Anxiety stopping me from leaving the house, some days ...

[krystalramone]

Hello all,

I wanted to reach out and discuss this. I find my anxiety so debilitating that I find it hard on particular days to leave the house. I feel a sense that I don't want to be around people and feel safe/secure in my own home.

I know this is not healthy and have been given some tips from my ongoing support worker. However I wanted some advice from those of you who suffer from this situation/feelings and what you do to overcome them/or help you?

krystalramone

[krystalramone]

Hi fringelily,

I didn't make it to the group my anxiety/depression got the better of me. I was very overwhelmed, but I will try my hardest to go to the next one. As I know it will be a positive step and everyone medical professional I have come in contact with in regards to my MH have advised so.

I just find it hard saying these things out loud, I really do 😞

krystalramone

[fringelily]

Oh bless you krystalramone, I know how you feel 😞 My husband drove me to the first 3 sessions, or I wouldn't have gone.

It is really challenging saying how you are feeling out loud. I let everybody else go first before I felt confident enough to say something. It is really helpful hearing others talk.

[Ggrand]

Hello krystalramone

so sorry you didn't get to your group. Is there someone there at the group maybe the spokesperson that you could explain your anxiety to (easier over the phone for me). and maybe they could pick you up and take you, or meet with you first at you choice of destination ie. home, to gain some confidence.

Maybe try ringing the community nurse or your support worker and have a chat with them not sure but maybe they could go with you for your first visit .

concertrating on deep breathing helps a little as it makes your mind focus on breathing and might eases anxiety.

Kind thoughts

GG

[krystalramone]

Hello runningupthathill,

you mad a point of staying home to recover once making an outing. I often feel this I will be out one day and than the next I feel like I need recovery time. I am introverted by nature however I know my depression feeds into this.

You should be proud of your self, every step is a positive one!

Much love,

krystalramone

[krystalramone]

Hi Paul,

thank you for your kind thoughts! How are you going today? I can relate so well, since I have been meeting with my support worker twice a week I find myself in tears a lot. I guess I have never expressed many emotions or deep traumatic experiences like I have recently. I let everything build up till I guess I hit rock bottom a month ago. I am trying to take each day as it comes but seeking out help as been a big step forward for me.

I felt quite depressed this morning, but after trying to do some self care this afternoon - yoga, eating lunch, meditation and practising guitar I feel a lot better.

Best wishes,

krystalramone

[krystalramone]

Hi fringelily,

I wish I could ask my boyfriend to drive me there, as these groups are at night he doesn't get home in time and I also feel like a burden making him pick me up. The sense of feeling like a burden for me is constant.

I keep reminding myself if I want to get better I need to start doing these things. It can be very hard sometimes.

I hope you're doing well today! x

krystalramone

[krystalramone]

Hello Ggrand,

how are you feeling today? That might be a very good idea, maybe speaking to the organising first might help myself become more comfortable with the idea attending.

I wish the support group was during the day, I do find it even harder to go out at night. It's 7.30-9.30. I realise they do these hours so people can attend around work/study. I think being able to think about it all day made it worse 😞

I feel like my anxiety builds things up and tries to make excuses for not attending. Gah

Much love,

krystalramone

[Ggrand]

Hello Krystalromone,

I'm doing fine, thank you for asking,

I really think ( just my thoughts) that contacting and talking to the organisation first would be a good idea,( kinda break the ice,) being a therapy group for anxiey they should understand how you are feeling and others feeling like yourself have probably rang first. It's worth a try to help you feel more comfortable with going as you said earlier you want to go, you want to get better.

I will agree with you, that thinking about your visit all day will probably build your anxiety up ( it does mine). There are quite a few threads relating to anxiety that I have found very helpful....on the top right hand corner on this page, search anxiety in the little search engine and have a read.

I found that the thing that helps me With a building up of anxiety is when i start thinking about my visit, ( 4 days away) I try to destract my thoughts onto something else, maybe a book,telephone a friend,social media. a nice walk ,meditation, something that you enjoy doing. I was told today. "that the mind can only think of one thing at a time " try distracting your thoughts away from your visit with something you like doing.

Im pleased to read that you want to get better, that's a really great start to healing, Maybe sit down with your boyfriend and talk to him about your concerns and about your feelings of being a burden to him.. He may only be to happy to pick you up after the session as I'm sure he wants you to get well also. Good luck honey.

kind thoughts

GG

[krystalramone]

Hello Ggrand,

thank you for your kind words it does mean a lot 🙂

That's a good idea and all of those ideas are things I like/trying to like to do 😉 I have a support worker I am working with at the moment and finding distractions from my anxiety is something we are working on too. I have to start talking to those who are close to me better or at least asking for help when I need it.

Have a lovely Monday,

krystalramone

[fringelily]

Hi Krystalramone,

I echo what GG said above - talk to your boyfriend about feeling like a burden. I'm absolutely sure he won't see you that way and will want to support you in getting well x