Hi MoodedOut
I think you should be proud of yourself for inspiring others to add ventures to life, instead of them repeating the same old ventures all the time. Adventuring can lead people to evolve, bringing them to life more. When it comes to adventuring or adding ventures, there'll be some hits and some misses. While the hits can feel invigorating, the misses can definitely be challenging in a number of ways.
Not sure whether you can relate to the following but I find that when the people pleaser in me and my inner critic get together they can become a highly stressful or depressing tag team, depending on the situation. While the people pleaser in me may be dictating 'You've upset that person. If you hadn't have been so selfish, you could have pleased them instead', my inner critic can start up with 'You're a horrible person, for being so self serving'. What might start off as a bit of inner dialogue can, at times, turn into a raging tornado of thoroughly convincing words. Took me decades to discover inner dialogue is only convincing if I believe it. Also took me a long time to figure out what tends to trigger the people pleaser and critic in me. How they work, what they sound like and how they lead me to feel (from an emotional perspective) are just some of many other factors.
I've found it's in the nature of every facet of me to have a bright side and a dark side or a positive and a negative side. While the people pleaser in me can be handy in pointing out many of the inspiring ways in which I could possibly please people, it can also point out many of the ways in which I haven't pleased people. While my inner critic can be handy in pointing to how or why I failed to achieve something, so that I can learn and succeed the next time, it can also have me compiling depressing lists of all the things I've failed at.
Reconnecting with the adventurer in you, that may have insisted you lead your parents to try something new and possibly exciting, what would that part of you say under the circumstances? Maybe 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained' or perhaps 'Good on you for leading them to try something new' or maybe something else that points to the truth. Perhaps it would be inclined to dictate 'Okay, we can cross that one off the list. Let's move onto the next adventure. Maybe Thai food or something else' 😁
