Feeling Scared Again.

[Beaser]

Hi and best wishes to everyone.  I know that there are people doing it so much harder than me. But i just feel defeated at the moment.  Im just so lonely and i miss my ex partner so much and i know i have to move on .I started a new job that i was going well at but i couldnt go in on Wednesday and i feel really bad about it. Im sick of fighting this battle and im tired from it. Just how much do i have to go through . Im sorry to be on such a downer but i dont know where to turn to at the moment.    If i break it down im lonely and scared.

I wish every one a good day .   Brett.

[HamSolo01]

hey moonstruck 

sorry to hear about what you are going through at the moment

I must say that lately I have found that it is better to treat every interaction with another human as if it was their or my last one. What do i mean by this? I mean that I seek to make every human interaction a positive one. One whereby I am bringing about goodness into the world. 
In the role I occupy for work presently I see A LOT of grimness and evil. On Easter Sunday I attended a catholic mass and I'm not even catholic. From here I was able to realise something  - that we are all in this thing called life together. I'm realising too that so many people in the  modern west are lonely. Like so many are lonely. It's a sad indictment on our society. But I refuse to live in that sadness. Instead I live in a place of gratitude and goodness. 

I think what you're feeling is normal my friend, I really do. I'd be the same after losing a partner. 

I believe you are stronger than this loneliness you feel my friend - Where can you send it? I'm not sure. But maybe a start is to realise that so many know it. In all age ranges too btw. 

Do take care of yourself 

H

[HamSolo01]

hey Beaser

Sorry I haven't been around for a while. 

I do hope your car is okay - it's actually a common error people make so don't beat yourself up over it. It's something I'm always worried about when I get fuel actually. 

I think you're perfectly within your rights to look for something else if you are not enjoying your job. I had this experience late last year, but realised that my attitude towards myself was the issue and so I learned to ease off on myself and instead focus on looking for ways in which I could challenge the parts of myself that needed to be challenged (arrogance, attitude, chip on my shoulder or similar, comparing myself to others). 

Self compassion helps a lot. I encourage you to do the same. 

[HamSolo01]

or perhaps put another way - you're only human 

[Beaser]

Really stuck at the moment im scared about startng a new job and i feel lonely and scared . Its hard with no one to turn to. Im worried about where im going in life.       Brett.

[GreenEgg]

Hi Beaser

I really feel for you, starting a new job is hard enough with support and when it’s something that really calls to you.

One of my ‘homework’ assignments is around value driven behaviours, and unpacking what I value. It’s something I’ve found really difficult. But going through it with my psychologist helped a bit, they gave some examples of theirs and had a sheet with them with things like helping, knowledge, relationships, religion. Seeing it I realised I do have more values than I thought, for me around helping, kindness while things like religion aren’t.

I felt silly the whole time because for every value I instantly had a negative, like I value helping people and animals but I instantly dismissed it as well how would I be able to help. But thinking on it for a bit even if I’m not ready for big steps I think maybe there’s some small ones I can try and see how that goes. 

Ham I really like your one about treating every interaction like it might be the last.

G

[Beaser]

Things are getting so tough to cope with again. I just feel scared about my ability to cope . Im so alone and i worry that people find my situation too hard and im a burden.  Ive been to see all my Drs etc and changed medication. Sometimes i just want to run away and disappear. My dogs are getting too much for me to cope with and i dont know what to do or where to turn Sorry to be on a downer  but i need to turn somewhere.     Love and best wishes   Brett 

[Beaser]

Im feeling very overwhelmed again. I just dont know where to turn  . Its just so lonely for me at times with fighting my battles  .   Ive been doing my best to keep going  with life in general, work, volunteering at my footy club and trying to be sociable. Sometimes i feel the urge to just run away from everything but i know its no the answer.  Does anyone else ever just fee like running away ?           Love and best wishes          Brett

[HamSolo01]

Hi Beaser 

Have you considered travel?

Or other things you could do for example change a job?

I guess what I'm asking is if you could maybe make some changes?

Hope to hear from you soon. 

H

[Beaser]

Hi H.

Thank you for getting back to me.  

I understand that change would be good for  me...

Ive actually been looking for another job but im finding it quite daunting i have an appt regarding one  tomorrow and that in itself is stressing me.  

Ive worked three days this week so i give myself a small tick for that one. 

You make a good point  about changes . I even think about moving town at times but the big thing is i have all my supports here andi think i would really miss the ones who love and care about me.

 I hope im not sounding negative here but i just have to be  realistic about what i can handle.

I hope you have agreat day Ham . Always great to hear from you . 

Brett

[HamSolo01]

yeah fair enough beaser 

Understand that

do hope your appointment goes well 

All the best with it 

Do let me know how it goes 

See ya round 

H