Landlord selling apartment where I live, can't stop ruminating and feeling anxious

[zippedzipp]

Hi all,

I have been having immense anxiety over the apartment that my housemate and I live in being sold. Currently, it is still on market and we have to have two open inspections a week (which is so invasive and awful tbh). We're hoping an investor buys it so as we can stay on as tenants.

I have severe anxiety, depression as well as adhd and having a change in my living situation just about breaks me. The uncertainty that comes with renting is dreadful but I am in no place to afford my own home.

The apartments goes to auction next weekend so we should know who buys it then and if we're staying or not. I'm sad too as I've planned a trip to Japan in May and I hope this won't affect it (if we had to move, I don't want to be stressing while on my trip).

I realise this doesn't read very well but I'm sort of just brain dumping. I guess I'm just hoping to hear some sort of validation, "it's going to be okay"... that sort of thing. Ultimately though, I actually do know it's going to be okay, I just hate not knowing what's going to happen to me and it's really affecting my everyday life. I can't stop ruminating on it. I can't even make plans with friends because I genuinely feel like I'm too busy ruminating (I'm sure people can relate to that feeling?). I feel like I can't even clean my room properly because I'm thinking "who cares, it may not even be my room soon"

I talked with my psych about it today. She recommended taking cold showers, going for runs, things that'll get my heart rate up to sort of even out my adrenaline (she explained it much better than that). I need to pull myself out of this and put my focus onto other things. It's. just. so. hard. to. do. Because all I feel i have capacity to do in rot in bed scrolling on Domain.com crying at how little options there are and how rent seems to be even MORE expensive these days.

I'll end my brain dump here. Thank you in advanced to anyone who read this far and / or replied. I hope this feeling passes soon.

[BlueLily]

Hi zippedzipp,

Welcome back to the forum. Sorry to hear you are going through an uncertain time.

Your anxiety seems totally valid, I can very well relate to that. I like to plan things ahead myself and be aware of what's coming. It makes me very uncomfortable having to change things. Just like you, I've had scenarios where it was so uncertain if I would have to move or not, I ended up totally giving up tidying house. This was very hard because with OCD living in an untidy house is very triggering for me.

Your psychologist have provided you great tips for anxiety. Additionally I like to have a plan in situations like this to reduce my level of anxiety, which feels like a logical solution. Perhaps you can discuss with your agent if in case it's not a investor buying the house, when would you have to move out. Then have few rentals narrowed down, or even apply for few you like. I find Realestate app is great, specially the Map view where you can see newly popped up houses in your specified area. You can request reference from your old agent as well for your application. 

That way you can make sure you move by May so you can continue your travel plans. Who knows, this may be a blessing in disguise if you find a better rental for cheaper/same price. So change is not always a bad thing. So know that it will be ok!

Japan is my favourite holiday destination, so I hope you have an amazing time there!