Apologies just looking for understanding

[Ladyrose]

I am sorry for taking up peoples time with my problems, but I feel very alone at the moment. I am having major anxiety issues changing jobs. I am completely petrified, and the new position is a long distance from home and I am not sure I have made the right decision. I have cried a river of tears, sweated, chest pains and a feeling of complete helplessness and feeling like a failure. I have booked a psychologist in a weeks time to try and deal with my issues. This is not living. Friends and family dont understand which makes it so much worse. I feel lost and alone as I cant talk to anyone about how I feel. People think by saying you will be ok that the anxiety just disappears. Thank you for listening as I know other people are going through much worse.

[chociloni]

I feel pretty much the same as you. Every day is a struggle, it has this stop start effect. Is it dealing with uncertainty? 

[Johnny_]

Hi Ladyrose,

Congrats on the new job! how exciting! all those amazing possibilities you might experience, a new best friend, a great vibe of a work place, a new local cafe, new challenges and time to listen to your fav tunes on the way home… can’t congrats to you!

I mean what I’ve said but I just wanted to also show you what I do with those high anxiety kind of days, I flip them to a positive. It takes practice but it’s a great tool which helps me a lot, and maybe you too. 

I do feel for your struggles and glad you found your way here for support…I hope just that has helped you. No need to apologize either, we all here understand in one way or another what you go through:)

Do you practice meditation, mindfulness, journaling etc? these things are great and work a treat. I use the Calm app myself and love it! it has guided meditation, different sleep sounds etc and def helps me sleep. 

Oh and them tears…get comfy with them, notice them, accept them and let them go. I learned this through my psychologist and it changed my perception of them…they help relive the anxiety and allowed my head to be clear.. I felt better and they faded away.

you are you and you are stronger than you think… take care 🙂 

[Ladyrose]

Hi Brett,

I am very sorry for the late reply. Has been a big week.

Day one and two were a big struggle, and then day 3 and 4 I turned the corner. I cant believe it in a good way.

The way I feel today compared to a week ago is just not comparable. So much better. I could not have done it without the support and kindness of this group. 

One step at a time and making sure I kept the fight and flight auto mode at the back of my mind instead of front was the way I forced myself to keep being brave.

How is your new role?

[Ladyrose]

Hi Choclioni,

I am so sorry to hear you are experiencing this type of situation to. I know that uncertainty brings out the worst anxiety in me because I feel I have no control.

Although my choice was incredibly painful for me mentally, i am now so proud of the fact I didnt give up (which I wanted to do a 1000 times). I can now reflect on this in the future and say to myself, hey you got through this, the worst didnt happen and believe in yourself. I hope this helps and I hope you get through whatever you are experiencing to, as we all deserve some peace and happiness. 

[Ladyrose]

Hi Johnny,

What a beautiful post. Thank you so much.

I love your positive statements, and they are so true. I am making friends, learning new things, and what has surprised me most is how much I am enjoying the driving with free library audio books on being more positive and getting anxiety under control. I never thought I would enjoy long drives.

I try and practice meditation, and have also used the calm app. It is great.

I will reflect on your post on the tears in future, as I tend to get more upset with myaelf when the tears start that I am being weak which makes it worse. I am my worsr critic.

I cant tell you how much joy your post bought me. You have made my day.

Best wishes to you and keep spreading those positive words.

[Beaser]

Hi Ladyrose 

Im so happy that things are going well for you. You deserve a big pat on the back. Unfortunately i didnt take up the position i spoke of. I  did a tour of the school and i just didnt feel llike it was a good fit for me.  Im very stressed that i have let people down i hope people can understand .   My love and best wishes to you. Brett. I hope to hear more about how things are for you.

[Ladyrose]

Hi Brett,

You have not let anyone down. You went and saw the new workplace and it wasnt the right fit. You are courageous for taking the first step, and should be proud of recognising it wasnt the right fit. 

You did what was right for you, and you are what is important for you. No one has been let down.

Please dont punish yourself. You are obviously an intelligent person. You will find what is best for you. You gave me hope, kindness and courage. You need to give that to you also!

[Beaser]

Thanks LadyRose.  

Your good news has been great to read. 

You seem such a kind and respectful person who wants the best for others.   Keep up the great work. 

Brett.

[Johnny_]

Hi Ladyrose,

Aww such beautiful words, thankyou! you honestly put a smile on my face:) I’m so glad my post made your day and to hear you have embraced your challenges too,…it’s so awesome to hear! …just don’t listen to those sleep stories on the clam app while driving lol. 

just remember, It takes a strong person to let go of those tears… sometimes, when we release tears, there is a thought, a memory. Pay attention to it if you can and it will help guide you with what you might need to work on. This helped me.

I really do appreciate your words, thankyou and I will. The sun is always shinning, even above the rain clouds. Take care. 

[quirkywords]

Lady rose I just want to thank for being honest and taking time to reply to people. Your posts also help those who don’t post on the forum but read a lot of posts.,