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BeyondBlue Hi! Check out this post if you're not sure how to start
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Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are... View more

Hi there and welcome to the Anxiety section of the Forums First of all, thank you so much for joining us here. We think it’s amazing that you’ve taken this step to getting support and learning from this Community. You are very welcome here and we are really interested in what you might want to add to these conversations. We get it, having anxiety makes it hard to share in a public place. Remeber, this is anonymous and the Beyond Blue team are here to help if you need it This section is for people who are experiencing anixiety in some form in their lives. This might be in social settings, at work, or just in the day to day. You don’t need a diagnosis to post here. If it feels like the right spot for you post, go right ahead! We know that feeling anxious can make it hard to reach out so we want you to know that getting this far is amazing and a great start. A few tips for getting the most out of this section: Get involved when you can! Posting and replying is the heartbeat of this community and you DO have something worthile to share (when you’re ready ) Every experience is different. There is no competition here. We know how challenging anxiety can be and how it comes in all shapes and sizes. What you are experiencing will be respected and supported here. Trust yourself! You are the expert in your experience. This community works because people like you share what has worked for you. Thank you for getting involved and taking a look. We can’t wait to hear from you! Beyond Blue

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44Max44 can't let my guard down in social interactions
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For as long as I can remember I've always 'had my guard up' during social interactions. I'm super careful about what I say and am always overthinking stuff. It's gotten to a point where I just don't talk to people because I don't want to make myself ... View more

For as long as I can remember I've always 'had my guard up' during social interactions. I'm super careful about what I say and am always overthinking stuff. It's gotten to a point where I just don't talk to people because I don't want to make myself look bad or potentially offend them. I've been at a new job for something like 4 months now and I haven't had a real conversation with anybody there even though I think they're all great people. There's a girl there I want to get to know but every time I get to interact with her I can't bring myself to have any meaningful conversation with her, just the same "thank you, bye" stuff over and over. It's really eating away at me not being able to form relationships with people. Even one of my best friends that I've known for most of my life I barely talk to anymore. Even family members I barely talk to, my own parents and siblings I can barely hold a conversation with. Just being able to tell them that I love them is a huge feat for me and it rarely happens. I'm sick of overthinking everything. It's like there's a filter in my brain and I only 1% of the stuff I want to say actually gets through that filter and out of my mouth. I'm very soft-spoken, I only talk to people when they talk to me first and that's usually just responses to questions, I try to stay out of people's way as much as possible, pretty much I try to make myself as unnoticeable as possible. I don't know why I always have my guard up and I don't know how to let it down. I keep thinking that I've dug myself too far and if I suddenly turn back now and start being open about how I feel and being social with people that it'll just make me look weird and they'll think I'm drunk or high or something. I'm afraid that at this rate if something doesn't change I won't be able to form a meaningful connection with anybody ever. I think that's why I love animals so much, because they keep me company, they don't judge, and they love me unconditionally. I know how animals will act, but people are a complete mystery to me. If it weren't for my pets I don't know where I'd be right now and I'd be so unbelievably lonely. I need to see a psychologist but even making a booking for that is a challenge for me. Every time I've tried they've given me the "we're at capacity" response and that just destroys all motivation I had to get myself help and I put it off for ages. I'm trying to help myself but it feels like nobody wants to help me. I don't know what to do.

Storm84 Fatigue that just won't pass
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Hi All, So I've been fatigued for the pass 3 week's now that just won't seem to pass. I've been to the Doctors twice and he saids everything is fine, done tests and re tests. He claims it's just fatigue from constant worry anxiety and depression. I a... View more

Hi All, So I've been fatigued for the pass 3 week's now that just won't seem to pass. I've been to the Doctors twice and he saids everything is fine, done tests and re tests. He claims it's just fatigue from constant worry anxiety and depression. I also ended up in the hospital a week ago as I thought I was having a heart attack. But doctor said it looked like extreme anxiety. Now I want to believe that this is all just from anxiety and that I'm exhausted everyday because I'm stuck in a loop of worrying that something serious is wrong. I can't get out of my head that the doctors are gonna eventually find something serious and that will be it for me. I know I probably sound mad, Ive booked into to see someone to talk about how I'm feeling and the doctor has put me on antidepressants. Is there anyone else that has experienced prolonged fatigue like this and how did you pull yourself out of it? I just feel so hopeless and I keep Dr googling myself which is doing my anxiety no favours. Any advice it relatable stories would be amazing. Thank you

elliebee2 Anxiety, brain injury or ADHD?
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Hello all, I'm 29 & I had a brain injury in 2002. An Arteriovenous Malformation. That was almost 20 years ago now, and my memory, concentration, and focus haven't gotten much better since then. I was first diagnosed with anxiety and depression & I fe... View more

Hello all, I'm 29 & I had a brain injury in 2002. An Arteriovenous Malformation. That was almost 20 years ago now, and my memory, concentration, and focus haven't gotten much better since then. I was first diagnosed with anxiety and depression & I feel like I'm not depressed anymore (yay) but I'm so anxious most of the time now. I feel a little bit silly questioning this as I don't want to self-diagnose. I have been to a doctor, gotten a referral letter to a psychiatrist. But on the way out, I was meant to stop at reception & ask them to fax the letter... but forgot. I understand people forget things from time to time but my head feels foggy 95% of the time. The reason why I never questioned anything before, was that I just put everything down to depression and the AVM. It's hard to explain but I get sad now but it's more situational. Not sure if this is "typical" but I don't want to continuously forget things, I want to be able to focus on what people are saying to me, I'd like to get things done even if they aren't interesting to me... I have all or nothing emotions like if I'm happy/sad/angry about something it's hard for me to let go, in jobs or education I act like I'm receiving info being given but it's in one ear out the other, overstimulation in loud places, spending a bit too much, I forget important appointments unless it is written on my hand, I have trouble sleeping for periods. I can only work for short periods of time, because of fatigue but I just don't know if I'm overthinking this

cacti Uncomfortable with my own thoughts
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Okay I find it difficult to explain what I exactly want to say, but I'll try my best by throwing in some examples from my day to day life (a somewhat awkward attempt). To put it in simple words I feel very disturbed with my own thoughts from time to ... View more

Okay I find it difficult to explain what I exactly want to say, but I'll try my best by throwing in some examples from my day to day life (a somewhat awkward attempt). To put it in simple words I feel very disturbed with my own thoughts from time to time; despite the fact that they never really seem abnormal to the average person. The way I see my own feelings massively influences the way I perceive the things or events or individuals which have resulted in that feeling - one of the reasons why I am often recognized as strange for spontaneously cutting contact with another person and giving no reasons whatsoever. It's really hard to describe but in these cases I all of a sudden think of myself as unworthy of having social interaction with. An example would be being jealous of someone's achievements, I can easily see it coming when I think that way - and I would feel like a pessimistic sewer rat even though I don't want to. If I was crying I would cry even harder because now I am an incompetent, annoying, self-and-others-hating sewer rat. Another less obvious but a bit more complicated one is that I am in my late teenage years yet I have never ever liked a person whatever gender they might be. For a long time I thought that is just my sexuality perhaps or I just haven't had a chance to put my mind that way, but no, I would feel affection for people yet condemn myself immediately after in my subconscious mind that it is utterly disgusting and shallow of me to hold romantic feelings for some person whom I haven't known for a long time. Sometimes these feelings persist and as if activating a defense mechanism I freeze. in worse cases I would vomit. Same goes with befriending someone, I always doubt myself for if the words that come out of my mouth are not genuine I would be embarrassed to even look at the person. This has been going on for quite a while now so it just comes naturally, I stop developing any form of attraction towards new people. Or it just doesn't last long before I cut it off myself. I also despise myself sometimes for focusing too much on my physical appearance, which must not be regarded as important whatsoever.

Rabbit444 Self forgiveness and perfectionism - new here!
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Hi guys I'm a self aware perfectionist (working on it) with high functioning anxiety. My life is good - a happy marriage, healthy children and a strong network of family and friends. The one recurring issue for me - is self forgiveness and self compa... View more

Hi guys I'm a self aware perfectionist (working on it) with high functioning anxiety. My life is good - a happy marriage, healthy children and a strong network of family and friends. The one recurring issue for me - is self forgiveness and self compassion. I understand the theory (and read a lot about it), but it is difficult to put into practice. When a make a bad error of judgement it results in terrible anxiety (days to weeks) and I am 'all consumed' by it. A had an issue recently where opportunism (online shopping - purchasing a toolbox incorrectly marked $0 dollars and then lying about it to the store owner when I tried to get a store credit / refund for the full amount) resulted in me being found out and (rightly so), given a serve by the small business owner who pointed out that my actions were both dishonest and in poor taste. I took responsibility, apologised immediately and promptly returned the goods. The business owner said they appreciated that. End of story and big lesson learned - but not the end for me. For the last week I have not been able to eat or sleep properly and am replaying the situation over and over in my head. What I should have done, fears they know who I am and that they could troll me online and tell my family, friends and work colleagues etc. I keep wanting to go back in time to before 'before the bad thing happened' and start again. This is a recurring issue for me - if I drink too much and have a hangover, if I have a blue with a friend etc etc. I am constantly in need of reassurance, and to be 'absolved'. I also feel I have to disclose anything (big or small) that I feel is an indiscretion on my part to everyone close to me - to make sure they know what I've done - and still love me anyway. With the toolbox incident - I know what I did was crappy and I certainly won't do it again. But my reaction and self loathing is out of kilter with the severity of the mistake. Please help - and also, any tips on where this could stem from would be greatly appreciated so I can begin to get to the root of the issue.

Nervybella Worried about my mum - I don’t think she’s well
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Hi all So I’m really worried about my mum. I’m not sure where to begin with describing her but bottom line is that I am sure she suffers from some mental health issues but is yet to seek help or be diagnosed. for context, mum can be the most loving a... View more

Hi all So I’m really worried about my mum. I’m not sure where to begin with describing her but bottom line is that I am sure she suffers from some mental health issues but is yet to seek help or be diagnosed. for context, mum can be the most loving and caring person, but can also be rude and cold to some people. She is both overbearing and a recluse. her mood swings from happy to sad to irritated. she can’t just sit and relax. her money habits are out of control. she’s impulsive. can be disorganised and forgetful this is really starting to put a strain on our relationship and the relationship between my parents too. I desperately want her to seek help because I truly believe she CAN be helped but she is so defensive and not responsive to my concerns where Do I go from here?…. best, Bella

Angel34 New job anxiety
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I have just started a new job a couple weeks ago, a totally new career for me, no previous experience. I had a really bad day with another worker and how they treated me. Ever since that day its been such a struggle to get out of bed to go to work ev... View more

I have just started a new job a couple weeks ago, a totally new career for me, no previous experience. I had a really bad day with another worker and how they treated me. Ever since that day its been such a struggle to get out of bed to go to work everyday. My anxiety has never been this bad ever, I've already taken so many sick days just because i physically and mentally can't handle it. I rushed into this job very quickly as i wanted to quit my old job as soon as possible so i applied for anything and everything. I'm starting to think i rushed too quickly and this job isn't for me at all. I have panic attacks regularly now, i start to feel very dizzy/faint and start to throw up. I sweat constantly, shake, pick at my skin. I'm stuck on what to do, i hate this new job so much and want to quit already, but its only been a couple weeks. My anxiety just takes over my whole body and i can't control it. I think it's also to do with my self confidence, i am always putting myself down and overthink everything. I work fulltime and haven't even had a full week yet because i keep taking days off because i physically can't go into work. I don't want my new workplace to hate me if i quit because i just started but i also need to think about myself and my mental heath/well being. Every time i think about it, it always triggers a panic attack. It's never been this bad before. I've never spoken to anyone about this and i probably need to but, i just need help on what to do.

Blhaj Awkwardness
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I feel awkward and freakish. Like I don't fit into social situations well. Like there are people who everyone likes and I'm not one of them. I feel like I try my best to be nice to others and listen and talk but just. Uh. Idk sometimes something does... View more

I feel awkward and freakish. Like I don't fit into social situations well. Like there are people who everyone likes and I'm not one of them. I feel like I try my best to be nice to others and listen and talk but just. Uh. Idk sometimes something doesn't feel right in the social situations I'm in. Like the vibes are off or I'm coming across as too intense or worst of all sometimes I just have nothing to say. And there's that painful awkward silence. I feel like there's always going to be this weird jarring disconnect between me and the people around me. Well, not all the people I have a few people who that disconnect doesn't exist with. I just don't know why I can't be comfortable and charismatic around acquaintances. Or not even that just normal. I feel like a freak. I don't know if this is a symptom of depression and anxiety or if I'm viewing this objectively. I would assume maybe a mix of both? I don't know. Sorry this a bit of a ramble. This is my first post. I'm writing this after I said something awkward in a group chat so it's a bit disorganised.

Purplefish Panic attacks over new things/ fear of anaphylaxis
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Hey all, it’s been several years since I last posted! I’ve been really struggling with anxiety over new things, such as trying new foods or new medications. Getting the covid vaccine was super scary, but I just got my booster so I’m proud of myself i... View more

Hey all, it’s been several years since I last posted! I’ve been really struggling with anxiety over new things, such as trying new foods or new medications. Getting the covid vaccine was super scary, but I just got my booster so I’m proud of myself in that regard. my doctor wants to start me on a new medication, however as it causes sedation my normal tactic of starting the medication in a public place so if something bad happens I’m near people who can help won’t work. As I’m not afraid of the longer side effects it’s the idea of not being able to breath. I need to start this medication at night time due to the sedation side effect and I live alone. Any advice or tips? I have some emergency anti-anxiety meds at home so I could take that beforehand to help the anxiety but then there is the double sedation which seems like something I should avoid Has anyone managed to overcome these types of phobias of getting anaphylaxis to new thing? thanks all, regards purplefish

SickOfIt Last Straw
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Hi Everyone, I am 40 years old and have suffered from anxiety since I was about 6 years of age. Back in the 80's no one understood anxiety so no one understood me. I have suffered through this alone due to shame. I am on medication and have seen a fe... View more

Hi Everyone, I am 40 years old and have suffered from anxiety since I was about 6 years of age. Back in the 80's no one understood anxiety so no one understood me. I have suffered through this alone due to shame. I am on medication and have seen a few psychologists. My anxiety has stopped me from soooo much. I am so sick of it ruining my life!!! I am trying to plan a wedding I don't even know I can go through with and I desperately want to have a baby without causing it harm from my panic attack episodes. I tried to slowly wean off the medication so that I could try for a healthy baby and I just couldn't do it. My anxiety has skyrocketed so I was put back on it. I've booked myself in to see another psychologist. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would be appreciated and I would love to hear how you got through your wedding and pregnancy too. Much appreciated xx