Really thinking about it..

[Collin_ab]

Okay about two weeks ago on Sunday my girlfriend of almost two years changed her relationship status on Facebook to single and I didn't even get anything from her..I as anyone would got a little upset but I didn't like yell or anything I don't ever yell..She says she just doesn't wanna be in this relationship anymore but then I found that she was on a dating website for about two months before she dumped me...I just felt like crap the second I found that out..then my car stops working out of no where..then my aunt has a heart attack...I've already had one aunt pass away...I don't know if I could handle another one..but back to the girl..She said there might be a chance of us being back together and everyone I talk to says she is just awful but I love her..We had planned on getting married...so if the opportunity comes I would probably get back together with her..but I am still talking to her and tonight she told me she likes this guy and I just...my heart felt like it's gonna just stop...I am having thoughts of suicide...I can't take her liking someone...I know that sounds selfish...I would just like some help...

[Vegetarian Marshmallow]

It sounds like she's one of those people who just keeps someone around until another they like better comes along.  Don't take it personally; everyone you talk to is probably right about her being just awful.  You dodged a bullet.  Imagine she pulled this crap *after* the wedding.  Disaster!  Outrage!  Famine!

I think you should stop talking to her, because you'll just be torturing yourself.  Hang out with your friends, keep busy with work and hobbies, maybe have rebound flings - all the usual breakup things people do.

There are other ... cats in the ... junkyard.  I don't know.  I'm spouting so many cliches here, but the reason cliches get to become cliches is that they're true.

[Vegetarian Marshmallow]

You can love someone and still know they're not right for you.. or even a decent human being.  Murderers' mothers still love them.

[geoff]

dear Collin, there's no easy way to forget a relationship, especially when you love her, but I not sure that this is reciprocated.

I can't suggest to you what I feel, but if this was me I would just drop her as she seems to be after anybody, and she will go from one relationship to another, and breaking a lot of guys hearts, just like has with you.

You can tell about her sincerity to you by telling people on Facebook that you yell, plus that she didn't end this by telling you, has she could only do this in an inappropriate way.

I know this feeling as it's devastating, as it happened to me when my wife and I got divorced, and then she moved in with a chap, and how soul destroying this was, to even think of any attachment horrified me, but I know that my two sons despise him and won't have any contact with him. Geoff.

[mr_confused]

HI Collin,your so lucky,i mean not going down the marriage path,as for facebook my ex is on it constant,new photos of herself,it does get to you believe me,just block her and ignore it or it will tear you up.its clear that this girl was not the rite one,she mite have had underlining issues which would only surface later on,you saved urself from that.if only i could have foreseen wat would become of my marriage of 17yrs,i would have baled before it started.best of luck