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Wilma
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I have major anxiety problems that have been caused from me not being able to open up to anyone.  I have had a good gp who has helped me in talking to them at least and have seen a psychologist and therapist but my problem is when I leave their office it is so easy to see what to do but so hard to put into practice.  I feel I need more than a visit a fortnight to help me.  My gp has now moved out of town so need to start all over again.  My partner can't understand me when I don't either and I have turned away and don't show any affection to him which we both don't understand.  I seem to have given up on everything I can't fix which isn't good considering I have a family and run a business,  which are both feeling it.  I don't see any friends or family much and when I do I tell them I am fine.  One of my sons has anxiety problems which with my own problems are not helping him because I can't be strong for him like I need to.  I have tried medication but they made me feel unwell and don't know if I can wait months to try other ones.  Everything just seems so hard when it's not really, it's just the way I see it.  My partner also has depression problems and it is seeming harder to help myself with the other problems around me.  I have been told not to take on my partners problems, only my kids, but it's so hard not to take them on as I know he takes mine on.  I have no suicidal thoughts which being in a country town puts you near the bottom of the list.  Just very confused, broken and lost.
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Doolhof
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi Wilma,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue Community and thanks for sharing your story. There are so many people out there who are struggling with depression, anxiety, stress and so many other aspects of mental health issues!

I am so sorry to read that you are struggling so badly. I would advise you to return to the Drs and try to sort things out with a new Dr. I do understand that is a hassle, but if you go to the same clinic then they will have your notes on record.

You do need some help, as does your son and your husband. Are there counsellors in your town or close by that you could go and chat with? Would your husband join you?

Do you and your husband have time free on the weekends? Could you plan something really quite different for you both to do? Sometimes a change in routine is very helpful.

Have you looked up the information available here at Beyond Blue regarding depression and anxiety? I find that the more I know about depression and stress which is what I suffer from, I am better able to understand it and help myself.

Can you make a list of things that need to be done and then just slowly work through it?

Write down what is bothering you and then try and think of ways to combat those concerns.

Do something outside the box, buy a colouring in book and pencils for your self. Work on a jigsaw puzzle. Go for a walk or a run.  Bake some bread. All of that kneading is good therapy! Ha. Ha.

Check out other posts here and see if you can find ideas that might help you.

All the best. Cheers for now, from Mrs. Dools

 

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Wilma, I also want to welcome you to the BB site, and I am so pleased that Mrs. Dools has given you some important information.

Can I suggest on top of what she has said is for you to click under 'Resources' at the top of this page and order all the printed material from BB, it's all free, but it explains so much on depression/anxiety which will benefit you, your husband and your son.   L Geoff. x