Im feeling overwhelmed.Loneliness and guilt.Dont want to lose friends.

[Beaser]

Hi and best wishes. I am starting to feel myself slide again . I have long been involved in my local football club and having been single for so long so it has been like my family and my support network. I have a partner now and she isnt that interested i dont know how to go about things as far as continuing my involvement. I dont want to lose her over it but i need my friends and my social network. I have had a huge battle with depression and anxiety for my most of my life. I have leant on people for support too much at times and im scared that i may not have that support anymore because they may be tired of it. I have sruggled with work for so long as a result. I just want to be happy again .I feel like im on this horrible treadmill and never get anywhere. I would appreciate any feedback and thoughts from anyone i hope i have described my situation ok as it is hard to do . Thanks for reading and best wishes . Brett.

[jtjt_4862]

Heya Brett,

It certainly can get scary when starting a new job. You lose the convenience of taking leave whenever you need, in exchange for a new role that you have no idea about. If it helps in any way, perhaps you could see your choices as Options rather than right or wrong. The options you choose will lead to an outcome that can either be great or challenging. But regardless of the outcome, know that you're more than capable in handling it, because humans strive to survive. There's always something that can be learned and appreciated from an outcome, and it'll always better you for the future.

Curious to know more, what is it in your current job that you feel is demoralizing and demotivating you from continuing there?

Jt

[Beaser]

Hi and thanks again JT .

In regards to my work it has just become a very negative environment with big staff turnover. There is a lot of negativity and complaining . I just find myself going through the motions and getting through the day as best as possible . I have found myself lying awake at night dreading the thought of going to work and spending Sundays dreading the week ahead . i think that is a sign in itself . Brett Always great to hear from you .

[Beaser]

Sorry about the missing punctuation at the end LOL

[jtjt_4862]

Heya Brett,

Is the negativity and complaining going towards you? Or are they in the form of gossips around the office? A toxic environment is not a great place to be working in, and if it's already affecting your mental health, then you're right that it's a sign to leave the place for something else.

There's also the option of trying to make a change in your current workplace, so that the environment improves for the company, which also improves for you too. But that takes tremendous effort, and it requires management to acknowledge and recognize that there is an issue in the workplace. If you've voiced out your opinion and management have brushed it off, then it is definitely time to look for other opportunities else where.

Jt

[Beaser]

Hi and thanks again JT . I couldnt say the negativity is directed at me ,i just feel it is a workplace with a lot of unhappy and uninspired people. I work in a physical outdoors environment and i can distance myself to some extent . I have done this for a long time and im tired of it . I have also confided in several colleagues and they think im doing the right thing. Im scared and on edge about starting a new job but maybe thats the price i need to pay to be happier in life . I worry if i can handle a new job but i feel its my best option .

Thank you again JT always good to hear from you .

[Beaser]

Hi and best wishes to everyone .

Really battling at the moment as i just feel so alone and dont know who to turn too . Im scared of falling into despair again . I spoke to my phycologist yesterday and he thinks im doing the right things with a job change and handling my break from my partner. Its just so much to have going on .. Best wishes to everyone Brett .

[Sophie_M]

Dear Beaser,
 
We are sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time recently, but we’re glad to hear your psychologist thinks you’re on the right track. You have been making a lot of difficult and life changing decisions recently and we just wanted to remind you we’re here if you feel overwhelmed and need a chat.
 
So, if you need us, we are always here for you. If you feel you need to talk or honestly just need a chat, please contact Beyond Blue either via phone 1300 22 4636 or web chat: http://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support
 
Warm regards
Sophie M
 

[Beaser]

Thanks Sophie. Real battle for me at the moment but doing my best. Brett

[jtjt_4862]

Hi Brett,

Hope you're doing well. It is indeed a tough battle, and you're really doing your best navigating and dealing with all the problems that you are facing at the moment. Sometimes it's okay to admit defeat, retreat and recuperate, so that you can come back to the battle again tomorrow with a fresher mind. When you retreat and recuperate, you may come across things and ideas that you never thought of that may help you with your battle.

Happy to listen to you more if you'd like to share what is on your mind.

Jt

[Beaser]

Hi and Thanks JT .

Got through the weekend ,spent Saturday at my local football club . That was good for me , Sunday was a bit tough just went to my local and then to my friends place . I have been texting and spoke to my ex on the phone. Maybe not a good thing and going against what im being told by people i respect here and by friends . Im not sure about the best way to handle things if im honest im feeling very lonely . I have no family to talk with or visit .The football club has become my family and safe place. Im 56 and im feeling a bit fragile about life ahead. I have become very much a creature of habit with where i go and where i feel safe ,It makes me a bit sad but its the way i have become and i cant help it . Thanks JT. Be great to hear back from you or any other BB members Brett .