Hi Fizz wizz
Facebook definitely has its pros and cons therefor its important you set up some firm rules for yourself if you do decide to join. The rules may look something like this:
- Only accept or send out friend requests concerning people you know and like, people who are thoughtful. You might only ending up having 2 or 3 good friends on Facebook, which may be enough for you (aka Make it about quality, not quantity)
- Use Facebook to follow pages that are inspirational and uplifting, not stressful
- Disconnect from any people or pages which cause you offense or discomfort (and don't feel guilty about it). For example, you might decide to follow a page which involves a community who fights for the rights of people who are or have been bullied. It may seem inspirational to begin with but over time you notice it is a rather hateful angry place filled with many personal triggers. Unfollow, without any doubt. Being a compassionate sort of gal, I decided to follow (in support) a page which uplifts men who are, themselves, experiencing domestic violence. Whilst there were some guys there reaching out for genuine help and support (my heart goes out to them), this place was more so a vent for women haters. It became quite offensive when it could have been a productive forum to inspire change.
- If you don't want it oozing into other parts of your life, turn off phone and email notifications when it comes to new posts and stuff
Of course, just because everyone else seems to be connected to social media, doesn't mean you have to connect. If you have no valid reason to join don't feel any pressure to do so.
I think the #1 rule when it comes to social media is 'Always remain aware of how you wish to manage it, don't let it manage you and your thoughts/emotions'. It can be a resource for pleasure or a resource for pain. Make sure it is a portal to pleasure, so that logging in is always a pleasure.
Take care of yourself Fizz wizz
