Life is Hard

[TheGuyYouHate]

I really have no idea how this works and i am very sorry im not the smartest person in the world, so this might be a little difficult to read. Im a 19 year old guy and i just dont know how to move on, i have recently been involved in a rather lengthy legal situation and i have been mistreated by the police. I find myself constantly afraid and anxious the fear of not knowing what my feature legal status will be is really getting to me. i find it hard to go out as the police had released my name, making everyone i see feel like enemies. I thought i was okay for a few months but just recently i realised that im really not okay and i have no idea how im going to move on. if anyone has any advice please it would mean so much to me for you to give me a hand. ( i havent been able to see a counsellor or a psychologist for a few months now as i cant find a job due to the police releasing my name)   

[Scotty2013]

Hi there chances are the normal person such as myself prob has no idea who are you, unless i keep up to date with things. Do you think you could be over thinking it a bit to much?, legal hassles can sure drain you though keep your chin up!

[Kelseyando]

Hi Scott 🙂

My name is Kelsey and I'm 21 years old. I couldn't help but feel for you're current situation. It's hard to give advice when I don't know what you are going through. 

My brother had a similar situation to you. The police used to come to our place all the time and check up on him and it was like they were wanting him to stuff up.

 I would just take one day at a time. 🙂

nothing too bad will happen because if it was as bad as you're making yourself believe, you would be in jail. 

It's easier said than done I know but you will be okay:) I promise you. 

I really hope you feel better soon xx

[CrashCoyote]

Hi TGYH,

I don't hate you and I was a NSW policeman for thirty years!

Scotty2013 is right. No one remembers people that are identified in the media except maybe the Ivan Milat's and Bilal Skaf's. Ask anyone to name five people that have been convicted of murder in the last two years and you'll be hard pressed to find anyone that can. I guess if you are in a very small town it is a problem.

I do not know what the police did to mistreat you and I know not every police officer manages every situation well, but I do believe most police try to be as fair as possible so you must have had a bit of bad luck in your case.

Without knowing your situation, or if you actually did anything illegal or were exonerated, if the accusation was very serious, etc, it is hard to give you any good advice. I'm not sure about other states but in NSW the legal system is generally open and transparent (unlike some countries like North Korea or Turkey) and once people face open court, their names are public. (Unless they are children or the court makes a suppression order.) I think it is a good thing that the Government cannot secretly try people and does not have the ability to hold people incommunicado.

If you are able to give some brief details (if you wish) it might help clarify why you are the subject of so much attention, but really it is like Kelsey said. Whatever it was is done and you just have to move on one day at a time.

If I can help I will but I understand if you don't want my view.

Kind regards, John.