Nearly 30 and I Feel Lost

[gluckspilz]

I’m almost thirty and it’s made me realise how little I’ve achieved in my life. I thought of having a party but I don’t have anybody to invite. I’ve never dated anyone, I work in a dead-end casual job and I still live with my parents. I’m too scared to drive a car and it’s getting very frustrating. I thought I would do a lot better than how it’s ended up. I feel so sorry for my parents because I’ve been such a big disappointment to them. I’m very unhappy with my life. I’ve tried to join groups this past year to make friends but it’s not really working. I don’t want to live like this for the rest of my life. I hate being so lonely and I feel like a child not an adult. Any advice would be appreciated. 

[On The Road]

Hi, gluckspilz

I wanted to say something valuable but as I go through your post I realized how similar your situation is to mine... and now I'm stuck. 

I have no particular advice for you at the moment as I'm struggling myself, I was trying to solve my problems one by one but it seemed not working... I think I can resonate with you about being so lonely and feeling like a child, feeling sorry for the parents... Peers around me have stable jobs, stable friend circles, and settling down...while me felt like I fulfilled nothing...

 Have you thought about attending counseling sessions, if it's available for you and you feel comfortable with that. and regarding specific issues they would refer you to some services such as career consulting. 

All I can say is I'm hearing you, and you are not alone...

[gluckspilz]

Thanks for your reply 🙂 I’m sure we’ll both figure it out but it feels like sometimes it would be so nice to know the direction you need to go in. Just to have someone to tell you what the first step is. COVID really set us all back a bit too 😕