Don't like spending time with family.

[KingKong]

Hello, I'm new 🙂

I'm 16, male.

This is my first post, so I'll try to keep it short. For a while now, I've felt like the odd one out in my family. Now, i know there's always that /one/ person who is typically different (which isn't necessarily a bad thing 😛 ), but I've come to realise that i don't very much like spending time with them (ESPECIALLY at home). 

You could say that it's just a usual teenage thing, but i feel as though it's something a little more than that. Spending time with my mum is uncomfortable, especially when we're alone, and i also feel uncomfortable around my twin sister. I have a brother, though he is quite young. Time with him is OK. 

The thought of this makes me feel wierd, and to a lesser extent, disgusted with myself. I would much rather play computer games than watch TV with the family (and FIY, i do not have an addiction to games xd ). 

Affection from my mum - from anyone related to me - makes me annoyed, uncomfortable, etc. 

It would be worth noting that i do not have a dad. Anyone know if this is 'normal'?

If not, should i be concerned-ish? 😞

[geoff]

dear KingKong, hi, and thanks for posting your comment.

There are many questions which I could ask you, but I won't at the moment, but do they reject you or is you don't want to be with them.

I had heard of twins not communicating but it's very rare, as I have a fraternal twin and we talk every week, but that doesn't mean you should, and there is no reason why you should, you have to have a connection between the both of you.

I wonder as a child whether your family picked on you for some reason and now it's still there, making you feel uncomfortable being with them.

It's an interesting post so I hope that you can get back to us. Geoff.

[KingKong]

Hello Geoff, thank you so much for replying.

My family is great, and apart from the odd banter, they have never picked on me. They do not reject me whatsoever

Again, i do feel very different, and they themselves also think I'm different. Not in a bad way or course, but there's no denying it. I guess i just feel awkward/uncomfortable around them.

Maybe it really is just a teenage thing, or maybe this is something totally un related to depression/anxiety - i just don't know :'(

 Again thank you replying 🙂

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi KingKong,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out.

It's hard to know what's 'normal' nowadays but what you've said doesn't sound out of the ordinary at all.  When you are hanging out with your mum are you just wanting to play games?  Because that is totally okay and cool (and normal!).

If you're worried about it, maybe try and work out what exactly makes you uncomfortable - is it because they ask you annoying questions about your day, or too much hugging? Sometimes when we pinpoint it it makes it a bit easier.  You might even want to consider hanging out with your mum for short spurts (5 minutes) or so, just so that you are more in control of how it feels and then can increase the time as you feel more comfortable.

Hope this helps,