ANXIOUSLY AWAITING A REPLY

[tates2019]

Hello,

I have recently broken up with my boyfriend of two years and have never found myself in such a deep dark circle as what I have lately. I have suffered from depression and anxiety before but not I feel like I am just right back to where I was before me and him got together. No matter where I am or what I'm doing I find myself texting him to try and fight to get our relationship fixed, but I end up sitting there having an anxiety attack while waiting to see what his reply is. I find myself crying a lot more regularly and even being around people doesn't seem to help. I spend a lot of time in my bedroom either watching TV or just starring at the roof. I don't find myself smiling because I am actually happy, I find my smile has just become fake lately. My anxiety has turned into attacks over night, I don't know how to control them. I feel as if my anxiety became a big part to as why our relationship broke up because I would cautions decisions that I would think would make everyone happy but they didn't, someone was always unhappy and I feel like it was always my boyfriend. My anxiety attacks have become more common due to our breakup and some other mental issues have come of it also. I feel he plays with my emotions and this is a big course of my anxiety. I don't have many friends my biggest support group is my family. I came here wanting to find some people that could possibly relate to me or that could chat and help me through this.

Thank you

tates2019

[white knight]

Hi Tates, welcome

Yes, you will text him and go through uncontrollable emotions if you are not doing any other activity to distract you from a huge change in your life- the grief process.

When I left my first wife (2 kids) I stumbled on the fix for that- distraction. I happen to embark on building my own home while working 2 shift work jobs and at times having my kids around, I didnt have time not awake often enough to continue the grief process nor contact my ex.

Essentially to do this you have to have the will power to divide up your mind activity. Eg you could remain in your room and dwell on things then you'll think of a few words that might (you believe) get him back, only to be disappointed and anxious waiting for a good reply, or you could be with friends laughing at least more often than lying on your bed. These are forced choices that will make a difference.

Anxiety is a serious illness that needs intervention on a few levels, a GP visit, meds even short term and relaxation. Here is a thread pertaining to how to overcome it.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/anxiety/anxiety-how-l-eliminated-it#qpS1gXHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

Remember, time is your best healer. A large portion of what you are enduring is normal.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/online-forums/staying-well/the-best-praise-you'll-ever-get#qiHfqnHzvGGEbv8AAOnT_A

I hope that helps.

A rolling stone has no moss.

TonyWK