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Why do some of us deny ourselves "Happiness"
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Hey Everyone,
I ask this question because it's something I Have been doing for a long time, but, I know why I have been doing it.
I questioned it and had to ask myself "Why" Why am I doing this, did I do something wrong? Do I feel I have to deny myself happiness as some sort of punishment. NO! I didn't do anything wrong I was however made to feel like I had and I guess it became ingrained, deeply ingrained so any form of happiness felt strange and I would start to look for ways to diminish it.
Sure there are things that make me happy like spending time with my children, I do feel happy when I'm with them.
What I'm referring to is being able to enjoy socialising and getting back into my hobbies etc. How many times have you put something off, something that you know deep down would have given you some happiness ?
I guess I'm curious to hear other peoples thoughts on this and maybe even some insight as to how to overcome this problem.
James.
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dear CMF, I'm sure the reason why I now hate doing those tasks is because I was still doing them when I was depressed, so my association then became a real struggle forcing myself, that's why I loathe doing any.
I can see your point of view about not having to worry what the person will think, and indeed this does make you to be strong, unfortunately it's something which you can't see for yourself, but that's just your self esteem not kicking in, and this does take time, but trust me it just slowly works in the background, because really no one knows when their confidence does kick back in, it just happens as our mood improves.
We never jump up and down screaming to the world 'look I have it back again', because we are too scared to do this.
There have been many people here on this site who first post and their comments have been that they in an awful situation, and there's no doubt that they are, and in desperate need for advice and support, but after awhile you can tell from their comments that they have changed, and eventually gained more confidence in themselves and that's what is great about them, they have suddenly realised that they aren't alone and can now achieve more than they could before. Geoff.
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