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Anxiety -mind over matter

white knight
Community Champion
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We've heard the saying "mind over matter", that is to be mentally strong enough to endure lifes challenges like abuse, rejection, mental daily challenges and even basic action like going outdoors to shop.

One of the many problems with anxiety, that was highlighted in1987 during my first therapy session was realism. He asked me regularly when I mentioned my thoughts during the week- "is that realistic"? 90% of the time it wasn't hence, an anxious mental state.

Eg I wont park in a one hour zone to enter a newsagents or I might get a parking fine. Unrealistic as I'd only be there 5 minutes.

I wont take a train into the city as there might be a train strike and I'd be stranded.

Getting things into perspective is a key to recovery with anxiety.

What about "matter over mind"?

It is another theory of mine. Many times during my decades of anxiety now largely conquered, I'd question my ability to carry out a basic task like driving to a town I not often visited. Yet when I finally found the courage the task proved easy.

Some of this process involves changing our mind

Google

Beyondblue Topic switching mindsets

Essentially that theme is to allow your physical actions to commence a task BEFORE you think too much about it, knowing that it is my minds anxious makeup that is enabling me to feel I cant do those tasks.

Mind over matter is an impossible thinking process if it is beyond your capability.

"Matter over mind" is more possible by temporarily detaching your over thinking, over analysing mind. A process more likely within your capability. It is a different path to the same objective...to overcome our unrealistic fears that can lead us back towards a normal life.

Freedom from anxiety took me 30 years. Matter over mind had a significant role in that recovery.

TonyWK

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YellowPoppy
Community Member
Hi White Knight,

Thank you for yout insight and for sharing. Every little bit helps.

YellowPoppy

Thankyou yellow poppy

TonyWK

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Tony...

Reading your post I can relate to your thoughts and actions...Not that long ago I couldn’t even walk in to a coffee shop to order a coffee and sit down and have it their...I used to set my alarm hours before I had to leave my home because it took hours of trying to work myself to go to my volunteer job....Now I can go to work most days quite easily by not thinking about it the day before or the morning of going...

At work someone has to go to the bank daily...I always discreetly disappeared when the time came...Once I was the only one in and really didn’t have a choice..it needed doing..having no time to think unrealistically about walking in people traffic with money in my bag that everyone knew about..or that the bank would be held up because I was their...I didnt want to look and sound silly so I just went...Now I go to the bank often and am starting to enjoy that little walk....I still have anxiety about people walking behind me, or maybe someone will talk to me...but it’s much easier then before....

I fully like the idea of asking myself if my thoughts are really realistic....because mostly they are not...but getting out other days of the week and walking is still nearly non existent for me....but in time I will....although now I can get out most Monday’s to Darts with anxiety but once I’m their I’m okay...my anxiety drops a lot...

Thank you for another really good and helpful thread Tony...

Love and warm hugs dear Tony...

Grandy..

CMF
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Thanks Tony.

cmf x