Hi zoeoe
Seeing we all have 'graph' moments in life, where we innocently slip up here and there, I'll give you an interesting and productive acronym to ponder: Generate Real And Productive Highs, in order to shift focus. It's strange when you think about it but this is a path parents typically take when we're very small. When we're small and our focus is stuck on what's upsetting us, we can go into meltdown mode. A wise parent comes along with the aim of shifting our attention to something that gives us a high, such as the promise of a trip to the park or perhaps the possibility of going to get an ice-cream. Of course, those sorts of things don't really cut it when we're older and we need our focus shifted. When we're older, we perhaps need something a little more intense than parks and ice-creams.
zoeoe, can you think of things that can have you generate real and productive highs in life? Do you have an interest in music, art, nature, sport/exercise, being of service/help to others etc? Personally, I find myself most satisfied and distracted (from the dramas in my life) when I turn to nature. To date, my favourite walks have been with friends within the beauty of The Dandenong Ranges. I remember how beautiful the world really is when I'm there. There is where I generate the most real and productive highs. It becomes about disconnecting from stress and expectation and reconnecting with what's real.
With our reality being based somewhat on our perception, I hope you are able to shift your reality to resemble the truth: Within moments when we have done our best, there will be opportunity to discover room for further growth. We are forever growing; it is within our nature. In the process, we cannot afford to be too hard on our self.
Take care
