Not talking about my anxiety around friends when you want to open up.

[Beaser]

Hi and best wishes.     

When im around friends everything seems better . I forget and relax and dont tend to be honest about how tough im doing things.  When im home alone things really hit me and i get distraught again and i wish i had of opened up about just how hard im finding things .. Ive made a decision to be honest with people but i dont because im feeling ok at the time.  I was wondering do other people have similar experiences.    Brett

[white knight]

Hi Brett

Imagine an astronaut visiting your home. He/she tries to explain how they walked on the moon and all the operations needed. Would you ever get a "feeling" of what it was like? I don't think so.

The same with mental health issues,  we can explain away to family and friends but trying to describe depression, something they cannot see nor feel, leaves them with an response akin to hopelessness.

That's why this forum exists and why we have professionals helping the unwell.

So my advice is- have no expectations of understanding from others except for those that have lived with a mental health problem. 

TonyWK 

[geoff]

Hello Brett, 'opening up to the wrong person' and I'm sure many of us have actually done this because of need or by mistake, because we aren't sure whether or not they are going to spread rumours to people who we don't want to know about as they may bully us, just for want of comtempt.

Even people we thought we could trust may suddenly turn against us, that's when it upsets us to know that they won't support us.

Stay safe my friend.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[Beaser]

Thanks Geoff    I always appreciate hearing from you.   Sadly with  no family to turn to i have opened up to many people . I think ive been lucky in that i havent heard any thing bad come back .  I guess though maybe i wouldnt.  

Im struggling at the moment and i just find it hard not too.    These forums and hearing back from people is one of my only saviours at the moment      Thanks Geoff

[confirmed08]

Hi Beaser, 

Absolutely, I relate to this way too much. I cannot stand the idea of opening up to my friends or family. It always used to be that I felt great hanging out with them, but then alone I felt incredibly low. But now I just feel detached whenever I’m with them, like I don’t belong, leading to me beginning to isolate from them. 

I hate the idea of burdening them with my worries and concerns, thinking they’ll find it too much like I believe my ex girlfriend did. The same with my family, I opened up once to them and it just lead to me feeling so much guilt for worrying and burdening them further. 

Sounds like a great idea to choose to be honest with people. Not only is it a great quality to have, but I’m sure by discussing these feelings with them, it will only lead to good things. Glad to hear you are taking good steps to push past the uncomfortably of talking about these things. 

Apologies for it becoming more of a discussion about myself, just trying to relate to yourself and your situation 🙂

Take care!

[Beaser]

Thank you CO8

Dont apologise for anything as its great to hear from you . Thanks for your words of support and sharing your story.  Im always happy to talk further.

Brett