Anxiety

Anxiety response from son when in trouble at school

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Hi, My 11 year old son is typically a “good kid” at home and at school - active in a range of sports, achieving well academically and generally easy to get along with. He has just had his third incident at school this year and has now been suspended ... View more

Hi, My 11 year old son is typically a “good kid” at home and at school - active in a range of sports, achieving well academically and generally easy to get along with. He has just had his third incident at school this year and has now been suspended for two days. background: he is a sport house captain at his school, had to write and application and give a speech in front of peers and get voted in. This was a big deal for him as he gets anxious being the centre of attention. He is very proud of being a house captain. he can be quick to react when frustrated incident 1 at school - playground dispute over cricket rules, physical scuffle amongst a group of boys, warned that he could lose his house captain badge. incident 2 at school - (7 weeks after first incident) bullied by another student about his size (he is small). Punched another student in the arm when she took one of his belongings and refused to return it. He had a complete meltdown and refused to go to the office (was panicked about having his house badge taken away). Ended up on in school suspension for 2 days, missed out on attending swimming carnival. incident 3 at school - (12 weeks after incident 2) has missed 3 days of school due to state level sports carnival. He has been worried about the amount of work and assessment he has to catch up on after being away. Is tired and a bit run down (end of term). Spoke to his teacher Tuesday morning to let her know he was feeling on edge (we have had a number of meetings with her around his anxieties). Spoke to teacher again on Friday morning - more specific about his concerns with assessment tasks. During the day, he called his teacher an idiot when he felt that she wasn’t helping him. Deputy called to room, son apologised to his teacher. Returned to class and kept working (had been kept in both breaks to catch up on work). During second break deputy returned to say son needed to go and work in the office for the afternoon, son refuses to go and goes into meltdown again. Is now suspended for 2 days for not following deputy’s instructions. When I asked why didn’t he just go, he said he thought he would lose his house badge. I am worried about his response when asked to go to the office - it seems like he goes in to “flight, fight or freeze” mode as he says he can’t think, his feelings just take over. I’m looking for stategies to support him when he gets into trouble so that it doesn’t blow up into something bigger than it should be.

Not sure what to do anymore.

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I recently have gone through a lot of anxiety and depression issues, and recently have a lot of trouble with what the internet seems to describe as ‘Harm OCD’. I feel like I’ve lost all motivation, drive, and my anxieties are eating me up because I d... View more

I recently have gone through a lot of anxiety and depression issues, and recently have a lot of trouble with what the internet seems to describe as ‘Harm OCD’. I feel like I’ve lost all motivation, drive, and my anxieties are eating me up because I don’t know what I want to do anymore. I wake up and I’m stressed and go to sleep stressed. Even though I’ve never had anger issues, never hurt anyone, lately I can’t get extremely vivid thoughts of hurting others or myself out of my head and I’ve scared myself into thinking I’m some kind of monster that’s losing my mind. I don’t fear I will hurt anyone but I’m really struggling to find a way to get through all of this, and I honestly feel lost. Does anyone have any advice or experience anything similar? I would love to know how people have dealt with these thoughts, while managing to get their motivation and hope alive again. I’m just scared that this is me now

Anxiety is running my academic career!

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Since finishing school, seven years ago, I tried to study at university. Each time I tried to settle into a new school, my general and social anxiety would become unbearable, I'd try to keep up but I get behind and withdraw. It got to the point where... View more

Since finishing school, seven years ago, I tried to study at university. Each time I tried to settle into a new school, my general and social anxiety would become unbearable, I'd try to keep up but I get behind and withdraw. It got to the point where I couldn't leave the house and ended up studying online, at three different distance education schools. I still haven't finished. I ended up three classes short of graduating. So I gave up last year and the only thing I have to remind me is the HECS debt that highlights how I failed repeatedly at achieving my dreams. Fast-forward to this year, where my boss asked me to undertake a Diploma to further myself in my early childhood career, I agreed and was really excited about it. This year I'm also getting married, buying a house, a couple of months ago my aunt died, my foster brother has been charged with two assaults and my biological brother has distanced himself from our family. I started off strong. I was so proud of myself for doing the first assessment and getting organised. I couldn't do on campus, so I've been working and studying, they end up changing my lecturer and I didn't even know. Then I received feedback for that assessment telling me they wanted more detail and expected a higher standard as its diploma level. It broke something in me and I froze all over again. I tried my best to keep going, but with my Auntie's illness and then death, I just didn't have the energy. The school didn't contact me or provide any information about what else I should be doing. No subject list, assignment deadlines, no nothing. I honestly knew nothing about what I should be doing, I worked on the at-work task book and just kept going. Then the tutor messaged a few days ago and said that she hope I'm well, but they haven't heard from me and I'm in danger of losing my funding. I don't want to repeat old mistakes. I really want to grow. But the pressure and anxiety I feel around studying buries me. I want this lady to believe I can achieve this. I want to change. Fear of failure is destroying me. Please help!

Anxiety & Depression (may trigger anxiety)

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Hi all , i have suffered from depression and anxiety for many years now. I am a very introverted person, personally i refuse to leave the house unless im working or i need groceries. I honestly dont have any friends because i find it easier and i pre... View more

Hi all , i have suffered from depression and anxiety for many years now. I am a very introverted person, personally i refuse to leave the house unless im working or i need groceries. I honestly dont have any friends because i find it easier and i prefer not to have any. I have found new things about myself that have developed over the past few months which i find interesting and wondering if anyone experiences that same thing. So a few months ago i find many many things trigger my anxiety. I will give you examples, So when this trigger first happened i was sitting on my lounge watching a movie and on the corner of my eye i watch my sister spill oil all over the kitchen floor and proceed to mop it up with a DRY MOP. Why? Is exactly what i asked myself. When i saw that my anxiety got instantly triggered, i felt so angry and fustrated. I couldnt breathe , i felt like i was chocking. I had to get up, i stopped what i was doing and deep cleaned the entire house. I wanted to scream and throw things but i felt like i needed to get everything clean before i can relax. I dont have OCD but ever since this day everytime i see my house dirty especially the tiles on the floor it triggers anger and anxiety. another thing that triggers my anxiety is when a person keeps putting stress on me (i dont mean work) mostly family members. A particular family member will stress me out to the point where i will experience panic episodes, whenever i have panic episodes i deal with it myself either i will go to my room or the bathroom and try and breathe. My family doesnt know i suffer from anxiety but they do know i suffer from depression and because of my depression they try to help my it makes it worse. For example my brother will get me to do these daily tasks like read a book and write down what i learnt and that in itself triggers my anxiety and i get so angry, i know they are trying to help but at the same time they make me feel stupid especially the way they talk to me its like they talk slow on purpose and then ask me if i understand what they mean. I find also that when i am really really stressed out , sometimes i am that stressed out to the point i feel calm. Its difficult to explain. I have never posted anything like this anywhere nor spoken about my mental health. Share your story down below i would love to read and reply.

Scared of death/suffering

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I am petrified of dying. At least once a day, I end up thinking about those close to me dying, and whether they will suffer. The thought of my mother, father, siblings dying really terrifies me - It scares me to the point of tears for hours on end. I... View more

I am petrified of dying. At least once a day, I end up thinking about those close to me dying, and whether they will suffer. The thought of my mother, father, siblings dying really terrifies me - It scares me to the point of tears for hours on end. I sometimes feel the urge to check up on my mother, and I worry when she goes quiet. I hate seeing her upset, or unwell. I don't know what I'd do without her, I don't want her to feel pain or suffering. I am scared of myself dying - I worry about what it feels like, when will it happen. I worry so much about leaving people on this earth, and not being able to see them ever again. I understand some of these views are unrealistic, I understand it probably sounds like absolute nonsense - But I need help, I cant accept death and I cry every single day about it. My nan is very sick at the moment - And the issue is I am so scared of losing her, that I seem to be pretending it isn't happening. I cannot fathom the idea of not existing anymore. I cant be there for people, or see them anymore. Please is anyone can share any similar feelings - or offer any support or coping methods it would be really appreicated. I really don't know what else to do anymore and its slowly becoming worse.

Rejected by people in class, don't know how to cope

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I don't have a formal diagnosis but every counsellor I've spoken to recently have suggested social anxiety and I'm waiting on a return call after a Headspace consultation about 3 weeks ago(My mum said they're probably not going to get back to me beca... View more

I don't have a formal diagnosis but every counsellor I've spoken to recently have suggested social anxiety and I'm waiting on a return call after a Headspace consultation about 3 weeks ago(My mum said they're probably not going to get back to me because they won't think I have important enough issues, can anyone with experience with Headspace confirm this?). So I'm doing an intensive 2 week subject at university (I need to do this subject to graduate on time), and today was the first day. It's a very social/discussion based class which I thought would be a good way to push out of my comfort zone and improve since it's hard to get a counsellor help (The university counselor I first saw referred me to Headspace as it was long term stuff). Before the tutorial these two people seated near me were talking about why they were doing this particular subject, so I tried to join the conversation and literally got rejected (I repeated what I thought was said and then asked what they were talking about and basically got shut down and then ignored, then when the tutor got everyone to introduce themself and say why they were doing the subject they literally said exactly what I asked about). Then we were split into groups based on seating arrangements and I feel I tried to contribute but was shut out of the conversation. Then the tutor walked past and asked me the group conclusion which I didn't know and is now going to give me a bad participation mark. Also, all the teaching staff and past reviews mention you makes friends there so I feel there's extra pressure that I know I'm already going to fail at. I absolutely cannot drop this subject as I'm trying to get into different course and just need to finish this (also dropped a subject in the past due to social fears due to a certain person doing it, and I really regretted it later). But now I just feel terrible and unmotivated... I don't know how I'm going to go back into that class after already being rejected and seen as someone who doesn't participate by the tutor. Any suggestions? Would moving seats help? I feel like I can never start/try to join a conversation again. I have no idea what I did wrong.

New mum looking for advice!

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Hi all, I've recently become a mum to a beautiful healthy baby. I have always had anxiety but since having a baby, my anxiety has become alot worse, resulting in panic attacks and isolation. I am constantly in fear and feel like home is the only safe... View more

Hi all, I've recently become a mum to a beautiful healthy baby. I have always had anxiety but since having a baby, my anxiety has become alot worse, resulting in panic attacks and isolation. I am constantly in fear and feel like home is the only safe place for my child. I'm afraid of sickness, injury, car accidents etc. happening if I leave the house. I don't want this to affect my child because I want her to experience life to the fullest but I cannot get out of my own head with these thoughts. I am waiting to see a psychologist but in the mean time, I really need some tips to shake these feelings and some support as I don't have many people I feel I can talk to about this. Thanks for reading!

Needing Guidance.

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I'm a recluse who doesn't want to be a recluse anymore but I don't know how to escape the comfortable box I'm living in. (For reference I've been diagnosed with Aspergers, Anxiety, and Depression). By choice when I was 16/17 I became a shut in. The w... View more

I'm a recluse who doesn't want to be a recluse anymore but I don't know how to escape the comfortable box I'm living in. (For reference I've been diagnosed with Aspergers, Anxiety, and Depression). By choice when I was 16/17 I became a shut in. The world just kept throwing cruel/stressful curve balls at me and I couldn't deal so I hid from everything. I escaped reality by binge-watching every TV series every made. And my use of distraction worked for a few years. Ignorance was bliss. I was content with my lifestyle away from the real world. My only interactions I would have with the real world would be spent with my parents, sibling, or dogs by my side. Slowly but surely, I started noticing how my life and behavior wasn't normal. I actually wasn't content at all, I was struggling to remember if I had experienced any real happiness over the last five years. I also started craving normality ie a job, a social life, a partner, to travel. Unfortunately, me noticing how unhappy I was, meant I could no longer ignore the nagging feeling in the pit of stomach. Which is why I'm asking for help. I'm very lost inside a dark tunnel and I can't find my way out. How do I venture outside? Clearly, my self-esteem is non-existent. My social skills wasn't great to start with and haven't improved. I don't know how to keep a conversation going (I don't really have anything to say/add). I panic alot and can get very irrational and angry out of frustration. Suggestions??

Anxiety and dying

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Hi am rather new to forums. But it suggested to me to read other people's stories instead of googling my anxious symptoms. And here I am. I have had Anxiety for a while now. And was managing it well with the usual ways. But lately it's come back and ... View more

Hi am rather new to forums. But it suggested to me to read other people's stories instead of googling my anxious symptoms. And here I am. I have had Anxiety for a while now. And was managing it well with the usual ways. But lately it's come back and in a massive wave. Everyday I wake up thinking I am going to die. I so over feeling this way. I am going back to my doctor next week.

Severe OCD

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Hello, To give some context, I have suffered from anxiety for many years now, which also gradually grew into OCD, mainly with washing my hands excessively and fear of contamination, however recently it has become very extreme. I find it very difficul... View more

Hello, To give some context, I have suffered from anxiety for many years now, which also gradually grew into OCD, mainly with washing my hands excessively and fear of contamination, however recently it has become very extreme. I find it very difficult to put what I've been feeling into words, but I will try to articulate it as best I can. About a month ago I went out with a few of my friends and I ended up getting relatively intoxicated, I remember it being an enjoyable and quite uneventful night. However, the next day i went home and I started making myself believe that I had done something absolutely horrible, and I gradually made the scenario worse and worse in my head, since then i have been obsessing and convincing myself that I have done the most horrific thing ever imaginable, when I know deep down I haven't and would never do such a thing. I had no real reason to do this/indication that I had done anything, but I think I have associated alcohol with memory loss and I've made myself believe that "well, if i cant remember it, who knows what could of occurred/what I'm capable of". I have been experiencing debilitating guilt constantly ever since then, for something that I know is completely absurd. Prior to this, I had been experiencing pretty much exactly the same thing from another time, convincing myself I had done something horrendous. The thoughts from most recent night have replaced those thoughts with a even more extreme scenario. These thoughts have also made me believe I am contaminated and disgusting, which has caused me to wash my hands a very excessive amount, roughly about an entire container of soap per day (to the point where I am getting cuts/splits on my hands due to how much they are being washed). This has also stopped me from going out and doing things in fear that I will contaminate places or people, and I have pretty much done nothing but sit in my room and wash my hands. I have become extremely depressed and anxious constantly. I have never spoken about my mental health, this is my first time ever talking about my mental health, but i feel it is finally necessary as It has become extremely bad. Although I am sceptical because how will it ever be proven that I didn't do what I'm making myself believe i did? It can never been proven or shown to me with definitive proof that I didn't do it, and I can't imagine I will feel better unless I know for a fact the situation(s) did not occur. Any advice would be appreciated.

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