Why do I think like this ?

[Countrymusicgirl]

So when people ask me why I'm depressed why I look sad why I'm tired etc . Sometimes I tell them and other times I don't. What I'm hiding is something not many people can answer , I'm 24 and me and my partner are taking care of my mother. My partner does the heavy stuff and her full time career and I work full time to provide the money. 

But a question always go through mind 'why do I have to look after someone who wasn't there for me when I needed them the most?

And a lot of things go through my head. When can I study, when can me and my partner have a proper relationship. 

Why am I like this and why am I thinking this ? is it because I'm still young ?

bobbie 🙂

[white knight]

Hi CMG,

Your process of thinking isn't abnormal. You are questioning yourself, your life and asking WHY?

This is very normal.

Do you get respite? if not then apply for it.

Can your mum go into a care facility? I'm sorry but info provided is limited so please don't take offence if I'm naïve.

What I can say is that you both are amazing.

Also life isn't easy for some. Most of us have a picture of ourselves in an ideal lifestyle and future. It never works out that way.

Be proud, work through ideas to lessen your workloads and seek alternative care if available and respite.

One day long from now you'll reflect and say quietly to yourself..."so glad I did that for her"...

Tony WK

[Countrymusicgirl]

Well we don't have respite care. the thing is that she needs to get both hips and both knees replace. And is sight my overweight and if we had some respite care they won't do it because of her weight issue also we looked into it and they said someone can come but she is in a wheelchair if she needs to go to the toilet etc they won't help.

im hoping one day I can look back and go I'm glad I did it, but it is ruining my relationship with my partner and relationship with my mum 

 bobbie 

[white knight]

Hi CMG

If you don't mind, you need to change the way you think.

Positive thinking isn't natural for most of us, it needs to be taught. I was 27yo when I change to being a positive person.

Positivity doesn't mean you slug away battling the daily routine. It means you never give up on finding solutions to help you through the problems you have. It means supporting your partner and your positivity rubbing off onto him.

Hang in there, keep searching for answers. Praise your partner and develop a never give up attitude. Attend seminars on motivation etc.

Google- "Topic: 30 minutes can change your life- beyondblue"

"Topic: being positive, what's the secret?- beyondblue"

"Topic: when all is lost what can you do- be radical- beyondblue"

I really hope you enjoy the reading.

Tony WK