Anxiety

Anxiety and the triggering stimulus!

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Hello everyone Just over 2 years ago during my undergraduate studies the most crucial period before the exams. I had some HORRIBLE neighbours who for ONE WHOLE week played the most obnoxious music with thumpers? It went on for one week and now im fee... View more

Hello everyone Just over 2 years ago during my undergraduate studies the most crucial period before the exams. I had some HORRIBLE neighbours who for ONE WHOLE week played the most obnoxious music with thumpers? It went on for one week and now im feeling the consequence from that time. Im having terrible anxiety from certain triggers. Eg music, talking from over the fence, potch lights from the neighbours. Not only do i feel heavy headed but have these stomach clenches which feels like knots from these triggers. Making me feel so helpless and feeling like im being locked in a cage. i just feel so anxious alot of the time and honestly wished i could just turn back the clock and be that person before that incident.( knowing that will never happen:( I'm just wondering is anyone has had similar experiences and how did you deal with the symptoms of anxiety. Because these days i don't enjoy my hobbies like i use to.Any advice and personal experience is most welcome!

Anxiety is consuming my life

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This is all new to me. I do see a therapist but I’m not sure if it’s enough. i am married with a 3 year old and 3 month old and I’m in constant worry about my financial obligations. I am at home with my kids full time while my husband works big days.... View more

This is all new to me. I do see a therapist but I’m not sure if it’s enough. i am married with a 3 year old and 3 month old and I’m in constant worry about my financial obligations. I am at home with my kids full time while my husband works big days. We also manage and work a cleaning business, which over the years has taken a hit and isn’t doing well so I also work as a fitness coach locally and I recently got a job doing night fill at woolies. i haven’t yet started at woolies which is where my anxiety has kicked up. When I got the job I had only just had my baby and I informed them I needed time to heal as the birth wasn’t the best. They understood which was wonderful. I informed them as of Jan 1st 2019 I was ready to work. I’m a hard worker all I want to do is provide for my family and kids like my husband. But they still haven’t rostered me on to work and they have issued rosters till the 13th of Jan. I know most people would just go call them and find out. Which I am going to do but I had plans to do something with my kids today and because I found out I wasn’t rostered it’s thrown me. I can’t and won’t leave the house. I feel sick. I am crying. I am worried, what if they don’t offer my shifts. What if I can’t pay my bills and provide for my children. It consums me. And if it’s not this scenario it’s another about my financial obligations. I struggle with the thought of loosing my home to the point Ifeel I need to do something drastic for it to stop and so my children don’t develop my anxieties. It completely takes over every part of my life and I’m numb until it’s resolved which sometimes can take days. im sick of feeling like this I keep trying therapy but I’m worried it’s not enough and I’m never going to get past this. I’m worried it’s just going to get worse as life goes on.

Christmas anxiety

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Every Christmas the same thing happens to me, overwhelmed by anxiety. The need to socialise at this time of year make me crawl into a ball and cancel all plans. Shaking head to toe, I skipped Xmas day, struggled through Boxing Day at my place with th... View more

Every Christmas the same thing happens to me, overwhelmed by anxiety. The need to socialise at this time of year make me crawl into a ball and cancel all plans. Shaking head to toe, I skipped Xmas day, struggled through Boxing Day at my place with the family and now I can’t function at all... stuck in bed with fatigue, headache, jitters, mind racing...does anyone else’s anxiety levels hit the roof at Christmas and what do you do to get back on your feet?

Celebrating

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Hi Everyone I was dreading Christmas this year, but this year is the first time in I don't know how long, that I actually only had a minor anxiety attack which did not affect enjoying Christmas. I felt like shouting up to the heavens, it was and stil... View more

Hi Everyone I was dreading Christmas this year, but this year is the first time in I don't know how long, that I actually only had a minor anxiety attack which did not affect enjoying Christmas. I felt like shouting up to the heavens, it was and still is unreal that I was not plagued by an anxiety attack, just maybe my concoction of meds is actually working after all of these years. Sadly, I find it hard to believe and I am worried that an anxiety attack will rear its ugly head again, but I must remain positive.

Physical vs Mental Anxiety

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Hi all, I, as many of you on this site, have been afflicted with anxiety. I hate it. I feel like it's a constant pressure that makes even breathing a taxing activity. Sleep is usually my only respite, but sometimes even there it encroaches, giving me... View more

Hi all, I, as many of you on this site, have been afflicted with anxiety. I hate it. I feel like it's a constant pressure that makes even breathing a taxing activity. Sleep is usually my only respite, but sometimes even there it encroaches, giving me nightmares and leaving me exhausted when I wake. I have tried many suggestions in dealing with it, but most seem to imply (or directly state outright) that anxiety comes from your thought processes and patterns. I don't dispute this at all, I am no medical professional, but I am not constantly worrying about some unknown future, or what embarrassing thing might happen at the next party I go to; I am worrying about never being able to feel that pressure lift off, and be content in just being. I am constantly in a state of anxiety, no matter what I do, be it an enjoyable activity (like reading) or a chore (washing the dishes). Altering my thinking doesn't seem to be doing much, mainly because I don't recognize any intrusive thoughts that I could alter my perception to. So I'm stuck with these physical manifestations instead, and it's really bringing me down, to the point where life like this seems more like an existence than a life that can be enjoyed. Perhaps I could give you fine readers a little backstory? Maybe some might be able to see something I can't, or even relate to it. A month after putting down my beloved dog, it was my birthday, and I went on my first (and last) binge drinking spree. I was throwing up everywhere after a few hours and almost passed out on the sofa (I alternated between napping and cleaning up the vomit). For a week after, I was so ill, barely able to do anything due to severe dizziness, near-constant nausea, light-headedness, heart pounding (or seeming like it was), and very bad diarrhea. I even went to the ER on day three, thinking that perhaps I had alcohol poisoning. I was sent home with wafers to aid with the nausea, and instructions to sleep it off.

I'm constantly anxious about my health

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(i have general anxiety for about four years now) I'm getting really bad healthy anxiety , it started in august of this year I'm not too sure what triggered me to constantly worry about this though. in saying that around the beginning of June I start... View more

(i have general anxiety for about four years now) I'm getting really bad healthy anxiety , it started in august of this year I'm not too sure what triggered me to constantly worry about this though. in saying that around the beginning of June I started my weight loss journey, now that I'm looking after my body more than ever, I've become very self aware of my body and feel the need to be in control. if it's a cold or if I'm feeling sore somewhere or just anything i always expect the worst. if it does turn out to be something, its never been something serious but I'm constantly afraid if the doctor isn't telling me something or if they're giving me false information. and if I have an anxiety attack, the physical symptoms that occur freak me out as well, I get chest pains when i feel anxious. recently I started developing pain in my right arm and leg with small bruises that come and go, I've seen a doctor and he did a physical examination and said that I've just pulled muscles in my groin, leg and bicep and to take a few days to rest and slowly get back into exercise after. but even though the doctor has said that I'm fine, I'm still worried that I'll get a life threatening illness. please reply if you've experienced anything similar

Guilt and Anxiety

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Hi, I find it really hard to explain myself but I am going to try. Earlier in the year I chose to leave a part time job that i hated to go traveling. Now that i have returned I have gotten a casual job. Every day I have the guilty feelings that I mad... View more

Hi, I find it really hard to explain myself but I am going to try. Earlier in the year I chose to leave a part time job that i hated to go traveling. Now that i have returned I have gotten a casual job. Every day I have the guilty feelings that I made the wrong decision in leaving my job. I feel guilty every time I get called up to work and can't go in. I always show up for my rostered hours and accept extended shifts. The job in itself makes me uneasy and when they call up for last minute shifts I panic and make up excuses. I then spend the next two day feeling guilty and worried and anxious and thinking that I should have just gone in to avoid this feeling. I get these feelings even when I have an actual reason to not go in. And then it ruins my day anyway from feeling like I've done the wrong thing. The guilty feeling isn't just for work related feelings. It's things like choosing to stay home instead of going out, going out instead of staying hime, picking one event over another, disappointing friends etc etc etc. It's everything. Over eating, not saying enough, saying too much, saying the wrong thing. I just can't seem to not feel guilty. Does anybody have an advice on how I can control these feelings?

Do we care or do we not care ?

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I have been seeing a guy who is younger than I am ..everything is so so sweet ..until he mentioned one time that he feels that he thinks people are judging him or us ..when we go out . i was mortified ...because I was never one to care what others th... View more

I have been seeing a guy who is younger than I am ..everything is so so sweet ..until he mentioned one time that he feels that he thinks people are judging him or us ..when we go out . i was mortified ...because I was never one to care what others thought ...cos I got my own life to live and it isn’t anybodys business . I learned these a while ago ..people are gonna judge you regardless ..that’s what people do . So you would do your head in if you cared at all about what anybody thought . I got that down pad ..but my boyfriend was like so distraught by it , and I was so taken back because I was oblivious to how he was suffering . i told him how I viewed it in the hope of him being able to get another perspective ..so he doesn’t feel so judged..cos that sounds really painful for him , he felt that it’s important that I know how he’s feeling about it , and I’m glad he did ..because I was absolutely clueless...thinking omg what’s the big deal ...we just go out get some dinner. ....but apparently it is a BIG deal to him ..he hides it rather well ...times when we out ..I thought oh he’s very quiet but at times he just looks like he doesn’t want to be there , so I am just in a world of pain for him ...because I don’t care about what others think ...but he does. He would say ..he doesn’t care either ..but clearly he does ..hAha i harped on it a little while as I wanted him to see it my way ,..and then I realise he gonna have to do this on his own . its not even just the age gap thing ...it’s everything ..people judge or so we think ...but whatever the case is ,..we just cannot care ..we have to choose not to care ..so we can operate normally . Hmm just a rant session ..anyone feel the same ..would love to hear similar survivor stories . i thought he wanted to end the relationship and freaked out until I realise he is in a way opening up to me and I can’t just go all personal on him ..cos it isn’t about me ..it’s about him and how he thinks the world views him .

Lavender for anxiety

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Hello everyone, My GP has suggested I try lavender capsules/tablets for help with my anxiety. Has anyone out there tried them and if so how did you go with your anxiety? Did you feel calmer etc? Any comments on this subject welcomed. Thanks Roogirl

Some help needed please

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Hi there, as you can tell I am new to this place. I came onto this platform in a cry of help as I am in currently in a vulnerable state. So here is my situation: For a week I have been avoiding my friends and everyone on social media to the point whe... View more

Hi there, as you can tell I am new to this place. I came onto this platform in a cry of help as I am in currently in a vulnerable state. So here is my situation: For a week I have been avoiding my friends and everyone on social media to the point where I have deactivated my instagram account. This is not the first time I have done so this year but it is a way of me to cope in a way with my issues. Usually my friends would check up on me, call my number and message me. But this time it's different. I feel so lonely and guilty like I had brought this onto myself and on the other hand disappointed with my friends for not reaching out in my most difficult of times. I am especially disappointed with one of my friends who knows my current situation which is god awful but not even she has bothered to call me or anything during this week of hell. I understand that they have their own lives and everything but they are acting like everything is okay. No one has bothered to ask what happened to my Instagram account or bothered to message me as clearly something is upsetting me. I feel so anxious and sad and I have cried ever since I decided to isolate myself from everyone. Maybe I just want attention, maybe I just want someone to ask me "Are you okay?" and I can't even get that. I am scared of what's to happen next because I don't want to be friendless in the next year of school. I am really sorry for venting but I really need some help or opinion to this matter of mine. Thank you for reading Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year

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