school work and friendships

[em_7500]

hi everypne im back

head is a mess right now so i’ll write this post as clearly as i can

quarantine has really messed up everything but mainly my work ethic n stuff so basically i have stacks and stacks of overdue work. i have to complete everything by the holidays becuase im definitely going to fail all of my classes i i dont and also move schoosl. i keep getting told how capable and smart i am and multiple family members have expressed how disappointed they are and others have said how theiyre counting on me. the constant emails from teachers are really overwhelming and i just dont know what to do

also i just have a feeling some of my friends dont like me. theyve been talking to me less and teasing me about having to move wchools and its stressing me out, ive told them to stop and i know theyre just joking and they dont intend to be rude or ehatever but it hurts. my closest friend has also been kinda aggressjve towards me. only 2 of these friends have actually said that they dont want me to move but the others have just continued teasing me and it makes me feel unwanted

i do nothing but sit on my phone waiting for a text or just on tiktok. my only motivation is that ill actually be let out of the house if i finish my homework but even that doesnt seem to do it. ijust want to sleep. i feel useless

i know the homework part is all my fault but i just need help on where to go from here.

thanks for reading

[Sophie_M]

Hi em_7500,

Welcome back! We're sorry to hear that you're feeling a bit messy at the moment. Everything you're dealing with does sound very overwhelming. We empathise with how difficult this time must have been with all of the changes, and now to move schools. Do you think it might help if you can reach out to some of your teachers to let them know how you're feeling and ask for some extra help? 

It sounds like you're in a really tough situation and if you think it might help to talk it out whenever you're feeling overwhelmed, Kids Helpline counsellors can be contacted 24/7 via telephone and also via webchat- https://kidshelpline.com.au/ 

If you feel it might be useful, we'd encourage you to visit our Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service. The website will be regularly updated with information, advice and strategies to help you manage your wellbeing and mental health during this time.

Thanks again for reaching out. We hope that you find some comfort here in the words of wisdom and kindness that our community can offer.

 

[Croix]

Dear em_7500~

It's been a few days since Sophie_M spoke with you and I was wondering how you are going. From the sound if it you were having a pretty hard time on two fronts.

Your friends may well not know how to take it that you are leaving them and fall back on teasing and so on as a result. This may particularly apply to those closest to you at school who I am sure would feel they are going to miss you. That can lead to them asking you to stay -though they know you don't have that much control over that now, or being hurt and acting cold as a result.

I guess all you can do is continue to treat them normally and say you will miss them, which I'd be certain is true.

The other problem is not so simple. True isolation and school-work at home may have brought things to a head, however I have the feeling htere may be more to it than that.

You mentioned that you had made a big mistake at the start of last year and it has been preying on your mind ever since, with yelling at yourself about being useless and ruining everything, and crying and crying.

You were feeling that way 8 months ago when you spoke to Sarah (Aaronsis) here and by the sound of it are no better.

At the same time you were having difficulties keepng up with your schoolwork and falling down on other people's high expectations as well as being told you are disappointing.

Not a good life at all. The trouble is partly you don't realise this is not the way to be, as you have nothing to compare it to.

I would suggest that now is the time to seek help. That lack of motivation, and not liking yourself are two big indicators you need to talk with peple that are used to these sorts of feelings and can help you deal with them. It's not really abut homework, it's about how miserable and un-motivated you feel.

If there someone you can go to and explain how things have been for you for so long, perhaps a councilor or a teacher you like? Once things are understood by professionals then matters can be improved -a lot.

Talking/chatting on the Kids Help Line is the way a lot of kids go. They will be able to give you good advice as they will have met this situation many times before

A lot of how you feel I have felt too and I improved only after I'd got medical help, and I suspect that you may need it to

It can make such a change with motivation and enjoyment and feeling good about yourself as time goes on.

Do you think there is someone you would be willing to talk to?

Croix