Hi, welcome
Well, lots to admire about you PG. I've suffered burnout many years ago with my first wife, a stay at home mum that was really lazy, me working 12 hour shifts plus two part time businesses all came crashing down after 11 years... led to a suicide attempt and marriage break up.
Not saying it cant be done but a solid routine, delegating chores for your older kids and hubby you'll give yourself a good chance.
Holidays- mandatory to give yourself a break. Do you have a caravan? Tents?. In the caravanning world we have wikicamps a one off payment online around $10 and it gives you all the free camping sites around Oz with details eg pets allowed, close to the road, public toilets, bbq etc. Well worth it. I mention this as its good chill out time and relaxing with kids loving exploring etc.
Finally, your part time job - you might have to be diligent in terms of availability. Recognising burn out of fatigue is paramount. Drop a shift now and then or go casual gives you the freedom of balancing your mental health. All the things you mentioned thats happening in your life are all important and necessary but sadly they still need to be prioritised when getting low. You're also caring for hubby on top of that.
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/holidays/td-p/275239
https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/burnout-the-turtle-and-the-hare/td-p/178471
Repost anytime and thanks for being here
TonyWK
