Name your Trigger Points

[geoff]

Hi Everyone, interested to know what your trigger points are, and knowing the warning signs that may foreshadow a relapse, can help you to avoid it.

These may differ from day to day and in different situations but each one is important to know.

-moving house is never good for me, and that's just for starters.

All the best.

Geoff.

[Ggrand]

Hi Geoff and everyone.....🤗..

Thank you Geoff...There is no excuse for fighting or swearing in public...I feel they should keep it all at home...Being respectful to everyone including spouses and children when out in public..should not be hard for anyone..

Tony...my Dr. counsellor and Psychiatrist always stresses how important sleep is for both our mental and physical health...In hospital the first question the nurses and peer workers ask is...how did you sleep?....

Lack of sleep makes us more vulnerable and emotional which causes our triggers to down us a lot quicker and deeper..

My kind thoughts lovely people..

Grandy..

[geoff]

Hello Ggrand, and everyone else who has replied, but I agree a lack of sleep can open the door for many problems that could range from family, work and/or social issues as well as lack of confidence and self esteem.

The problem is if we are beginning to feel sad which starts into becoming depressed then these trigger points are much more susceptible than they usually would be, we aren't able to fight them off or avoid the strength they have to overtake us.

Hi Harpbird, just curious if you have looked at 'intrusive thoughts' which people may have, especially if they're suffering from OCD, that's what happens to me.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Harpbird]

Hey Geoff,

intrusive thoughts. ?
Not sure what it means 🤦🏻‍♀️ But if you mean by friends family arguing and not getting on makes me go into myself or worrying about my grandchildren dying on me then that all consuming me as I really do wish I wasn’t here anymore then that would be my intrusive thoughts.

[Boudica]

Hey Harpbird,

It sounds like you are an amazing Grandma, and doing so much to help your daughter. Your daughter and grandkids are very lucky to have you. I'm sorry for the loss of your Grandson. It is saddest when those who have not yet had a chance at life are lost. Your triggers must really be making day to day functioning really hard, I hope you find something that can help you.

[geoff]

Hello Harpbird, 'intrusive thoughts' seem to become stuck in our mind and can cause distress since the thought might be upsetting and can reoccur frequently, making the situation worse.

Other people can also have these thoughts but if they have no desire or reason why they should act on them and it doesn't persist then that's normally, but if they keep on annoying you then anxiety and/or OCD may be the reason why.

If the thought of worrying about your grandchildren keeps on persisting and you can't find a solution then talking with a psychologist would help you understand what they mean, but the more you try and dismiss these thoughts the more they will annoy you.

I hope that helps you but would certainly love to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[geoff]

I am sure there are many triggers that people with an addiction have

-facing an awkward day

-disagreement with your partner and/or spouse

-a situation you were trying to avoid or one you were forced to do by a partner and/or family members for a family gathering

-being called an alcoholic can be a reason why you start once again, who cares.

The list goes on.

Geoff.

[Harpbird]

Thanks Geoff, I sit up again all night watching my grandchild. I have been meaning to ring my psychologist for an appointment, my osteopath told me to ring her again. ( he has been through this with our family, he treats most of us and knows that I am still blaming myself) I WILL ring for an appointment tomorrow. XX

[geoff]

Hello Harpbird, we can blame ourselves for what's happened or the problem it's caused or we feel responsible for what a person actually does and tend to make us believe that it's our fault they have done this and then take the unnecessary blame, this may be incorrect.

Let us know if you have made an appointment.

Best wishes.

Geoff.

[Harpbird]

You see Geoff, it is my fault. I was nursing our bub for 4 hours trying to settle him, I should have woke his mum and decided to take him to hospital then , not letting him almost die in my arms . I can never forgive myself for that. Yes he did have a heart defect but if only I was more conscious and read the signs .

[Boudica]

Hello Harpbird,

How devastating for you to lose a beloved grandchild in those circumstances. With children we are always making judgement calls. No doubt you were trying your best to let your daughter have rest by settling an unsettled child. You acted on what you knew at the time, and likely did the same as most people would do with the information you had. We can't know the future, and hindsight can be so painful after tragedy. I hope you are receiving support to help you through this.