Does my anxiety and position in life make me undatable?

[Flop]

Hello everyone,

This is a bit of a different post but I'm looking for opinions from people that may have been in/are in a similar position and people who share similar struggles.

I often feel quite lonely and have been single for about 1-2 years. I have a longing for companionship and love, but I haven't even begun looking, and he's why -

I'm 24 now, and feel extremely behind in life. I'm on benefits, I don't work because of anxiety, I don't have my license, tho that and my anxiety are things I'm working on.

I think I'm a nice person with lots of love to give, but I feel like anyone would look at these things and not want to give me a chance. I would give someone a chance in my position, but I worry most if not all people won't feel the same. 

I hope to hear from some of you and hear what you think.

Thank you for reading 🙂

[Flop]

Hey C_Lake,

I think you're extremely brave, you went against all your struggles and challenges, put yourself out there and from the sounds of it found someone who loves you for you. Very inspiring, and gives me hope that when I do put myself out there, there might just be someone for me.

Thank you so much for your kind words, same goes for you!

[DidYouEverDoubtMe]

Oh to have had your nous at age 24 to post on the forums here in such a legible manner!
I've found that in relationships or being single for that matter that it's just as important to be honest with oneself as with others but certainly don't be harsh on yourself there is always someone out there willing to give you a chance, I've found. I'm just out of a relationship which was rewarding and we had very similar situations but I chose to move away to care for family. It's a damn shame. I think at your age my depression led me to not even notice people let alone think of looking for a relationship. I really do wish you all the best with what you're working on Flop and hope someone may come along.

Best, DidYouEverDoubtMe

[Flop]

Hey DidYouEverDoubtMe,

Well it's something I'm currently struggling with, and most people at some point in their lives, or many different points, desire to be loved and to love. Hearing what like minded people have to say and have been through has been really helpful.

I'm much more optimistic that someone would look past what I worry people would judge me for. I feel like the things I do concern myself with are things that really shouldn't matter in a relationship, but when everyone has these things it's easy to feel insignificant or unworthy in comparison. 

I'm sorry to hear about your depression, I pray it's much better now, and I'm really sorry to hear about your relationship. You made a really tough call but you did it for the right reasons. You're a good person.

I wish you all the best also, and good luck!

[blues23]

Hi Flop

No I don’t believe your anxiety or position in life makes you undateable ;

from my perspective & experience your “ work life is not really important to be able to be “ dateable “ I’ve always worked ( been off thou for a while due to workplace issues) but anyway no I’ve dated a few men most of those did not turn out well weather or not that was my fault or just not meant to be who knows . ( the license thing is not a issue I got mine at 26 I’m nearly 42 now ) life is no hurry if you are happy not driving ( these things can be  a hassle & expensive too your honestly not missing much there ) I think you would be totally dateable  don’t be hard on yourself as your still young & do have lots of love to give . My only advise would be to guard your heart and to keep your innocence as long as you can life moves too fast these days.