No thyroid condition, blood sugar levels great, iron levels great, cholesterol great.  Disgusting isn't it, lol.  The thing on my face healing well, two more weeks with the cream, cease after that, see Dr two weeks later.  The usual warning with the cream, any problems, cease use.  I don't think I'll have any problems, if I was going to, I would've by now.  I'm off to a '60th' birthday function in two weeks, it's one of the 'elders' at the church.  L's not going, he knows him slightly, he's just not interested.  He wants me to go to a dinner here in the village in a couple of weeks, don't know whether to or not.  I seem to be doing all the 'giving' if I go.  I give in enough now.  Maybe he should take m/d, meow.  Nearly had my car written off today, not amused.  Cheers, much love.  Pip. xxx   

[geoff]

dear Pipsy, that's great news about the blood tests a perfect 64 year old, and the cream is working, we couldn't wish for anything better, whow fantastic.

What happened about your car, are you able to drive it.

I hardly knew my grand parents, but with Dad's parents his dad was also a whisky drinker with milk but died when I was about 5 while Dad's mum we were always prime and proper with her and manners were a must, while Mum's dad was always in hospital and hardly knew him, while her mum came and lived with us and passed away in her late 80's.

Mum was lovely but was put into a nursing home too soon, but she had a knee replacement and was not given any physio so she couldn't walk, and I remember when I was with her by myself and she knew what would happen to her as time passed bye, and asked me if I could do something to her so she wouldn't end up being a vegetable, but I told her that I couldn't, and wished that maybe I could because she died as being a vegetable, couldn't talk, walk or communicate at all, so that thought always sticks with me.

I know that you will get back to me which is lovely. L Geoff. xx

[pipsy]

Hi Geoff.  As I told you I have two birthday celebrations coming up.  One in N.Z, a friend who has a birthday early next month and the elder who is in a couple of weeks.  I had decided to go to the local shopping centre to get some wrapping and a card.  I was driving down our street, right down the bottom, you veer left, just as you get to a t junction, where you turn right, if you want to.  As I approached the 'veer' left corner, an idiot in a 4 wheel drive flew past me, realized he had to turn right, ducked back right in front of me, then did a sharp turn right at the t junction.  If I had been doing the speed limit, (I had slowed down for the corner).  He would've plowed into me, possibly killing me.  He didn't even see me.  The car's fine, I was shaken, but not hurt.  My car is a two door Hyundai Getz (my pride and joy).  I told L, he just shrugged and said, there's some idiots.   We've just heard last night L's father's found a lump on his back.  Finger's crossed it's not the big C.  He's had a biopsy.  We'll know sometime next week.  Let you know when we know.  Hear from you later.  Love P.xx  

[geoff]

dear Pipsy, I am so pleased that your safe, and guess what I dreamt of last night being in a car accident.

Being shaken up still means that you have to recover and can make you nervous, so please take the greatest care.

It's never nice when someone gets a lump that could mean it's cancer, so I do wish him the best, but what I hope doesn't happen is that L thinks this is more important than what you are going through. L Geoff. xx