I can't love anythink

[john_titor]

So yah ive got anxiety and depression and for a long time now i haven't rely felt anything for anyone since i was young. I still have friends and a girlfriend plus siblings but for some reson i dont feel anything for any of them. It's hard because i want to but it's just not there

[PamelaR]

Hello John

You sound like you are reaching out for help to understand yourself. Is this right? It's good you've found the Beyond Blue (BB) forums. Welcome! You'll find the people here are friendly, caring, supportive and respect individual's privacy.

Sometimes, anxiety and depression can put you in a space where you tune out to the rest of the world. It can leave you feeling like you have a dark cloud hanging over you. Not a good place to be.

Are you currently seeing a GP or therapist for your anxiety and depression? If not, I'd suggest you go and talk with them about how you're feeling / or not feeling.

Also, you might like to do a google search for

• I don't feel anything - Beyond Blue

Are you going to school, or working? Do you have any interests, hobbies or sporting activities?

Let us know how you get on at the GP.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[john_titor]

Its not like a cloud more like a pit. I do see a therapist to help with my anxiety and depression but this feeling of nothing is just not right. I know my girlfriend loves me and i feel like i should tell her that i can't feel but don't know how to say it .My therapist says i should I should just tell her but i dont know how to say it so she can under stand.

[PamelaR]

Have you talked about the feeling of 'nothing' with your therapist?

Does your girlfriend know you have anxiety and depression? Do you talk about it with her?

What is it you think your gf won't understand?

[EllieM]

Hey John.

Firsty, you started by saying that you have anxiety and depression. Please don’t make the mistake of labelling yourself with these things. Anxiety and depression are not you and you need to remember that. Don’t ever let those labels hold you back.

Something you need to remember is that what you focus on grows. If you focus on the fact that you have anxiety and depression and think that there’s something wrong with you because you’re numb, that is what will grow. Focus on the light at the end of the tunnel. Get a goal. Anything: from becoming a famous actor to acing your HSC to getting a B+ on your maths test. Goals are extremely important. Something that makes you happy to think about so that when you are feeling down you can remind yourself that you are going to achieve your dreams and push through. When you focus on the positives, the positives will grow.

As for the “not feeling anything” issue, do not panic. I had exactly the same thing, so did many of my friends. Have you ever heard the song “comfortably numb” by... I forgot who sorry. But my point is, sometimes it’s too much to feel your emotions so your mind blocks them out for a while. When you’re ready, they will come back. Just be patient and understanding with yourself. And love yourself. Because you are unique and you have the potential to do great things John. Try smiling more, meditating (by this I mean just breathing deeply sitting at the beach or something), eat healthily (an egg veggies every day) and get at least 8 hours sleep. These things are extremely important. Hope this helps.