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Anxiety/Paranoia in relationship

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I need help!My wife and I have been married for 12 years and through this time have not spent any more than 5 days apart at a time. I have just returned from an 8 week work stint in a remote location. We kept in contact each day when possible and was... View more

I need help!My wife and I have been married for 12 years and through this time have not spent any more than 5 days apart at a time. I have just returned from an 8 week work stint in a remote location. We kept in contact each day when possible and was great all up untill my mind started playing tricks on me. My wife works hard at work and at home looking after our kids and everything else she does. She decided to go out with a few friends females and males for a few drinks, I didn’t know about it until I spoke to my kids on the phone that night, I immediately started thinking the worst. I didn’t act on it at this stage. Then the week later I was in the phone to her and she got an accidental message from a work friend who had had a few drinks not anything that was directed at making a pass at her or anything however the subject was a little inappropriate she was open and honest to me about it we had a bit of a laugh the next day I find out she had a call out for work after hours and I wasn’t aware she was taking call outs at this stage (they aren’t compulsory to attend) I stated that she need not do call outs as the kids need to be at home as it was a school night. She got her back up immediately getting defensive saying she had sorted the kids and she had looked after them the whole time I was away (I was still away at this point) so my initial reaction was to think the worst that she was having an affair etc not directly insinuating it to her how ever me questioning her about her choice to take a call out rather then get the kids home sparked a large reaction. My explaining I don’t like how she has more close friends that are males than females to me it seems she has more fun socially with them then me. Am I being reasonable thinking the worst when her communication wasn’t the best not letting me know what was happening and then accused me of being controlling and manipulating for asking questions. Or am I being over the top paranoid and anxious not being able to navigate the situation from afar or is she right am I controlling and manipulating for just wanting to be kept in the loop as to what’s happen Not only with her but with the kids?

I change jobs all the time, can't seem to find my "place"

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I'm 33, have just recently started a new job in the same role but different company (environmental consultant). I am already having my doubts about this role as I struggle to sit at a computer for a full 8-hour day. Prior to consultancy work (have on... View more

I'm 33, have just recently started a new job in the same role but different company (environmental consultant). I am already having my doubts about this role as I struggle to sit at a computer for a full 8-hour day. Prior to consultancy work (have only been in it for a year and a bit) i had numerous environmental field-based roles with different organisations, but left each of them for different reasons (low pay/contract ending, too repetitive & no challenge, no career development, not what i thought it was/didn't align with my interests, too early start & fatigue, not being paid on time, etc). I understand that i will never find the 'perfect' job but i keep thinking the grass is greener and fantasise about the thought of escaping to another job, i look for and apply for new roles pretty frequently. I struggle with the same daily routine and after not too long feel that i'm in a 'rut', like i'm part of the rat race, and get depressed and start to question what my purpose is. I am getting to a point now where it's upsetting me that i feel like i don't belong anywhere, that i will never 'settle' with a job, and that i'm a failure because i can't hold down a job for long enough to establish myself within a company and grow in my career. I know i self sabotage (have SAD + GAD + depression which i'm medicated for but it doesn't seem to help with anxiety), but it's like i get that honeymoon period with a job and then afterwards i look elsewhere. The longest i have been in a role is approx. 2 years, which i'm embarrassed to admit.. The last 3 jobs that i had all lasted under 12 months (one i was let off however i don't believe this was my fault, it did brutalise my self confidence though). I studied music at university and i was very arty in school, and didn't know what career i wanted. I very much love and care about the environment, and i find that being outdoors in the bush is where i feel most happy and at ease. This is why i went into this line of work. However i'm feeling like i want to go back to a field-based role again because i find the office work draining / not as engaging and i'm an energetic person so it's hard for me to sit down all day. I can do it, but it affects my mental health. The problem is that since i've started consultancy work i have learnt more in the areas that i'm interested in i.e. flora and fauna, however, i wish it was more field orientated (it is a mix of both but the majority is report writing). Sorry i am ranting so much but there is a lot to explain for people to understand my work history and behaviour... i wonder if there is anyone else out there that shares my indecisive nature and lack of being able to settle and find their 'place' in a job? I want to keep growing in my career and learning but i also don't want a high pressure / high responsibility role. I am a firm believer that work is not life, and that a balance is more than necessary (i want to travel the world and have many hobbies outside of my fulltime job that i value and wish to continue). Basically what i'm asking here is does anyone out there relate to my ordeals in life, i have discussed it with psychologists also but they don't seem to have an answer. And if you do, what job worked for you? Should i just be staying in a field-based job or keep trying to stick it out with my new job (maybe the reports will get easier over time)?

Anxiety/depression

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I’m suffering from anxiety/depression. I’m seeing a psychologist once week, which I started last week. Am living with my sil and brother, but the comments she makes towards me about my mental health makes things worse for me. She claims that she is t... View more

I’m suffering from anxiety/depression. I’m seeing a psychologist once week, which I started last week. Am living with my sil and brother, but the comments she makes towards me about my mental health makes things worse for me. She claims that she is trying to help me, but it makes it worse for me. Am not sure she really understands. She claims that she has her own personal mental problems, but I think she just can’t cope or understands what I’m going through. I understand that they’re trying to help me, but it’s hard to cope with.

Anxiety Derailment

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This sounds a lot, but I recently got taken off holiday that I was on (a tour) due to my panic attacks that I was suffering on it and I feel so angry at myself for allowing it to happen. It was so bad that my support worker had to fly up from Melbour... View more

This sounds a lot, but I recently got taken off holiday that I was on (a tour) due to my panic attacks that I was suffering on it and I feel so angry at myself for allowing it to happen. It was so bad that my support worker had to fly up from Melbourne to Sydney to pick me up so I could get home safe (I'm on the NDIS because I'm diagnosed with ASD). I feel so ashamed and humiliated that I'm unable to control my anxiety despite attempting coping strategies and all I can do is just mope around and cry because now everyone else gets to go to Byron and Cairns but I'm just sitting at home doing... nothing.How can everyone just go on holiday and do it well while I can't even manage a short domestic flight? People keep saying that I need to control it but it feels like a constant struggle to even recognise that I'm suffering from it let alone deal with it. I feel so useless and pathetic and all I want to do now is sleep for two weeks straight.

Upset

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Just for context I have lived in the same place for the last few years work shift work and lived next to the person in the below issue for the whole time I’ve lived in my dwelling, with out a conver for Atleast the last two, maybe three years.This mo... View more

Just for context I have lived in the same place for the last few years work shift work and lived next to the person in the below issue for the whole time I’ve lived in my dwelling, with out a conver for Atleast the last two, maybe three years.This morning after returning home after work via Cole’s to get a few items, my neighbour, I shall call M, must of pulled in to his car spot (directly next to mine) as I was replying to a message. Once I was out of the car M out of the blue told me to stop my stalkerish behaviours, proceeded me to get a life and told me to get a life, as this is just weird. I am unaware where this is coming from or how to react. I did not respond to M’s comment out of being shocked. For further context, What M dose - ie work,activities, I really do not know anything about and if o do go out to either go grocery shopping, out to visit friends ect I don’t see M in my travels. I occasionally will see M go to go his car if Im outside having a smoke, which is something I’ve done for years.This has made my anxiety, which I’ve been living with for the past 15 years worsened and unable to sleep.

Is it Low self esteem?

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Hello Lately I’ve been noticing myself obsessing over things I say or things i do when I’m with people. I go home and obsess over something silly i said or did. Even if it’s not that silly, my brain tells me that it is and that everyone thinks I’m st... View more

Hello Lately I’ve been noticing myself obsessing over things I say or things i do when I’m with people. I go home and obsess over something silly i said or did. Even if it’s not that silly, my brain tells me that it is and that everyone thinks I’m stupid. Usually after a day or so I’ve moved on from it, but usually cause it’s replaced with the newest things to obsess over. sometimes it can be something I did, like not let a car go in front of me. And I just obsess over itwhy do i do this???

Suggestion - What has helped me through a mental breakdown/anxiety attack

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My friend had suggested a treasure hunt of sorts, where they had requested me to go for a walk and take pictures of 5 specific items/things (e.g. beware dog sign, Halloween decoration, etc.). That way they not only ensured that I went out and did som... View more

My friend had suggested a treasure hunt of sorts, where they had requested me to go for a walk and take pictures of 5 specific items/things (e.g. beware dog sign, Halloween decoration, etc.). That way they not only ensured that I went out and did something nice for myself, but also put a bit of a dopamine twist to the situation itself (it gave me a sense of accomplishment along the way).Feel free to try it if you're feeling overwhelmed, it helped me a lot!

Night mares moods and depression

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Hello 勺 I have been smoking weed now for about 20years. The last 10years very heavily.I quit one month ago, I am really struggling with moods, depression and nightmares. My brain just isn't coping during the day from the nights. I think im getting en... View more

Hello 🩷 I have been smoking weed now for about 20years. The last 10years very heavily.I quit one month ago, I am really struggling with moods, depression and nightmares. My brain just isn't coping during the day from the nights. I think im getting enough sleep , but if given the chance I crash out during the day. I'm constantly tired and sad. Does anyone have any inspiration stories of similar to help me keep moving forward and staying off the weed. I have past experiences with anti anxiety and anti depression tablets but I seem to be worse. I have seen my gp but unfortunately the help offered isn't working.I suffer very bad anxiety and depression which is worsening since quitting. I have no motivation and feel like life isn't worth living anymore. I have had thoughts of ending my life due to the anxiety and not coping with the feeling I get. My family means alot to me so leaving them behind in this world seems far to selfish. I don't like living like this. I am healthy, I am in a wonderful relationship with a beautiful 12yr old step daughter but I'm always worrying about things I don't need too. I try and stay busy in hope this helps, but its worsens. I work about 2 hrs a day on a very casual schedule as I work for myself. I walk, I exercise etc but lately all I want to do is sleep. My head hurts maybe my its my brain from the nightmares. I'm hoping someone can shead on light on this and let me know it'll all ease up soon. I've always been a believer that weed wouldnt have withdrawal symptoms. I feel so stressed and sad. I have not felt happy in a very long time almost years. Weed wasn't making me happy anymore and I feel smoking it has created my panic attacks and anxiety.Thank you for this opportunity of hope 🩷

Ongoing concerns

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I've struggled on and off with anxiety for 11 years, and I'm currently going through another tough time. I see a psychologist every 6 weeks, but she's away at the moment, and I won't see her until late November. I'm scared I won't cope for that long:... View more

I've struggled on and off with anxiety for 11 years, and I'm currently going through another tough time. I see a psychologist every 6 weeks, but she's away at the moment, and I won't see her until late November. I'm scared I won't cope for that long: I'm not eating, I'm so very tired, and I'm not motivated.I think I understand what has triggered my current episode, and I believe what I'm experiencing is processing the feelings from my recent trigger. It's been almost two weeks now and these feelings aren't going away. I've just upped my medication and hoping the change will kick in soon.Does anyone else experience long bouts of depression after anxiety? Is this normal?Does anyone have any tips for getting through this next few weeks? I'm fortunate to be on leave at the moment but have to return to work next week, and I'm so worried I'm not going to cope.Thank you.

Stess

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I am feeling very stressed right now

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