Anxiety after Grandmothers death.

[that guy]

Hi everyone.

Honestly the past 2 months have literally been the worst of my life.

My grandmother died on the 19th of April. She and myself were very close. It was completely unexpected, even though she had been ill on and off for the past couple of years. My heart dropped like an anvil once i was told. It brought out the worst in people. as my mum and aunt were fighting over her possessions, her neighbors literally stealing her plants and people rummaging through her garbage hoping to scalp something once we were done cleaning her unit.

Its been two months now, and while my mum has been able to move on pretty well, im struggling, Its been like a domino effect, ive been fearing that i'll lose all those that I'm close to. I've been panicking alot more lately and becoming very jumpy. im barely sleeping and for a while, was barely eating. I can't concentrate and even my hobbies have not been helping in distracting me. most of the time these days i feel like i'm going to break down over these fears, and i just do not know what to do.

My last appointment with the psychologist did not help, considering it was a short session as he was late, i actually think it made things worse as so many things went unresolved. I don't know hat to do or how to cope

[Sophie_M]

Hi that guy,

We're so sorry to hear about the passing of your grandmother and how hard it has been for you. It can be so difficult to lose a loved one that has had such an impact on our lives. Grief can indeed affect people in different ways; however, we could only imagine how difficult it must have been for you to witness your mother and aunt to act in the ways that they did. It's unfortunate that your last appointment with your psychologist was not helpful, particularly as they had arrived late to your appointment. If ever you need there are other supports for you.

We'd recommend getting in touch with Griefline - 1300 845 745. GriefLine provides counselling support services free of charge to individuals who are experiencing loss and grief.  

If you would like some help finding mental health support, we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals. 

You are not alone and we are here to support you.
 

[smallwolf]

hi.

there are soooo may things I could reply to in your post! But first, I am sorry to hear about the passing of your grand mother and what you also witnessed. (Sadly it is not that uncommon - I have heard enough stories about relatives fighting over things it is not funny.)

How one person handles grief can be different to another. That does not make your or your mothers experience right or wrong. It just IS. To hear that you are struggling is natural. It is also good to hear you have a psychologist you can talk to as well. It is truly a pity you had a shortened session and could not cover everything you wanted. (On that point, I have also written stuff down to hand over to my psychologist to read. At least you can get it all out then, at least in written form.

Can I ask if you journal much? Again it is something I do ... partly for myself to remember what I have reacted to in the last weeks and then perhaps to reframe thoughts. And as a reminder for when I chat with my psychologist. It also sort of started at the low point in my life. Then ... it was a gratitude journal - finding things to be thankful for. And writing down something to look forward to. I had to google ideas here as when I thought about it there was nothing to write down. Over time, things improved. Slowly.

Hope you are doing OK? Listening to you,

Tim