coastgirl scared to fail

[coastgirl12]

I am scared to quit my job. I feel like an outsider at work. I work hard and find I am not happy. I worry about what others say about me and I never ever used to care. My boss is horrible to me saying nasty things. I am older than her and I think this makes her rude towards me. I feel like I want to quit and dont know what to do. Would you quit if it was the first job you had in two years but you were treated like crap?

[TheWookie]

Personally I would not quit no. Have you tried expressing your discomfort about how you feel you are being treated by your boss. As for the others you work with… does it really matter what they think of you? And if so, do you have anything to base that on or do you think maybe you are projecting?

[geoff]

Hello Coastirl, and a warm welcome to the site.

I'm definitely so sorry for how you feel and what is happening, but the reason why this is going on, may not be your problem but that of your boss, who wants the employees to all join together, otherwise, they may be reprimanded in their own way.

If all of this is causing a great deal of conflict, then it could be treated as bullying and not permitted in the workplace anymore, so you are entitled to act on this, starting first with contacting the appropriate people at work and complain, if this doesn't seem to be a valid approach, then go to your doctor and ask for time off work, citing the fact that you're been bullied or make a complaint to 'Humans Rights Commission' or to www. fairworks.gov.au to file your situation.

At some point, you may want to get a reference, before any of this does happen, but not actually resigning, just saying it's beneficial to always have one, and then proceed with my suggestions.

If you decide not to get a reference then that's still OK, so if another job does appear, you can tell them an appropriate answer for them, which can be discussed after on.

Please get back to us when you're available.

Geoff.

[Petal22]

Hi coastgirl12,

Wellcome to our forums!

Sorry this has been happening to you, no I wouldn’t quit my job.

I think this sounds like bullying and isn’t tolerated in the workplace, you need to tell your bosses boss what is happening and your bosses boss needs to deal with it!

Please don’t worry what other people say, that’s only their perception ……. You know what type of person you are so their opinion isn’t required.

all best, be brave speak up by doing so you could be helping the next person who may receive the same unacceptable behaviour…

let us know how you go

[David35]

This probably goes against the grain of what others are saying here. Look elsewhere but don't quit your job yet. If you're job is starting to affect your mental health then I would seriously look at other options. Confronting people doesn't always work. Sometimes it makes it worse, especially if the person doing it is your boss. Typically, bosses who treat their staff poorly usually have a whole deal of insecurity issues themselves. They can sometimes feel threatened and they cover this up by bad-mouthing staff. In my own experience, the work culture starts at the top and if it's the boss who is instigating this mentality, especially if it's a casual job, then it's time to move on or get relocated within the business/company.